I get mad about my fiance watching p*rn because:
1. He turns me down when I come onto him, so that he can watch p*rn.
2. He hides it from me. Who the hell wants to be lied to?
3. He won't let me watch it with him (I've asked).
4. He claims it's normal and natural for a guy to do, yet acts as though my jealousy is NOT normal or natural.
5. Popular culture claims that male sex drive is higher than female's: in my case, that's not true. I want sex several times a day, and I'm lucky if I get it once a week. (Gentlemen: try helping your girl orgasm, that might increase her sex drive. You'd be surprised how many girls have never had one with a guy). So why the hell would I want out limited time together to be further shortened by his once-a-day p*rn use?
6. He tends to be more selfish in bed after he's watched p*rn. He goes two minutes tops, long enough to get himself off; I can't remember the last time he ate me out or helped me orgasm. I've been giving him head every time from Day One.
7. I feel insecure because he will only initiate it with me after he's watched p*rn, and only has me in positions where my back is to him. It makes me feel like he's imagining them instead of me.
8. He tells me glowing stories about other girls he's had sex with (before we met), but he never talks about our times.
9. When I ask him what I can do better in bed, he replies 'nothing'. When I ask him to tell me about any fantasies he has, he won't. The only time he said anything was, 'I like it when the girls (in p*rns) have French tips.' I tried to paint my own; since we have an infant, I can't have my nails too long or sharp. He barely commented, just said 'yeah' when he saw them. Hey, at least I tried.
10. HELLLOOOO! He's staring at, masturbating to, and orgasming to other naked women! He's staring at another woman's naked breasts, vagina, aroused face - and not mine!
11. He goes and watches his p*rn, hides it from me, comments on other women he sees or used to have sex with, and chats up former lovers - but according to him, I'm not allowed to be nice to other men, talk to ex lovers, or use my vibrator.
Look... if he told me how hot I am, if he said he couldn't wait to be in bed with me, if he said he was taken with me, if he said things and showed me things to make me feel that he's turned on by me, and not just using me to finish what p*rn started ...I might feel differently. If he weren't hiding it from me (trust issues), I might feel differently. If he weren't dismissive of my feelings, if he were willing to work on things with me, I might feel differently. But that's not how things are. My boyfriend wants and lusts after other women sexually. Not me. Not only is that painful ...it's also a turn-off.
Leave him... now. He's very insecure.
hmmmmm...well I don t see anything wrong with it mainly because I watch it alot. I like watching and learning new things to keep my boyfriend and I relationshiip interesting. I probably watch more porn than my guy. Also in between relationships when I am not getting any I watch it to help satisfy me. yes, I masturbate. Its better than sleeping around. I have a high sex drive so if I am not with anyone I have to control myself by masturbating. You may criticize me but I am christian , I go to church every sunday and still masturbate myself to sleep. Why? because I like sex and there is nothing wrong iwth that. When I am in a relationship I like to have a good sex life. Sex gets boring if ou don't spice it up a lil. I am not overly religious, as you see I am engagin in premarital sex, but I still believe in a higher being. lol
I mean I have fantasies just like most of the guyss watching the porn so it really doesn't bother me. those people are not people you will actually meet and engage in sex with. it s like fantasizing about a movie star. Its innoscent. However, if you have a partner and youprefer watching porn than interacting with them, that could be a major problem, and you may need counseling.
I am not the type of girl to do crazy stuff life bringing another woman into my bed becasue that is just asking for problems. A fantasy is a fantasy. If brought to life there is not tellingwhat may happen because you can't control other peole's emotions, or actions.
Instead of scolding your guy for watching and admiring the things going on , how bout try out some fo the moves, it can improve your sex life. Both men and women cheat in response to a relationship becoming boring. Not saying, that porn should run your life, but fullfilling little fantasies with yokur mates is fun, and only brings you closer. I am talking bout innoscent fantasies like costumes and different moves, not any other people in your bedroom lol
I believe that some girls are overly obsessed with being the good girl. Be the good girl in the streets but the freak in the sheets with your guy. No one likes either a man or woman who is reluctant to try new things in bed. Its just boring. If you are a couple your suppose to have fun.
When I get married, we will definitely have a stripper pole in our bedroom.......and there is nothing wrong with that. I am dentist by day, freak by night for my husband. Nothing wrong wit wanting to please your guy
I think I am the only chick on here that really likes watching porn............:( I feel like a weirdo........NOT lol
Lol they have portable ones you know? you can take them apart when your done lol
Christian by name but not by deed--what good is that?
Does the bible really condemn porn and masturbation........oh welll, time to find a new religious I guess, because I don't think I can stop masturbating.
God certainly does condemn premarital sex, or any sex outside of marriage, and He commands chastity--but as a Christian you already know that. Good luck finding a religion that is worth its salt that does not teach those principles. If you are sincere then it's time to move past just being a member of a Christian denomination to being a disciple of Jesus in name and everday action. You can't love God and mammon both, you have to choose.
May the one who has NEVER sinned be the one to cast the first stone
I don't get it I like watching porn but I'm sorry I let my boyfriend watch the shit
I'd like to think I'm fairly open minded- but even I disagree with 90% of men who watch porn. I've taken classes on human sexuality and relationships, and even my professor said that porn can lead to multiple issues. While it can be a fabulous tool for couples to view together (as a mood creator), it is a huge stumbling ground for single men, and is also found to increase aggressive attitudes. A lot of male-directed porn portrays female characters enjoying the over aggressive acts, and putting up with forceful behavior. Scientists have found that rapists are often regular porn watchers- it creates a distorted sense of what women enjoy in bed, and makes us out to be sexual objects- just a set of breasts and a vagina...
However, female porn directors spend time developing the characters, and create an intimate environment showing what women actually enjoy- I think if this type of porn was the more popular choice,many women would not have such a problem.
Men see these acts and may forget that it's *NOT* reality, then try to use it in the bedroom, rely on the videos to provide sexual satisfaction... or worse, think that any woman walking down the street wants to be approached like a sexual object. It all boils down to RESPECT... something that the young 20's are forgetting.
Excellent reply... made me think :) I'd give you best answer only its not my question lol
Female directed porn markets to women. Guys would think it's boring and goto something with more action. Instead of tackling the problem with porn, maybe society should ease up off nudity. European countries (like Germany) teach their children about sex, nudity, etc. openly. The result is lower teen pregnancy, lower sexual crimes, and guys don't get excited by the flash of nipple. Was a nudist for 8 years, art student for 4, watched lots of porn and turned out just fine.
I agree with you KERMIT, the U.S. should take cues from other countries on health and sexuality... I think it would help immensely. But unfortunately, our country has a lot of problems with addiction and recognizing our addictions. We have the highest age requirement for alcohol, yet we also have the highest rates of alcohol abuse. We have the highest divorce rates, and the list goes on. We have acclimated to an "instant gratification" era, and our problem begins here.
Anything you say about porn, you can say about sports, and it's still pointless psychobabble. We like stuff, we watch it, and we get on with our adult lives, and we do it without complaining to everyone or coming up with ways to hate humanity. Rapists watch porn like everybody else, what a surprise. Scientists will soon discover that lab coats make you smarter. Porn doesn't twist people into thinking women have no emotions, only a stupid person could do that to him or herself.
Maxfield, have you ever been objectified as a sexual object? Have women harrased you while just trying to have a nice evening out with your guy friends? I dress respectfully, and still manage to have disgusting guys interrupt my evening to talk about "what they'd like to do to me" or my friends, and expect me NOT to slap them? Are you telling me this is acceptable behavior, and pornography would not encourage their actions at all? Doubtful. Women struggle daily with being viewed as equals to men
I work as a nurse in a forensic psychiatry ward. I see some sexual predators (to be honest, mostly paedophiles) but the occasional antisocial personality disorder ('psychopath').
The problem with a LOT of studies RE porn watching I've seen is this; They ask "Do you watch porn" to a group of rapists, and they say "yes", then make claims from that data. A lot of the studies I've read negate a control group. They tend to not ask 'normal' guys the same question. Could be true, but neds better study
Oooook...you obviously don't think much do you?!?
Well...let's see...
Firstly, because YOU'RE THERE! Aren't you supposed to be enough for the man?!?
Secondly, if he's having sex with you...then maybe he's thinking about what he saw earlier and perhaps he's even imagining that porn actress instead of you!
Thirdly, maybe, if you were hot enough he wouldn't need to look at porn, only YOU would be enough to turn him on!
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There are a million other reasons...but this is kind of a dumb question, so...
Right on girly. thumbs up
Hahaha xD
You understood me wrong!
I meant that the girl might think she's not 'hot' enough if he's compelled to watch porn!
Well for those of us females who have no problem with it, we know that we are enough for the man. We also understand that men are visiual creatures and are sexually turned on by watching sexual things. We know that we are hot but just like some chicks still drool over celebrities like Christain Bale or Taye Diggs but LOVE their men, we accept that men can do the same.
Imo..that's kinda pathetic....
I think this is the perfectly wrong answer to this question.
Responding, in order:
Because my girlfriend is near me, doesn't mean something else can't turn me on. No one is ever going to be the only person that turns on their lover. That's impossible. Imagining someone else while making love is more fantasy than insult. Being super hot doesn't matter, because visual beauty is like food, you need variety or you go insane. Everything isn't about you, looking at porn isn't a personal insult.
You see...that's how men think, but we think differently!
Ad least some of us, who have standards and morals....
This is MY personal opinion on the matter. Not fact, but opinion. It seems as though a few of the people here got a bit off track from your question.
From a male (MY) perspective, women can become jealous or feel inadequate when it comes to their guy, or guys in general watching porn. Some women find it degrading what the pornstars are willing to do. Some people are offended that an act such as sex is shared with the world, and that some have made a career out of it. Others perhaps feel that their boyfriend/spouse/whomever will fantasize about these women with large breasts and perfect bodies, rather than them. I suppose there are even some women who feel "why isn't he having sex with me? Instead he's masturbating to that!".
The thing to understand here is how men work. First and foremost, men are horny. That's biology. We have the desire to breed, and breed, and breed, etc. So the reasons for masturbation/usage of porn can vary from person to person. Some people have high sex drives that require stimulation more than others. This can cause issues if the male is asking the female to have sex all the time. I mean not everyone wants to mess around 24/7. Other times it's just a personal experience. Like taking a walk alone. It gives some men time to be themselves and not have to worry about pleasing anyone else. And sometimes it's nice to do a little something for yourself, and get some quality alone time. Other times, it's to relieve stress or perhaps he's just bored (better playing with himself than another girl).
Now some men differ, but from what I know from myself, and from what other men have told me; the girl in the porno sometimes doesn't even matter. Sometimes it's just watching the act that arouses us, and sometimes it's just appreciating another human being - in this case, a naked one. Like a painting for example. If you really like it, wouldn't you spend some time appreciating it? (Though, don't masturbate in an art gallery, it's a good way to get kicked out :P)
Overall though, women, you should not be discouraged or offended that your man is looking at porn. Remember, he chose you, not the girl in the video. Porn is porn because it's a fantasy. And as long as it's used in moderation, like any good thing, there shouldn't be anything to worry about. Hell, use the time he's pleasuring himself to read a book or something. Maybe even look into some porn yourself! Figuring out your own body is a good way to expand your sexual horizons. And I'm sure with all the stress and worries that you women have, taking the edge off might be a good thing.
"Remember, he chose you, not the girl in the video."
I'm sure many men would choose the porn star rather than their spouse/girlfriend/lover if they had that option lol.
Awesome post. More or less what I think too.
It isn't a problem. I don't understand either.
I think it has to do with how parents tell us that porn us super bad, and religion tells us that its a sin. But honestly, why can't we watch it? Why can't we watch humans mating? We don't fall inlove with the actors if that's what girls are worried about and we actually learn a thing or two!
there's a guy on here that will probably tall us some BS about pleasure zones in our brain, so brace yourself when he comes. He's a Frequent poster, you'll see what I mean, I'll point him out if it happens. lol
But yeah, Do YOU like porn?
Actually it doesn't state an opinion as it isn't a developed thought. Speaking of which, we haven't heard about yours :P
@freddy: lol I don't think we really learn much from porn, it's fake xD
I rated you up haha
I guess guess some people just have low tolerance for an intellectual discussion based on empirical scientific evidence.
Yes, I am the one who would actually prefer a discussion based on scientific evidence--so sue me.
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Women are jealous and possessive, and feel like they should have all of the man's attention.
But think about it this way: You go to an art gallery and admire all the paintings, find one you really like. Each time you look at it you are reminded how much you love the painting. You decide to bu it and take it home so you can see it whenever you want, since it's your favorite painting. After this ill you stop going to galleries? No, you'll go, you'll look at other paintings, appreciate them, admire them, but at the end of the day you'll go home and see your painting at home, and will remember all over again why you picked it out, that it's your favorite.
Men will always look at other women, admire them, but that doesn't mean he loves the woman he's chosen to take home any less.
Using the same analogy, porn is like looking at a far-distant museum with exotic art in it. It's new and exotic, but it's so gaudy and strange, you could never dream of having one of your own, that would be silly.
Men want to look at porn, and admire the over-the-top looks of porn stars, but they'd never really want to date one, and would certainly never think of any sort of lasting relationship with one. Porn is fiction just like any other, and most guys understand that.
But that damn picture does not mind if you look at the other pic.But that girl who loves you and gives you everything does and it hurt her?? Why can't you look at her like at an alive someone with feelings,not just a creature for sex. (im not talkin about youm,im just picturing ur exemple)
Agreed with you katigal
BOOOO bad example lol
It's like this: We look at other women with lust, but don't act on it (or if they do then you walk out), but we look at you (or the 'one') with love + lust. All the other women could never fill in the space that you provide for him, but its still not going to make him not look at other women in a sexual way. All in all the best thing to do is talk about it and try to come to a compromise on it, like watch it with him or something. There's hardly a guy out there who'd object to that.
Not the greatest example, but on the other hand, if a guy told me he thinks I'm a work of art, I have to say I wouldn't mind ;)
It's pretty evident that most of these females on the comment feed providing negative feedback on this issue probably had some bad relationships.
If your a single male, fine watch it. No one is going to force you not to. No one is going to preach to you that it's wrong or sinful. Or that it's almost like a parasite, addictive and sometimes can conflict with your daily life schedule in harmful ways. Fine, do what you will. It's a free world and no one should tell you what to do or not do in your personal decisions.
But here's what I don't get. If you have a wife or girlfriend. Why do it? How do you think it makes them feel? What if your own wife or girlfriend masturbated to other men, simply because you'll be away for the weekend? Or because your visiting your parents? Or does social impact tell you that it's "okay" to watch porn if your girlfriend or wife is unable to satisfy your needs for the night? Now before anyone says, I'm being unfair or too one sided. Consider that the majority of men who do watch porn and have girlfriends or wives, they mostly do this behind their backs until caught. So there is some initial guilt, a feeling that yes, what your doing is disrespectful to your wife/girlfriend. Either way, I'd recommend talking to them and finding out how it makes them feel. If she lets you and gives you permission then go ahead.
At least there are some men like you(:
If only other men could see it like this! Thanks Tad :) Very well said.
Hey Tad,
Although I basically agree with you, I'd like to come back on the guilt - part. Since all of us were told it is bad, masturbation was conditioned to be hidden. The *real* problem is that - although we all would love to be able to, we have still so many problems sharing our 100% innermost to ANYone (hence the existance of this site). Masturbation is not about the partner in itself, it's about the difficulty, fear of exposing ourselves 100% to another. but ye that is exactly what hurts
I think its weak to ask for "permission" from your wife or girlfriend, as if they were your mother.
Best keep your integrity and not do it, or do it, and be a man about it. But, yeah, I agree with that guy up there. Porn is the devils work
Finally! I find men who agree with us females!
Good points but still wrong IMO. If my wife wanted to get off on the thoughts of some fantasies other than me, I wouldn't feel bad, I'd feel like I married a human being. I'm not Brad Pitt, and she's not Jennifer Conolly. Humans are built with basically infinite desires and that will never mean that we still can't enjoy each other. Also, porn isn't even touching, it's more like looking at a sizzling steak instead of cheating your girlfriend.
I agree - It's not as much about the porn as it is about sharing an emotion or intimacy. Some girls (and guys!) even get mad just when the partner is chatting.
In a relationship you're supposed to tell/share everything to one another. Sex is about sharing (primitive) feelings. I believe some girls feel left out this sharing process when her guy is watching porn - after all, he's not spending time with her.
Sporadical porn watchers are no threat to a relationship - it could simply come from a curiosity that in turn comes from a taboo-originated mentality: "it's bad, let's check it out".
We all masturbate, even before internet-porn - it's in our nature (and I heard it's even healthy :) ). The girl in the clip has no meaning for the guy at that moment and it has nothing to do with comparing to his girlfriend - so there's no threat. I'd be more worried about all the commercial babes creating a "degrading" view on women..and pushing a perfect look in guys' heads.
On the other hand, porn addicted enjoy the "facelessness", the anonymity; it's for them just a set of breasts+vagina and is for those people very degrading - as with all addictions, it's unhealthy. It is addictive to those with no spine, like with any other addiction :/
If you catch your guy, don't get mad or feel less wanted or threatened, but let him know you prefer him to share that with you a bit more in advance :)
To understand this, you have to look at what norms are actually in place in today's society. It doesn't tolerate polygamy, and the fact that being in a relationship and wanting to watch other women do intimate things, can induce a feeling of disloyalty. Also take into account the fact that it gives pleasure, sexually on top of that.
Sexuality is still somewhat a taboo topic. Just think about the sexual education in the USA, it mostly advocates abstinence. No one really talks about it, we don't have a lot of Sue Johanson type characters to show us the way either. This makes sexuality a topic that people tend to stay away from.
Pornography almost always serves as a visual "catalyst" for masturbation. It relates with what I said in my previous paragraph about sexuality being taboo. Masturbation is typically viewed as something negative, depending on what influences you. For example, religion considers it a sin, most people think it morally wrong, you get the picture.
Here's a drawing to summarize my last thoughtsl:
Taboo Sexuality --> Negative view on masturbation --> Pornography is bad
You'd feel comfortable to openly state that you masturbate? Just think about all the jokes about masturbation, responses like "because you touch yourself at night" appear because of a negative perspective.
The most important period of learning is in the early stages of life, so it's not surprising that sexuality still is in the shadows, so to speak. When I say sexuality, I don't just mean "Yo, I got laid last night", it's more complex, I'm talking about anything sexually related, like masturb.
You have to understand how the majority of women think. When you are watching are you looking at the porn stars tight ass? Huge boobs? Her face and eyes as you are enjoying sex along with her? You are in essence being intimate with someone else and exercising the greatest pleasure known to mankind with someone else other than the person you profess to love with all your heart. To you it is just a fleeting moment of erotic fantasy. To a girl, it is a devaluing of who she is. Of course, you are not thinking that, but she is. Some women are okay with it and some women like to watch as well. The biggest problem with porn though is it can become addicting and when you get more pleasure from the porn than you do with the person who you love it is a definite problem and women (and men) will feel that difference, then they become hurt and will feel a rejection. Some people men and women get to the point that they cannot get turned on or excited by their sig other and they NEED that extra stimulation. That can be hurtful to the person you are with. Just think how you would feel if your girl likes to get turned on by some other guys bigger, thicker erection and wishes she could be experiencing it, so she gets off on it by imagining and thinking of someone else while she masturbates? Again, some people are okay with it, but don't be too harsh on the woman who wants to be your everything. Ask yourself why that cannot be enough. But I guess that is the difference between love and lust with self gratification.
Exactly
i think there are 2 reasons women get mad with porn.
issue 1: women dislike the sex acts, or they dislike the "perfect" bodies of the performers. I somewhat sympathize with these issues. a lot of porn is kinda gross to me.
issue 2: women are threatened by porn. but this is where women are completely backwards, and are so self-absorbed that they completely fail to understand men. consider the women in porn ... not their appearance, not the particular sex acts, but their _attitudes._ the women in porn are women who simply enjoy sex. they love sex, and they love the male body as much as they love their own bodies. they never say no, they never whine about how they're not in the mood, they never make him buy dinner first, they never complain about how he's not doing it correctly, they never want to turn the lights off and hide under the blankets, they never hold sex over his head as a bargaining chip to make him repaint the house or mow the law. the women refuse to use their bodies and their sexuality to control men. and sex is one weapon women are reluctant to admit to using, and even more reluctant to give up.
Correction-I seriously doubt that most women in porn "enjoy" what they're doing. For many, I think it's a last resort.
I agree with you.I think many women end up feeling threatened,and those women don't have perfect bodies,although to many they do
They don't enjoy is compared to sex with a partner; for them it's just a job. But it's not a "last resort" either. Some women actually desire a career in the adult industry. But it's a career, that's all.
Its not a 'career and that's all', its an art, in the same way acting and modelling are. Yeah, they're careers, but like, in that proffession, you f*** the career option. In p*rn, more literally than others, KNOWTIMEAAAN, EYYYY. LOL.
This drives me crazy. When I was in my early 20's I had a girlfriend who freaked when she found a mag her boyfriend had. She said it was like he was cheating on her. Since I think pornography is just another layer to a great sex life, and I enjoy it, I know that is not what is going on. When you see pornography, you are sexually objectifying the people on the screen. You have no emotional connection to them, they are merely actors and on top of it all, actors performing sex, which further alienates your ability to attach anything more to them than sexual pleasure. Also it is as much if not more about watching what they are doing than focusing on the individual person's physical attributes. I have never "fallen" for a certain man's unit over another's, or wanted to trade my guy in for the one on the screen. It is making me laugh now thinking that could happen.
Sex is great and it is a part of healthy relationship. I think keeping it fun and fresh is the way to go and there are so many ways to do that. I also know from experience that both partners in a relationship are highly likely to continue to masturbate on their own as well as enjoy sex together. All of this is fine and porn might be part of that. I would be concerned if porn was taking the place of our sex life or if my partner was obsessed with it, but beyond that I would not be concerned.
In the end, what is sexually exciting and desirable to one person is not going to be exactly the same for another. Couples have to talk and work through this and respect each other's desires. The concept of wanting to be someone's everything is a recipe for disaster. It suffocates relationships and eventually leads to dissatisfaction for both parties.
Tamikaze.......I couldn't have said it any better. You rock!
I agree with KCM and want to agree with this twice.
Porn isn't cheating (in and off itself). If porn is replacing sex then there's a far more important issue going on in the relationship... or he wants a quick wank.
Heck, I have a bigger emotional attatchment to Julianne Moore, who is my "Get out of jail free" card, then I do to porn actresses. I love my GF, but if I want to watch someone stick a golf ball in various body holes well then she just can't accomodate! (I think.. must ask her).
The problem with porn is just this...a lot of men can't accept it for what it is. Fanasty. Some men think that women shoud act and behave like women in porns. A lot of men get so into the world of porn that they can't seperate the fanasty from reality. Real women don't wear heels and makeup every time we get it on. We don't dirty talk the whole time. We aren't all implated... I think some men (NOT ALL) start to want real women to be like porn stars. Also, I think porn makes some women insecure. They feel like they can't measure up. I think porn is okay in moderation. Again, if you expect me to do the things you see women do in porns, I expect YOU to last 3 hours and give me multiple orgasms! Sounds fair? Ok then, lol. I think the healthiest thing a couple can do is try to enjoy porn together as part of a sexual act. It makes the women feel better about the situation and can be empowering. If my man would want to watch porn instead of doing me, I would be pissed. Porn as a quick fix once and awhile if you are in a relationship is one thing, it should NOT replace sex with your partner though. This is when it becomes unhealthy...
Well Put :-)
What men are all you women talking to or going out with?!
Is it a cultural thing? I know no man that thinks 'porn is real' or that 'all girls should look like porn stars'. Maybe it's because I'm Australian, and we tend to be pretty verbally... direct. We speak our mind and say exactly what we want, think, feel, etc. (both sides).
Porn isn't a big deal here. It's discussed (depending the crowd) pretty openly. Heck at a party last month we watched Pirates (about 20+ ppl).
I don't like to watch porn with my boyfriend for many reasons.
1)Because I'm an actress so I can tell when someone's faking ( porn stars are usually HORRIBLE actors) when the lighting is off, when the makeup is wrong, etc. I start critiquing it as a film and it's distracting. The lack of plot kind of bores me mentally. It's just not arousing to me. It kills my horniness.
2) I actually had the opportunity to be in several adult films and photo shoots. I declined these jobs because I felt that it would kill my acting career, but more importantly because I personally feel that it's just bad karma. Porn destroys so many relationships, and I don't want to be the instrument that causes so much conflict.
Because I have been offered adult work, I feel it is more of a business and I guess that takes the magic out of watching it.
3) My boyfriend gets too embarrassed. He does look at porn when I'm away, but he says it's less enjoyable then real sex. And since we have plenty of sex, he says there's no need for it.
The porn itself is not arousing to me, but I do enjoy the idea of being a voyeur and watching my boyfriend masturbate. He'd be looking at the porn, but I'd be looking at him!
here is the situation I was in...
my boyfriend (which is now my ex for other reasons) had a thing for porn. so bad that he would hide it in his xbox 360 game cases. I stumbled across it when I went to put his games back where they belong. so there was the lying and sneaking. it does become an addiction. late night computer sessions and led to cheating. it made me feel like he didn't want to be with me intimately. and when we would have sex I would wonder if he was picturing them instead of me because of the lack there of him even looking at me. I have two kids with him so my body has changed and as of now I'm back down to the wieght I used to be at. it made me feel very uncomfortable. especially when he knew how I felt about it, it was like he didn't care about my feelings. I agree with put yourself in the other persons shoes and see how you would feel if it were being done to you. like I didn't know how to look up the history on the satelitte...he seriously thought I was a moron. he was wrong.
some girls are into it and some arent. it just depends. I'm not into it and could care less about it. but when it comes to my feelings and my relationship then seeing how it affected our sex lives, its a problem.
well not many girls think like you and you bring up an interesting subject. why do they get p*ssed about porn? I don't get p*ssed when I see chicks watchin 'the view', I just look the other way. I can understand why girlfriends would be annoyed by it. wondering why the guy wants to see other chicks gettin freaky. that would be like me cooking a nice dinner, just for her to order a pizza. people can feel underappreciated when they aren't fully appreciated. so I guess its understandable. but I can't help but wonder why a guy is watchin porn if he's got a chick around any ways. every one is diferent I suppose. personally, I'd take a female over a computer any day lmao
I watch porn because I get to see some1 I know I will never have sex with an it's great
Probably self-esteem issues.
I hate unshaven girls. Massive deal-breaker along with poor pubic and oral hygeine. She can be trimmed, but if I run the risk of getting hairs in my teeth or up my nose, then hell no.
I commented this to my best female friend once, and she had a blue fit, saying I watch too much porn and that I can't expect girls to live up to those sort of standards.
Well, actually, I can. It's not hard - shave once a fortnight, get a 'fem-friendly' shower gel, and spend some money at the dentist and in a ncie clothes store.
Really not hard. I have to shave my face daily, if not bi-daily if I'm up real early and then having a big night out. I have to spend some dollar to look fly. And god knows what my dental bills would have been if my old man hand't had traded his IT services for it.
Bahaha love it
girls make it an issue because they take this sh*t personal. they think he's watching it because they don't do it for him, or they rather see a 2 dimensional figure than boink the live you. and that's not it at all (or maybe it is and then it sucks to be you! lol) but its mostly all fantasy, and its normal, I don't see the harm in it at all. chicks need to get over it and stop wanting to be your mans everything and everyone. give him some space, and watch it-you just may find that you like it too and now your sessions can be way hotter...
I do not have a major problem with porn per se, but I do know that porn addiction can be debilitating. I have interacted with several individuals (single and married) who have found this to be true.
Also, many women are not so adventurous in the sack. If their boyfriends are oogling that pornstar having anal sex or engaging in a threesome...it could be problematic for individuals who are uncomfortable drawing the boundary lines in the bedroom.
I take issue with pornography only because of the what the pornstars become. They become nothing more than sexual objects who are used and discarded by their onscreen partners and their viewers. That said, I feel that watching porn is an option that ought to be available.
There are other options if you want to spice things up. Grab a Kama Sutra or Tantric Sex book and get to practicing intense intimacy, not just sex.
It basically boils down to differences between the genders - men are much more stimulated by visual imagery than women, so therefore most porn is produced for a male audience. It seems many women get mad at their men for watching porn because they feel it harms the intimacy that the two of them should share alone.
alot of women are insecure with themselves and when they find out that their man has been fantasizing about another woman it taps into that part of them that doesn't feel good enough.
some women even view it as cheating because even thinking about being with someone else sexually is a no-no in their eyes.
others may be lead be religious values and see it as demoralizing and wouldn't want their partner to be participating in something against their religion.
also, the man himself could be a porn or sex addict and that could be an instance where she would get mad as well because she may think he needs to get help.
Well honestly, for me it's the fact that I'm self concuss enough about myself, and knowing that your spouse is looking for relief and enjoyment in someone/something else is really degrading. You think, "Why am I not enough?" and "Am I just not what he wants?" It makes you question everything about your relationship, and yourself. Also, some men, after they watch it, don't have a real need for their spouse. It just changes the relationship, and with change come anger and other emotions. That is probably why it is such an issue.
i have no idea. because women are stupid most of the time?
honestly...it's a good way to relieve frustration and it is entertaining, what's the harm? unless you plan to satisfy your man EVERY moment he needs it then you should love porn! haha.
it's nothing like cheating on your partner. porn is just the nasty gritty cheapy carnal act of releasing your sexual tension. there is no emotional aspect to it. it's just sex. we all like sex, like to watch it and get pleasure from it. it's just natural for us human beings.
if someone were getting emotionally attached to it, that's a different story. and addiction is real, so if it comes to that then we have problems. otherwise, I love it. haha.
Put it this way-
Why do guys get mad when their girlfriend gets with, first of all another guy but second of all, another guy that you know has much better assets and in general is just much better looking than you?
I know when watching porn you aren't physically getting with another girl.. you are just watching.. but how you feel when your girlfriend cheats on you with another guy is comparable to how some girls feel when you're watching porn. You're sharing that intimate moment with someone else when a girl feels like you should be spending that time with her and only her. Just watching or physically getting sexual active with someone else.. it's all the same to some girls.
That's like comparing apples and oranges. If you're physically sleeping with / groping somebody else besides your significant other then that could definitely hurt the relationship. However, with porn you're looking at some chick / dude on a computer screen!!! lol I mean c'mon if that ruins the relationship as well then you are very insecure and need to seek therapy.
Well why do you think? its like cheating. guys are watching naked girls [who happen
to have perfect bodies] doing things with guys and girls. its wrong. same goes for if
i were to do it, my man would be pissed. they want to be the only naked one you see
and make experiences of your own rather following porn stars.
I think you are a little dillusional........you do know that if your in a relationship you are not the only woman your man may be thinking about. He might not tell you, but he is turned on by others women. Just food for thought. And I won't lie and say that when I am in a relationship I don't subconciously think about attractive other men. Your lying to yourself .
And another thing,. " perfect bodies" how many men have you seen that can measure up to these guys in the porn videos........think about it.........its not that serious......stop being so self concious.
Well the thing is I guess me and my boyfriend have more of a perfect relationship.
we don't need porn becasue any time he or I want to get pleasured, we give and a get it.
Porn is not needed and I think it just ruins relationships altogether.
thank youuu.
Judging by your age I will let that comment slide....the is no perfect relationship....as there is no perfect person......another sign that you are dilusional.......
I am sure its not just cos of my age because infact there are several people who believe the
way I do, guys and girls.
I agree, and her answer has nothing to do with AGE. smartsexycool21, you're way too catty and give rediculous answers none of your answers made sence so you comment on her age.. you don't have to be a certain age to feel that something is wrong. if you're down with porn then good for you but the questions was asking how everyone feels about it, not to fight and make people upset. seriously girl, "food for thought" not everyone is a gross permiscuous little girl like you, get over yourself
Haha thanks SaucieMaMa
Fuck that sh*t. Really you call it cheating? I watch p*rn whenever I want to my boyfriend doesn't get mad. He watches p*rn whenever he wants to I don't get mad. It's not cheating. He's having sex with me not that blond bimbo on the screen. So I don't get mad. I think you're self conscious that's why you see it as cheating.
I just wrote out a long answer regarding this, so I'll try and point form this answer.
1: Porn / mastubation is DIFFERENT to sex.
2: I don't think girls truly understand how the male sexual urge works (or how much it's on).
3: Girls tend to have very elaborate set ups in their masturbatory fantasies. They then seem to think guys do, and therefore we're "cheating" on them with a whole slather of girls.
4: They think that our desire for porn (and porn girls) means we think less of them.
Interesting note on that last one. I sometimes think girls really miss the point there. They seem to think guys have a "single hot girl" policy. As in, we find girl X cute, than we find Y cute, so X therefore must be worse. Nothing could be further from the truth. We find X cute, we find Y cute, and we find the billion we looked at before that and the billion coming after cute as well.
"4: They think that our desire for porn (and porn girls) means we think less of them."
I've had a couple of friends whose boyfriends asked them to lose weight, and try to look more like a porn star. Unfortunately not every guy is just masturbates to masturbate, some actually wish they could be with a porn start instead. I couldn't imagine, ouch.
Unfortunatly there will be d***head males in existence until the end of time. The point I was trying to press is that, just because we masturbate and think about that cute redhead at the coffee shop, doesn't mean we love you any less. My Girlfriend for instance has had the same masturbatory fantasy since she was 14, (she's a dancer in an "old west" town and a cowboy comes and 'takes' her).
As an aside, why do girls go out with d***head guys seemingly so regularly? Seems a recuring theme on GAG
I used to be really, really cool about it. My ex and I dated for four years... he watched porn, I watched porn, we knew each other watched porn, no big deal, I could have cared less.
Then I moved in with him and we shared a single computer and he never cleared his history. Bad idea - I went to save a file and it defaulted to his porn files. Turned out he had folders of thousands of videos, pics, etc. organized by type. That, on top of his declining interest in sex, freaked me out. I don't care if a guy watches porn, but I DO care if he watches porn rather than have sex with me. It can be too addictive for some, and at that point it can be dangerous to a relationship.
I don't get it either. I know a lot of people (mostly women go figure) see their men watching porn as cheating. We don't. We both say we think of the other while watching and doing what we need to do. And honestly, I'd rather him be watching some fake bimbo on a porn website than actually WITH some fake bimbo KWIM? Sometimes we watch it together to get turned on or ideas. Sometimes he watches it alone because I'm sleeping and he doesn't wanna wake me, or I'm sick or not in the mood. And vice versa (although I'm not too big on watching porn.)
no its just that porn is gross. period. its something that can ruin your relationship. having ur guy watch naked girls? are you serious? its all a big fantasy that should have never been created. I wish they would get rid of it honestly.
porn gives out the wrong message to people and I am a Christian , and I personally believe porn is part of the devil's world.
so yeah everything is wrong about porn, only sick, non-Christian, perverts and stupid people would actually watch that.
THANK YOU!!
What a stupid narrow minded ignorant reply.
Great comments! Don't worry about the detractors, their arguments are self-serving and for the most part ignore even the scientific evidence that exists regarding this topic--this from people who like to claim they are open-minded and rational, but yet are not intellectually curious enough to see what science actually has to say.
I think that guy just got mad because you made him embarassed because he watches porn. I totally agree with you. I am Christian as well, and it *is* the Devil's world, and the only thing ignorant about this is people not realizing its the devil. and that's sad.
Omg Thank-You!!!! I so agree with you 100%. Its completely perverted.
Your christian, so of course you'd think its part of the "devil's world" but its not
LOL a part of the devil's world really? THAT'S F***ING FUNNY
girls who are cool with guys who watch porn, or even girls who watch it in general are awesome,
guys who aren't sexually active do it all the time, they say the more you do it the better chances of not developing testi cancer
so yeah it helps when you're not sexually active
I honestly am not sure. see I don't mind my man watching porn I just want to be there with him. I like to watch everything and try somethings I like. it is also a good way to get yourself excited. Besides would he rather have handy help me out or me? there are a lot of girls that don't like their guys watching porn and I guess its because the girls think that they like it more than her and they get all jealous. its weird. maybe they have self esteem issues. or they have something against their man being turned on by some other chick but the truth is that most of the time the guy is thinking about trying all these things with their women (or at least that's what I've been told).
There are so many reasons why SOME women are bothered by it. Too many to nail in just a simple rundown but basically it's ignorance, fear and low self esteem. There are plenty of women who are empowered enough and acquainted enough with their sexuality to love porn. What many people (men AND women) forget or don't realize is that there are many different kinds of porn. There IS something for everyone out there. I personally love it and watch it quite often, sometimes by myself and sometimes with my guy.
Whats weird is ladies watching it with you lol I always thought it'd be awesome but I found it
too awkward I was hanging out with my girlfriend and shelooked at my favories and sees this
thing called sasha gray and so she clicks it and I hear her laugh and then she gets this weird
look on her face so I walk over and see what's digusting her and I walk over and she clicked
on a particularly nasty porno that I won't go into detail on but it had anal and I almost fainted I
was so embaressed but she'd never seen any porn before and she just kept watching it and
we watched it together but I found it awkward and she was just so curious about it and kept
asking me questions about it it was weird then some friends of ours came over so she
stopped watching haha I told my friend and he said he'd happily of had an orgy with us haha
Heehee you're sweet. My boyfriend gets embarrassed by it too.
Men have more sexual needs and women have more emotional needs. Some believe this to be true in a sense, that a man would get upset with his woman if she sought emotional satisfaction from someone else, as would a woman get upset with her man if he sought sexual satisfaction from someone else (though it may not actually be physical - for either.) Yes some women feel inadequate when it comes to their lovers watching porn. But some guys would get hurt feelings too if their woman were to use a sex toy that was larger than their man and to do it to porn. The man would then feel inadequate, just as the woman would to the possibly prettier, skinnier, more attractive porn star. Either way, some couples are okay with it and some are not, it's unfortunate.
its from a guys pov and is basic to the point of baseless. its basically wank material, and there's a hell of a lot of barelly legal stuff flying about with legal girls dressed younger holding f***in teddy bears and sh*t, that's f***ed up but I'm talking legiimate sites like red tube post that sh*t with legal notes saying these people are all over 18 and that amkes it alright. whos that sh*t aimed at. it is f***in weird and sick. straight up man f***in woman stuffs cool tho but its still very basic.
MATE!? WHAT. THE. FUCK. did you just say?!?
Crazy poms can't speak english!
I second that: Huh? Was that C.I.A. code or something?
Man this is the best answer, please rate it! I donno what it really means but I think it has something beyond. Wow, this just made my day. xD
And it's really good that you remembered ur password after all that weed !
I like p*rn. I watch it. I masturbate to it. My boyfriend does the same thing. Sometimes we even watch it together. Women that get mad are retarded. I see no problem with it unless he watches it ALL THE TIME. Now that's a problem. Girls need to realize guys are going to watch it. Whether you approve or not. If you disapprove that just makes them do it behind you're back. Most guys don't even care for the chicks with fake t*ts and load moans. What they do care for however is the d*** in p**** action which is well the most fun part of p*rn :)
I would be really offended if the man I was married to was unsatisfied with our sex life and had to find relief online. It would just kind of make you feel like you're not good enough. I'm a liberal person, I don't think that people who watch it are gross, or godless. I just don't want the man having SEX with me, to be looking at other women having sex and getting turned on by it. I understand that he's still a man, but he should be talking about it with me if there is something I am not doing for him.
It's REALLY NOT insecurity. Why don't cynical men understand that? You really think we want to look like trailer trash? What's sexy or desirable/envious about a woman that has no values and is degrading herself for money?
Actually, if anything, porn is suppose to help with your sex life. Although it's mostly acting, it can be somewhat informative. You can learn how to go down or each other and try various positions to help you reach orgasm. Not many men are engrossed in watching porn when they already have a woman on their arm.
its not so much the porn I have a prob with its more when he would rather get himself off to porn because he doesn't want to have sex with me because he is tired or just lazy! its not the watching part or the other girl thing that I have a prob with its more that
"hey I'm here I'm willing! if your not to tired to get off then fine come in and I will get you off it doesn't have to be sex and you can pay me back later"
i just don't think that guys want to admit they may be to tired, or just don't feel like the whole shabang that day! my fiance says sometimes he just wants to get off without all the work! but then again it bothers me because I'm willing to do that for him and he still watches pron!
It is a problem only if you let it become a problem. My girlfriend asks me to watch porn while she is next to me and that gets me excited without much effort from her. Then when I have sex with her it is explosive and she gets the benefit. She is smart!
I love watching porn together with my man. sometimes we play a game and say everything they do in the porn we do. if they kiss, we kiss. if the guys going down or girl we have to follow no matter what. its fun and exciting. and the moaning in the background from the tv while were having sex is GREAT.
She's either very smart or very lazy!! LOL
Well what gets me off the most is love, compassion, and trust. That visual stimulation is ok and all but it when it comes to the real thing I don't like quickies. Slow and steady wins the race. I'll make sure my woman climaxes before I do. Ladies first, right?
Women are very posessive of their men... they feel that if they are woman enough for the guy, he shouldn't need porn... They don not understand that men have a chemical "wiring" in their brains to make them want to have sex... a lot of sex!
Like anything, you can watch too much porn... moderation, and a open mind, is the key to living.
Joe
"Women are very posessive of their men... they feel that if they are woman enough for the guy, he shouldn't need porn" wonder if they think we feel like that?
There is nothing wrong with porn, nothing is ever black and white. Some people are incredibly narrow minded and ignorant in their views but luckily that's only a certain few individuals.
Some porn goes too far, its too extreme, degrading and does more harm than good. But I don't see any problem with the normal stuff for either guys or girls its completely different to a loving relationship.
honestly, I would never get mad at my boyfriend for looking at porn (unless it was weird crap like feet or kids or something). I think the main issue that girls have with that you're watching other girls as a fantasy to get away from the idea of them. Personally, I like watching porn because it can be sexy and turns me on. From that standpoint, I can see why my boyfriend would use it. When I watch it, it has nothing to do with him, or really even anything but getting off. men-- maybe just explain that to your ladies? although I'm not sure it'll help. there are some things that most women just can never understand.
I don't understand why girls get p*ssed about it because I am really bad at watching porn. I love porn. I am not addicted to where I have to go to counciling but I do love a good porn and watch it every other night. I would much rather see my guy watching porn than cheating on me.
I'm not saying this is right or that I agree with it, but my girlfriend used to get mad if I looked at porn because she thought it was disrespectful to her since she felt that watching porn was like cheating or seeking pleasure from sources other than her.
Then leave her. She's overreacting. Unless you're watching hardcore porn like BDSM or hentai cause if that's the case then I don't blame her >.<
Idk women do it too, and usually if they say they don't that's a lie... I know every girl I've been around does it too? So why is it such a big sin? I peronally think it's because some women are controll freaks. They feel that if their guy is looking at porn they are loosing that, "sexual control" they think they have over us. Which is pretty sad honestly...
I think the reason girls get angry at boys watching porn is because it seems to them that their not good enough, so the boys have to watch girls on the internet.
Plus, I think it sets a standard for the ladies, they need to try be like, or be better than the porn stars.
So honestly, it's mostly a Jealousy thing (in my opinion of course).
Bullsh*t. It doesn't set a standard; that stuff isn't even REAL, silly.
Well um..i think I'm probably the only one here tht thinks this but I HATE porn...its sick and girls probably get mad (and I don't think tht girls necessarily get mad even though tht may b a small part of it..it just really hurts and makes you feel crappy) because it makes them feel like there not good enough...it always made me feel like I'm not good enough and it also hurt my mom for a really long time but she loved my dad un-conditionally so she stuck with him and then one day he realized how much he hurt her and he felt ashamed about it and he's been trying really hard to stay completely faithful and there relationship has been 10 times better than it was b4...if a guy watches porn and crap then he's not being all tht faithful...if he's thinking bout the hot porn star then he might as well be doing her...
Porn is a movie with more sex and bad acting. Sure it's a good substitute for sexual stimulation but it's still fake and intangible compared to the real thing and it's not really cheating or being unfaithful because you're watching two other people (actors) having intercourse. Not to mention it's much safer (for your health but not for your computer) I think the reason porn is so frowned upon in this society and amongst women is because you got some very sick perverts out here that are acting out what they see on the adult films, forcing women to reenact the scenes via rape. I have too much respect for myself to just stoop to such a level. Yes it's tempting but I'm not that desperate. And another thing, unless you look like a male supermodel, very outgoing, and women flock to you daily porn can somewhat be a good outlet for you.
I really wouldn't care if a guy I was seeing watched porn. hey I mite even watch it with him and make things more exciting lol. Its just a jealousy thing and insecurity issue that some women have. I guess as long as he still gets hott for me then there's no problem with it.
It's a temporary stimulation. If possible, I'd prefer the real thing. However, if that's not an option than I have no other choice.
I don't really get this either, I guess the women that do get mad are probably feeling a little insecure about themselves or thier relationship, because from what I see most of the question include stuff like "why would he look at porn when he's got me" ...I reallly don't think guys even think like that when they go to watch porn
IMO
If your in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and arnt living together then it should be fine but its something she doesn't need to know and shouldnt be an addiction.
If your living with her and can get action every night then you really shouldnt be near that stuff lol
Well, if your talking in general, I don't really know, but if you are talking about a woman getting made about it and they are in a relationship, it's because they are looking at other girls that they feel are good looking enough to... do business to.
My two cents,
--Wraith
Personally I don't like porn because then I feel like I'm not enough. It's jealous-stupidly but I want all my guys attention-I want to be the one to get him hard and make him cum. I don't want him looking at other girls and wishing he was with them instead of me. It's stupid but I can't help it
Ok, for one you don't know what he is thinking about unless you ask him. With me its the sexual act its self that turns me on and my girlfriend knows and understand that. My girlfriend watches porn also and even if she is getting turned on by looking at the guy I rep the benifits in the end...LOL
I have asked him. In fact, once while I was making out and blowing him I asked him if it was better than porn and he said no. He says it's a bad habbit and that he doesn't watch it anymore now because he had since he was 8.
i don't really care if a guy watches porn...as long as he can distinguish between fantasy & reality; it can't become an addiction. Also he can't expect me to be like the girls in the videos...if he can recognize and understand that...then I'm fine with it
Normally I don't care cause I watch porn too.
But I had a boyfriend once, and I remember there was his one time I wanted to have sex and I told him so, and he said he'd be there in a minute. But a long time passed and he never came to the bedroom. I went back to the living room and he had been watching porn and jacking off. Now that sh*t p*ssed me off! But I suppose that had less to do with the porn and more to do with him being and ass and he was a huge ASS!
I think I'd only have a problem if the guy preferred to have watch porn than be with me. But if he just watched it when he was alone to get off, or maybe with me sometimes, I wouldn't be bothered.
So I guess the answer to your question is that that, I don't know what the problem is.
I think porn sets expectations. Like why can't you make me come this girl did on this porn ... Or why don't you moan like the girls in porn. Its an insecurity thing.
Ok,here's my take.
Everyone has a fantasy Is that true or false?
Every couple has some sort of fantasy
With that said here's the question
Is it better to fulfill the persons' fantasy?
Or by watching porn you can fulfill the person's fantasy with having to do it?
DUHHHH!
Geeez it's something how close-minded people are
And I'm calling out the people that have a problem with porn
it depend some even girls don't mind if their boyfriend or someone they caught watching p*rn but I think most of the case they got jealous or disturbed not all girls gets mad for that reason but just respect them in one way otherwise if you put it to reverse situation your innocent lovely sweet Girlfriend is watching p*rn than seeing you naked or instead she should doing those stuff from you now would get mad on that?
theres a few ways I would be mad if my boyfirend was watching porn-
he's jerking off instead of being with me, my parents are with us, it was some illegal porn like snuff or child porn, he told me to change my look to be a certain pornstar, it was porn of him and an ex, or if he was addicted.
now other than that I would be okay if he was watching porn when I wasn't around to be with him. or if he was watching porn WITH me, I'm no prude :P
Well, depends on the girl. I think some girls get mad because they think porn in general is disgusting. And I think others feel intimidated by it, like they think their guy might expect them to look and perform like a porn star. I personally watch a lot of porn so I don't have a problem w a dude watchin/ lookin at porn. I've even watched porn with my guy :) it was fun and sexy.
I don't like the fact tat porn is so hardcore. I had a boyfriend who expected me to be like the girls in the porn. They are actresses, as opposed to people who really are like oh yeah baby put two dicks in my mouth, please! I don't have a problem with porn if you're not expecting me to have sex with a donkey, or at least be an expert on blowjobs. I'm good at it, but I don't do it for a living here.
No donkys? Prude.
Kidding. I can understand that if a guy asks you (or expects you) to do what's in a porno, then that's pretty f'up. You should return fire though. If it occours again, simply say "well only if you grow another 6 inches and loose the beer gut". That should set him right.
Hahaha! Thanks for that, there's enough p*rn out there that is more amateur than when I posted this I think, and I'm better at BJs, so yeah. I guess my biggest problem at the time was my boyfriend couldn't get off without it. But you know what, I watched some p*rn myself, and I changed my mind about it, and I'm OK with it because I think it can be beautiful and even healing.
LMAO "have sex with a donkey" oh wow that's a new one >.<
I actually don't know either. Now, I can maybe understand if the girl is getting mad at her boyfriend for watching it, like say, if she felt jealous, or saw it as a betrayal because he's not seeking his pleasure from her, but I don't think I'd mind at all. I wouldn't actually know, though, since I've never had the chance to be jealous. Although I don't see anything wrong with it.
I'm all for porn, rather him watch it and use his imagination then actaully go out and try it with another gril. If you think it's disrespectful or that you're not good enough to get him in the mood, it's not your man you have a problem with, it's yourself...
Except it's not HIS imagination. Video is a tool by which one is transported to a recorded scene. If we relate conceptually then a video download to the brain is not his own creation nor "imagination." It is a rote stimulus that offers only a flaccid mind.
Okay, so I over heard a little fight between my best friend and her boyfriend. She was flipping out on him because she caught him watching porn. I really don't understand why so many girls get so upset about guys watching it. I mean come on! Its just pictures/film. Maybe he's trying to learn a new thing to try with you?There's nothing wrong with trying to spice up the sex life. I've actually suggested to my boyfriend that we watch it while having sex. Of course, he agreed. It just makes the whole atmosphere better. And its a huge help in having a orgasm. I'm not saying that he couldn't do it for me without the porn, it just might take longer. Its double the pleasure with the moans coming from the TV in the background.
I watch porn, my boyfriend watches porn, it's all good.
it doesn't bother me that my guy watches porn because it gives him new ideas for the bedroom! and ****he doesn't get off to the girl, he gets off to the action.****
most girls don't realize that.
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