I want to make him regret playing me.....

[Anonymous]

how can I make a guy regret playing me?

I had a really good friend, and we realized we had feelings for each other, we talked for a couple months and he said he wanted to take things slow but he ultimately wanted to be with me.. After waiting and waiting for him to commit I said f*** it and was done.. then shortly after he started dating another girl.. I was upset but let it go.. Recently he messaged me on Facebook (he's been single for a month or two) and saying he misses me/wants to see me.. I finally agreed to go to a movie with him and he tweeted "Going to the movies with #her" So of course I'm thinking he wants to start talking again. The night went good and he ended up kissing me.. Now he hasn't texted me back since or anything. m literally pissed and want to show him he's missing out on a great girl

[justaskin8888]

you need to move on. I would not blame him for this. I'd blame myself. Taking responsibility for making a stupid mistake. We all make them--just some of us learn from them and some of us don't--instead we get angry at the situation. here's my point. There's this cartoon called Peanuts, and there's a girl who always tells this little boy she is going to hold the football steady so he can punt it. But each time he tries to kick it, the girl moves the ball and he falls on his butt. YES it is this mean little girl's fault he fell--but its his fault for continually trying to kick the ball when he already knows she's going to move it. Fool me once, shame on YOU, fool me twice, shame on ME.

I don't mean, any offense to you. I know this probably hurts to have someone treat you so uncaringly, but you need to look out for yourself and use the head god gave you to be smart about these things.

Let me quote a wise man, "This sh*t's chess, it ain't checkers!" lol.

don't stoop to his level. good luck!

[Asker]

oh no you didn't offend me at all, because I'm thinking the same thing.. I am gonna let it go because I did make the mistake of trying to talk to him again.

[anon1111]

Girls always make this mistake - you think that just because a guy successfully plays head games with you, you can turn the tables on him and it will have the same effect. It WON'T.

1) Most guys are completely oblivious to the subtleties and subtext of the words that girls carefully put together when they want to convey some hidden message.

2) Even if we were aware of these subtleties, we still wouldn't care.

3) one and 2 are doubly true of player-type guys.

You may think you can craft some kind of revenge mind-games to put him through what you've been experiencing emotionally, but you can't. Guys simply do not care that much about analyzing girls' behavior:

[justaskin8888]

this is untrue. you can craft a head game that messes up a player... but who'd want to stoop to such a level? That is partly why they are players? They've been messed around by vicious girls too.

[AidenBlue]

I would add - what is the point? To show him you can be just as big a jerk? Is this really the guy you want to be with? Why are you wasting your time here? That's what I don't get about women. You drove this car once - its a lemon - why do you continue to drive it?

[Asker]

@aidenblue, you're so right.. there is no point. I did want to be with him because he did really make me happy. and I think I keep wasting my time because I want us to be the way we are when he doesn't act like an ass, and for some reason think if I put up with this sh*t hell come around..

[Anonymous]

Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.

[AidenBlue]

Best comment ever!

[Asker]

im not trying to get revenge per say, I just want to make him realize he messed up

[Opinion Owner]

Start working out and get awesome legs and an awesome ass, then go on to be more successful than he is. I've wanted to get back at people, too, but in the end, moving past it is really the best thing you can do. He really won't miss you at all if you come across as spiteful and desperate. People can sense that easily.

[knowmeyourself]

Exactly this.

[Artificial Intelligence]

How do you make him regret playing with my feelings?

It's not easy to make someone regret playing with your feelings, but it is possible.

Here are a few things you can do:

1. Talk to him about how you feel.

Make sure he knows how hurt you are and how much his actions have affected you. This will help him realize the gravity of the situation and how much he has hurt you.

2. Make him feel guilty.

Remind him of all the good times you had together and how he's thrown that all away. Let him know how much you loved him and how much you trusted him.

3. Ignore him.

This will be hard, but it's important to show him that you're not going to be available whenever he wants. Make it clear that you're moving on and that he's no longer a part of your life.

4. Find someone new.

This will show him that you're not going to sit around and wait for him. He'll see that you're moving on and that he's losing someone who was important to you.

5. Be happy.

Show him that you don't need him to be happy. Let him see that you're doing just fine without him.

Making someone regret playing with your feelings is not easy, but it is possible. By taking the above steps, you can make him realize how much he's hurt you and that you're not going to tolerate his behavior.

How do you make him realize what he lost?

There's no one answer to this question, as it depends on the situation and the person involved.

However, here are a few possible approaches that might work:

1. Appeal to his sense of logic.

Help him see that he's missing out on a good thing by not being with you.

2. Make him jealous.

Show him what he's missing by spending time with other guys or going out and having fun without him.

3. Play hard to get.

Ignore him or act like you don't care about him. This might make him realize that he does care about you and that he wants to be with you.

4. Be honest with him.

Tell him how you feel and why you think he should give the relationship another chance.

Ultimately, the best way to make someone realize what they've lost is to show them what they're missing. By being the best version of yourself, you'll make him see that he made a mistake by letting you go.

[Billlewis]

What a wonderfully accurate assessment!

[the90swerethebest]

Best revenge...is living your life tot he fullest. Everything else you try do to him, can come back to haunt you. Just look at how Blair wound up, in Gossip Girl

[countrygirl123]

I agree with him ^ , just go on with your life and be happy. If he see's that, then he will realize how much he lost.

[the90swerethebest]

I think the QA wants to just be a bitch though, country...she knows full well that she should just move on. It's only natural for us to want to lash out at people who hurt us

[Asker]

youre right... I'm just upset with myself that I let him pull me into his mind games once again

[Asker]

or we can assume I meant being a bitch.. thanks

[the90swerethebest]

My point exactly. God, I'm good!

[Asker]

what?

[the90swerethebest]

Nothing..just as long as you know what the "right" thing to do is here...and I hope you do!

[Asker]

I do, and I think people took "I want him to regret it" the wrong way. I'm not a mean person like that but I want him to wish he didn't mess up with me, instead of not caring

[the90swerethebest]

I know, it hurts to be hurt..but like I said, do the "right" thing, and you'll feel better, I promise you!

[stubbsy]

Dont let him know your pissed yet, wait until he asks to meet again, say yes but don't turn up, this will really hurt him where it matters, no guy likes to be stiood up,x

[Anonymous]

How old are you? Are you an adult? If so, act like a lady and learn that revenge is a bitter pillow that always comes back up and chokes you in the end. Drop the anger and date other people. Don't become obsessive over this guy. He isn't worth it.

[Asker]

im 22 and I do act like a lady. and I'm far from being obsessive over him. Yeah revenge is bitter, but for one I'm not gonna do something mean I'm just want him to see he lost a good girl

[Opinion Owner]

The best way to see he lost a good girl is to find a good guy. He'll realize he made a mistake when some other good guy has snapped you up. Do that, and you won't have to feel like "getting even" was the answer. Trust me. ;)

[Asker]

true, just ugh I hate being played with like that

[Opinion Owner]

You play the game, sometimes you get played. That's the price of playing the game. We've all been there if we've played long enough. Time to move on.

[Paul09]

Sounds like a very immature adult baby. Or a fuckboy. Or just a player. You getting mad only hurts you. Simply move on. That jerk should get what's coming to him in the future.

[dan123z4]

if you're a great girl hell realize on his own

[Anonymous]

do his friend. its the ultimate.

[Asker]

lol all of his friends are like my really good friends too, so they wouldn't do that