I've been played.How do I play him back?

[Anonymous]

I've been with a man now for a while and found out he's been playing me all along with other women. How can I play him without him knowing I am doing this and beat him at his own game?

[nique23]

I agree with '' LoveDoctor'' , but only to a certain degree. I'm ONLY 23 , so bear with me here there are things I still have to learn , but then there are things that are clear as day. Your between the ages of 36 - 45 and while I know you may be hell bent on '' beating him at his own game '' why play his game at all ? Ok call me naive here ,( which I'm sure some will) but the fact of the matter is he played you with other woman nothing you could EVER do will change that. And getting ''revenge'' wouldn't necessarily help you to get over your circumstances. I think your putting way to much thought into this the best '' revenge'' you could ever give him is being a WOMAN and walking away with all your DIGNITY in tow. I've seen my mom go through this very same thing and nothing ever changes because your always trying to find the NEXT game to play. Play his ASS by leaving him alone that's mind boggling because a real ''playa'' wouldn't be expecting that. If all else fails do what the other ladies said , but don't count me out.

[LoveDoctor]

Don't call him, act aloof, pretend you are doing just fine without him! Be happy! Don't ask him questions!

IF you know for a fact he's been playing you with other women, you should let him go in a very elegant manner. If he really likes you he will come back to you. It's up to you if you want to give him a chance. Sometimes guys like to see how feisty their woman is.

I think is really sexy, if you go up to him and tell him personally,. Tell him something like this, "I think you are a really great guy, but I want to continue testing the waters with other people!" And see what happens. but make sure not to panic. If he's not for you, then forget him! There are plenty of other fishes in the sea, and bigger balconies with ocean view ;)

By the way, I really recommend you to read: "Why Men Love Bitches" & "Why Men Marry Bitches" It's GREAT!

[Asker]

I've already put the NC rule into effect. I knwo he will eventually contact some kind a way. So I guess what you are saying is when contact from him happens basically blow him off like he does me,have other plans in place whether I do or don't, tell him things like you caught me going out the door we can talk later type of stuff?

[ALWAYSclassy]

If that was me, I would completely ignore him and quit contacting him. Then I would find a better guy. It would totally kill his ego and you don't have to deal with his crap. It's not really playing him, it's just doing what's best for you.

[Irisheyez]

By getting proof of you 2 to show the other women or proof of him with another woman and find a way to show all of them. Then drop him and go find yourself a good man. If you want revenge, screw with his game, don't play it.

[SoulMedic]

You can't beat him at his own game, you will simply join him in playing, which makes you both players at the same level. Then you become nothing more than another player, always trying to outdo another player.

How about instead of stooping to his level you choose to rise above it? Show him that his playing gets him no where but booted out the door. Confront him about it. Talk to him.

Taking the 'tit for tat' stance will rarely work into any form of positive result. If you think you are hurt now, that is nothing compared getting caught up in the game of one upping each other, now the BOTH of you are players. Neither better than the other, neither with any ground to stand on.

[Asker]

Since the incident happened I have put the NC rule into effect. I have no real intention of ever going back to this man. he did me dirty and he will get his just rewards somewhere down the road. The sad part is that sooner or later even though he blasted me out when I did speak to him about this he will eventually try to contact me again.

[SoulMedic]

That's awesome. Cut ties completely...I've done that, and it worked well for me. If he does contact you again, ignore him completely. Don't even give him the time of day. Give him nothing of you.

Few things tend to piss 'em off as much as being shut out or out right ignored.

[jessieray]

Dont call him

always act as if everything is fine

when he asks if everything is fine just say yes

HOWEVER only play him if you know for sure you won't get hurt