How to get him back ?

[Anonymous]

I have my first boyfriend he was a first ever guy that ever nice to me we were off and on for like 3years and lately I got a restraining order from him for a year. The reason I got a restraining order is last couple months. His attitude has been changing and I have this fat female Coworker that has a fat boyfriend. She doesn’t like me for some reason and she kept telling my ex-boyfriend to get a restraining order against me to him, he doesn’t not have that much friends that much and, my Coworker likes controlling people so I think she basically controlled my ex because he was weak.
We were first each other, both virgins at the time.
People around me says I’m too pretty for him because he’s short and overweight. And I’m half Asian and petite that likes to wear a lotta make up to try to look the best.
He’s my first boyfriend and it’s been three years and I’m not over him. I did try to date other guys but they’re all crappy.
At this point if I cannot get him back or if he gets a prettier girl than me, I just want to K@ll my self
I don’t know short fat guys get girls easily or not, but I will do it anything I can do to get him back, but he has a restraining order against me so I can’t contact him makes it harder.
Any of you guys read this, I would really appreciate if you can think and type out the way to get them back. before you said move on or whatever like that, I know, but I just really want him back no matter what.

[ephemeralife]

I can understand your heartache especially since he was your first love and first boyfriend, we have all been there and it gets easier over time 🥹


I think this is a great opportunity for self reflection, learning and healing. Figuring out what you need and don't need for your next relationship, what you could have done better and what insecurities you need to work through - you have a new exciting chapter to begin.


Heal first so you don't take your crap over to the next relationship and you can be the best version of yourself.


I'm sorry, but the hard truth is he has a restraining order against you - this means something serious and not a light decision to make or action, you're just going to have to respect that.


It's like the cliche saying - when you love someone set them free.

[_Senorita_]

Just be patient and calm down everything will happen at the correct timing

[melnc]

Your relationship seems to be all about you. I initially thought you were seeking balance, but it has become clear that you're just trying to satisfy your ego.

[OlderAndWiser]

You can obsess with this guy but HE HAS A RESTRAINING ORDER! It's over. Accept it and move on.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, the twist and turns of romance can surely feel like a roller coaster at times, right? First off, it sounds like you're sailing through a rather stormy sea of emotions, and I wanna throw you a lifesaver here. Let's start by acknowledging that relationships, much like a dance, need two willing participants moving to the same rhythm. If one partner steps away, continuing the dance alone just doesn't work the same, does it?

Now, with the restraining order in place, it's crystal clear that the universe is dropping you a mighty big signal to hit the pause button. This isn't just about respecting legal boundaries; it's about respecting personal boundaries and emotional well-being, both yours and his. It's tough, super tough, when all you wanna do is reverse time, but sometimes, moving forward is the only way to truly heal and find happiness.

Instead of channeling your energy into trying to reignite an old flame that's been pretty clearly doused, why not transform that energy into self-love and discovery? You're this vibrant, half-Asian, petite firecracker who's got so much to offer the world! Let's not forget that finding someone who matches your awesome shouldn't come with a side of legal constraints.

If you're feeling like you're at rock bottom, remember, rock bottom can be a solid foundation to rebuild upon. No guy, no matter how many boxes of memories you've ticked off together, is worth putting your precious life on pause, let alone thinking of ending it.

Love, if these feelings are overwhelming, reaching out to a professional for support is like reaching for a flashlight in the dark. It's there to help you navigate through the darkness until you can find your own way out. And believe me, with your spark, you'll find your way out, dazzling brighter than before.

In the grand scheme of your love story, consider this chapter as the plot twist before you discover new horizons that are waiting for you, filled with love and laughter that eclipse any past heartaches. Keep your chin up, your spirits high, and remember, this too shall pass. The best is yet to come! 😊💖

[DrPepper12]

You need therapy asap. Like now.

[jahaims]

You are mentally ill