Do guys really prefer the ugly outgoing girl over the shy pretty girl?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing a lot of guys with this preference for ugly trashy girls that are outgoing over the beautiful shy girl that's kind and pure.

[Frostie]

Guys go after what's easy to hit. I won't identify them as 'pretty' or 'ugly' as it really depends on the person who perceives beauty differently from others. The girls that are 'pure' would be like chasing a nun and forcing her into marriage, these boys don't want that, because women in general have abused marriage to the extent of manipulating men to get half their pay check. I know this isn't all women, but rumors aren't pretty nor the statistics behind them. Even christian girls who swear up and down to wait til marriage go out and act slutty. But people are people, ideas mean nothing in this society, the traditions foreigners bring here, often feel disrespected in a way by how their children are fitting into this new society. Families just fall apart and values do not exist. I would rather date a virgin than a girl who is sleeping around. Not to say the latter is cut off from being a choice, I would prefer a virgin. Usually those that claim to be virgins aren't. Usually when a girl says she hasn't slept with more than a few people, times it by 2 or 3. I don't trust people at all. They haven't earned it, and in this society, giving hand outs leads to being taken advantage of. So everyone walks around treating each other like sh*t, because they're putting #1 first. Maybe not everyone, but from what I noticed, its not uncommon.

[Asker]

You started off on topic but then you went way off course. What does this have to do with virginity and Christianity?

[Frostie]

It's quite on topic, if you get that I'm explaining other phenomena that connect to the question you asked. If you want a yes or no answer, you're already misleading yourself. If you don't comprehend what I'm saying, then don't try. you mentioned 'purity' which is basically a virgin. you aren't pure if you've been f***ed. I mentioned Christianity, as a comparison to how all women are irrespective to their so called 'beliefs'.

[Frostie]

The thing is, I'm looking at this in multiple angles while explaining it. If you're not really into that, you're going to miss a lot of things in life. The more you understand things, the better off you are. But that is a belief I hold. As I said before, if you don't comprehend and its not clicking, then don't try to.

[Asker]

You sir have a narrow scope of things if you automatically assumed that I meant virginity and Christianity by purity.

[Frostie]

When one speaks of purity, that is usually what is meant, innocence. No sex, never done drugs, never drank, never smoked etc. IF there is any other way, most people aren't going to know you meant it that way. Maybe it makes me "narrow minded" but you assumed people would know, so if it doesn't mean that, specify what you mean, it's a two way street.

[Asker]

You never asked what I meant. Have you ever heard anyone say that someone has a pure heart? Have you seen it used in that way? There's more to one meaning to a word. It says a lot about you that you would focus in on that one thing. Actually I intentionally used the term just to see if someone was going to do what you just did.

[Frostie]

If you ask a question, you usually give an example and explain yourself thoroughly. Especially if what you asked isn't meant in what most people would assume. It's like using the word "their" "They're" "there". The only differences in that analogy is that it requires a specific use,and can't be confused. "pure heart"-christian ideal used quite often in phrases. Still off topic though isn't it?

[Frostie]

This all goes back to what I've mentioned. If you have a 'pure heart' you are innocent, meaning you haven't acted on things that are considered 'wrong', 'bad' or other wise unacceptable and lacking in respect. Like fishing for arguments on GAG.. -.-

[Prof_Don]

The biggest issue answering this ? is...how do you define "outgoing"?

Frankly, the girl that seems more noticable, fun, and sexually open, will attract more guys.

Some view a shy girl, that comes off "kind and pure"...as a bad girlfriend prospect because that guy will think he'll have to wait a long time (several months, a year or more, till engagement /marriage) to have sex.

To a guy, how pretty this above girl is simply doesn't matter...cauz he probably won't get to "do anything" (wink wink) with her sexually for a long time uf at all.

So to many dudes, her beauty is therefore useless to him.

[Asker]

Great thorough answer. And thank you for not being stupid and assuming that this question is about me. Ugly Outgoing Girls WIN

[Prof_Don]

Ever so welcome. :)

[xzinax2]

outgoing girls are easier to get. shy girls suck-including me. I JUST realized a guy liked me for months,AND did try to hit on me,but I didn't get it and never noticed-AAAAND he's gone. shy girls are hard to get and well link

[Asker]

Guys don't like girls that are hard to get anymore? I thought they liked a challenge, but maybe that's not the way things are anymore. Gotta lay it all out and pretty much say come and get me. The thing is I thought guys were visual.

[xzinax2]

they are,but boobs are better if they're available for touching.

[Chiv86]

I think this really comes down to the guy(s) in question. Everyone has something different they find attractive in a partner. Some like shy and sweet, others like wild and crazy. Some people like thin and others like curvy figures.

I would say not to worry about what you see daily as far as couple pairings go. Just find someone that you are attracted to and you have fun being with. I've dated girls who were really attractive and I've dated girls who I've honestly just enjoyed being with them because they were fun (not in a sexual manner)/ witty/sarcastic and really just pushed my buttons.

[Asker]

the question isn't about me but thanks for your opinion

[kheserthorpe]

They prefer attractive.

'pure' depends on the guy, and how pure exactly.

Lots of guys say they like shy girls. But shy is hard to distinguish from 'not interested'. It's harder to flirt with shy girls as well.

[Yeahhbro]

Are you sure the outgoing girl is ugly?...sounds like somebody is jealous

[Asker]

Yes I am sure. What would indicate that I'm jealous. Since you're so concerned about me and not the actual question, and since you seem to think I think I'm the pretty shy girl that's jealous of the outgoing ugly girl who really isn't ugly, I will inform you that I'm like neither of the options.

[Konnour]

No, no and no.

A pretty girl anytime, doesn't matter is she shy or outgoing, it's better if she's outgoing but no big deal if she's shy aswell.

[joystickhappy]

I like shy girls, I think that they're cute. Outgoing is okay, but too much can be VERY obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Which one is more fun?

Which one is more likely do make out/ sleep with them?

There's your answer.

[Asker]

Well it's hard to gauge which is more fun. The outgoing girl is outgoing to the point where it can be overbearing and trashy at times, but the shy girl, she's boring until you really get to know her.

[Opinion Owner]

Spoken like a true shy girl.

No, the outgoing ones are always more fun.

[Asker]

Introverted possibly but shy not at all. But anyway, why do people assume the question is always in reference to the question asker as if hypothetical questions don't exist? What was that? You said trashy and overbearing was fun? What unique tastes you have.

[Opinion Owner]

I just know the sorts of girls, that girls like you call "trashy".

And l like those girls. And I wouldn't call them trashy. Same for most of the adjectives you'd use to describe them.

[Asker]

Well if they're not trashy then aren't trashy. I don't know about you but I only consider trashy girls trashy.

[Asker]

Btw who are girls like me? Last time I checked you didn't know me

[Opinion Owner]

You're the sort of girl who equates outgoing with trashy, and no other qualifier.

I think that's all I need to know, to make the right assumptions about you.

[Asker]

Well you obviously assumed wrong because no where did I said outgoing equates to trashy. I don't recommend the assuming thing. That makes you guilty of the same thing you're assuming about me. People on this site always have the hardest time reading...

[michael0314]

more laughs and more lovin' is the key. give me a less uptight girl that is sexually liberated every time.

[Anonymous]

I can't say this is true for me. I would prefer the genuine, nice, girl that has a heart over the outgoing, confident bitchy one though.

[Anonymous]

No, I prefer more quiet girls than outgoing ones, but I'm good for either.

[hooplah]

Id rather the pure hearted girl,cause I don't want a girl whos bein horribly mean or anything.

[TheUglyOne]

I prefer pretty women, quite or outgoing.

[Malcom_Reynolds]

Shy pretty girl, any day.

[antonlikesmlb]

Pretty and shy.