Questions: Girl's Behavior

Context : My friend and I are arguing, I feel like she's settiting higher expectations aswell as not taking this seriously. Below are 2 texts.

Me:"Okay so I know Ur busy and I know that u can't respond all the time. I also understand that u don't want deep convos all the time and I get that. However I can't be understanding to the point that I ignore how I feel. I feel that we do only talk when u have a college question or issue. I feel that when I speak about "chill" things that u don't want to ask me more. I know that everyone should priorize themselves but at the end of the day if everyone did and I'll use an example :like a road with a give way sign, if no one let the cars into the road and put others first then we would all be in a traffic jam. l think my point is that sometimes Ur too wrapped up in Ur stuff to be aware enough that other things are going on too. I think we do have polar opposite views and that we are at different stages. But it goes beyond that, you need to improve from the inside out too. I think my points are valid and that if I do make mistakes I own up to them, this isn't one of them. I think u need to reflect "

Her:"Like it is valid I haven't been saying they haven't been but I just say my views and how it think it's been a long time since I haven't been able to be who I am and just changed and I really like this me not being a kiss ass or scared to sac speak to someone. Like I'm Not to the point of not acknowledgingp ppls feelings it cuz I don't want to deal with it and don't care and domt hv the time to care or just don't care in general nothing personal I just don't atm but it's still valid. I don't think I hv set expectations like I've just been having convo with u like doesn't mean u hv to look into it deeply. Like nothing for me rn is deep and don't want to think about it. Like I haven't feel like it has changed and idm cuz I don't feel like anything has chnage and we can still just talk about anything literally idm"

I think most women around me would consider any guy even a year younger than her as a "little brother" and not consider him as a possible love interest.

Do you find yourself ruling someone out when you find out he's actually younger than you? Say, 4 or 5 years younger