Should I care if my apology is rejected?

[romain1985]

I had an arguments with a female friend of mine over a post on Facebook. She took it personal when it wasn’t about her. All I did was reach out to her, asking her if she wanted to hang since I hadn’t seen her in a while. When she asked me about it, I told her it wasn’t directed at her or anyone. However, when she brought it up I thought I would be a good time to tell her I felt ignored my her. She turned it into a big argument. She ended up saying she didn’t need me and that she could prove it. I got pissed and blocked her everywhere. It’s been like 6 months, and I unblocked her. I don’t feel I did anything wrong. I didn’t start the argument, but I sent her a text apologizing without pointing a finger at her behavior. I just apologized for my behavior and for how it might have offended her. She blocked me. It pisses me off because I don’t feel I did anything wrong to begin. I reached out with an apology to smooth things over, and I’m upset that she might now think she has power over me because I apologized.

[Shortman70]

Unfortunately you can't control her feelings. You did the right thing by apologizing but that's all you can do for now. The balls in her court. If you keep trying it'll just push her farther away. I have 2 sons that haven't talked to me in years. I've apologized but until they want a relationship with me, I just have to watch them from afar. I have to watch my grandchildren grow up from a distance. I give presents to them with other people's names on them because if my name is on them their fathers will throw them away without telling them. Someday hopefully she will come back and be friends, when is not up to you unfortunately. Hope this helps.

[romain1985]

Thanks man for sharing that.