DON'T ask a question if you're not ready to accept views which DIFFER FROM YOUR OWN!

[justbanANNAz]

MyTake,

mini rant,

whatever.

This is actually becoming SO common on this site that I think people are missing the point of Girls ASK Guys -.-

Before I go on, I'm all for having our own sets of values and beliefs and defending our opinion if someone tries to poke at it or shame it, but if one is actually making the move of asking the community for opinions, then we mustn't expect or assume that it'll run in our favour all the time.

e.g of what I'm trying to address:

Q: What do you think of.....?

A: Well, in my opinion, I think....

QAsker's comment examples:

~I disagree with everything you just said...

~Well FIRSTLY, you're wrong...

~You're so full of yourself...

~I don't think you understand me...

~But how?

~Why though?

~This doesn't make sense...

~Well I guess you're a close minded person then...

~Yeah right. You're just bullshitting...

~Don't try to play the nice girl/guy role here...

~You're a slut/asshole/messed up n%^&/bitch/ *insert other forms of colourful language*

~This is so invalid.

NOW I could go on and on. a lot of these are real, not just directed at me, but I've seen them around in several other opinions, i'd say 1 in 5 or 6 contains this kinda thing.

To those people who aren't open to discussing conflicting ideas, this site is gonna be hella difficult for u to deal with if u can't handle healthy debate.

Not everyone wants to argue because they've got nuthin better to do. If u wanna reach a CIVIL CONCLUSION, cool, let's respect each other's differences and talk like decent human beans:P

~j.B

[Rcjh1987]

I agree. .. But also I just ignore if they start to get rude... Some people are just set in their ways... I try to stay away from things I know I'm going to completely disagree with.. . Most of those people just want to be told hey your absolutely right I agree with everything you say etc...

[justbanANNAz]

yeah i agree. the best way is to leave the situation alone with some users, or agree with them to shut them up haha.
thanks for ur input=]

[Rcjh1987]

Lmao haha that's true I lol @agree with them to shut them up Haha

[YourFutureEx]

"This is actually becoming SO common on this site"
Not just online but in real life too. People are becoming too ignorant :/

Apart from "~But how? & ~Why though?" I hate every reply you mentioned. I ruin their ignorance with my universal facts & logics.

[justbanANNAz]

very true. great point.

[YourFutureEx]

Thanks ^_^ ~j. B

[xHoneyxBeex]

While you are correct in that, if someone asks a question, they should expect a wide variety of different responses considering everyone on this site is from all over the world and has different experiences, thoughts, ideas, etc. However, that also applies to you when you answer a question. Some of those bullet points you made ARE disrespectful and rude (name calling is never okay), however, others you mentioned are not nasty, it's just a person looking to further discuss the topic. If you answer a question and the QA says something like,
-I disagree with everything you just said
-why though?
-but how?
-that doesn't make sense
-you're wrong because...
-this is invalid

Those aren't the comments of someone who can't accept a differing opinion, those are the comments of someone simply challenging your view and wanting to discuss it. So, what I'm trying to say is, yes QA's should be open to different responses but when you answer a question, you should also be open to people disagreeing with your opinion and questioning it. That's how the site works, that's what promotes discussion and conversation.

[Johnnyjay]

that's exactly what I was thinking. sounds like she is saying poster should accept what they say even if it dosent agree with poster. but the people who respond don't have to accept the fact that the poster dosent agree

[xHoneyxBeex]

Johnnyjay Yeah, I mean, I don't think anyone has the right to be rude and name call others but everyone has the right to disagree and express their disagreement with a particular poster. The QA doesn't have to blindly accept every opinion they get, they're allowed to disagree with an opinion just like everyone else is.

[xHoneyxBeex]

@Johnnyjay

[justbanANNAz]

that's because i took those out of context. in the context I'm addressing, they actually are. i can't show all examples but i see them around.
like I'm all for further discussing a topic, but u know when someone just wants to argue for the sake of it? like they dont actually want to reach a conclusion. thats the kind of thing I'm talking bout. shutting people down is one way of doing that.
anyway i agree that a QA always needs to be open to differing views and at least respect them even if they disagree.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Oh okay, I understand what you mean. Yeah, it's hard to judge without the context of the situation. There are some people who just want to argue with no real purpose and yeah, that does annoy me. I don't mind if someone wants to debate but the second they insult me, I just drop the conversation because at that point, it's clear they don't really want to discuss in a mature way.

[justbanANNAz]

yeah i do the same.
sorry for not clarifying

[xHoneyxBeex]

No big deal :)

[PT1911]

I think its sometimes the arrogance and lack of sympathy really.

I don't sugar coat, but I try to be respectful as possible, so they actually take my advice.

What I hate though is sometimes the superiority complex people get here. I actually want to discuss why they say what they say, try to understand, and most of the time, they don't support their reasoning, it's a "Take my advice because its from me and I know best"

I've told many people on here "you should do this, but be prepared of XYZ. not everything will go the way you want etc" Actual legit advice that outlines the possible outcomes of the decision I tell them, and leave it up to them. I never give the one sentenced answers you see a lot around here. It's clear and rational, and I say it in a way that doesn't disrespect them but in a way shows why I'm saying what I'm saying

But catch me on a bad day, and I don't behave so mature haha. Also I rarely ask questions on here, I do more answering. I fear too many trolls will answer my questions and my time will be wasted

[justbanANNAz]

honestly, i understand where ur coming from and it's a great outlook to have. I'm sure ur answers come off as very respectful. i have tried doing this multiple times, but nothing is more irritating than giving advice thats so detailed and genuine than receiving a shut-down response such as the ones i listed. it's happened so many times, and u just get to a point where u feel, 'ok, this person just doesn't... get it.'

but again, it's good that u opened up another angle to these situations, so thanks.

[PT1911]

At that point I just don't bother lol.

So much time dedicated on gag arguing with people when I could have been in a date bwahahaha (no seriously) #introvert problems

[justbanANNAz]

yeah same haha.
LOL that is actually very sadly true. thanks for that=/
:P

[Anonymous]

because some people believe that despite the fact that they asked an opinion from people they only want to hear what they want out of it and nothing else, its been going on for a very long while but has been rather frequent last year, people who do that either do it because they want to feel right, smart, justified, correct, proud, etc etc and can't accept anything else, they want the community to smother them with positive output instead of allowing them to say their own opinions and accept (or at least acknowledge) it, gag isn't a place to give people a confidence boost, its a place for people to ask and discuss each others views, opinions, questions and issues and help them however they can (and in occasion joke around)

in my opinion there is no way to get rid of those self centered close-minded individuals, you can only ignore them, block them, report them and hope they don't make another account just to rant, give the admins enough reasons to ban them and you can get your wish, but it won't really solve the problem, only avert it, and if nobody does anything about them (like mandatory psychological counseling for example) we'll be overrun by those kind of people by the next century (at best)..

[DivaMonae]

I know exactly what you mean and I couldn't agree more some question sheets are close minded and unless you agree with them then basically it's "my way or the highway". They can't handle other people's opinions and many times the truth so why ask a question when you're really not looking for or you already have the answer that you want?

But at the same time I'm pretty opinionated and like to debate/show or convince people of my point of view however when I do that I will never shove my words down there throat or tell them that their is srong. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion I'm just always up for a discussion.

[justbanANNAz]

yeah pretty much.
c that's a good thing, u can be opinionated on your own terms but you also acknowledge the differing views of others. while at times i have unintentionally come off as offensive to other views, every time i make a mental note that i have to work on how open minded i need to be, and i think we should all attempt to just acknowledge other opinions without having to be swayed by them.
ty for ur input xx

[Creole_Flavor]

OMG thank you!!! I wrote a question a while back about whether people really ask questions for validation sometimes like about decisions they should make or if they were right or wrong. A lot of people come on here expecting to hear what they want and when someone tells them like it is especially if its something ridiculous and almost everyone disagrees they get offended and start saying stupid stuff such as you don't know me or you don't know us there is more to this story blah blah blah. We form out opinions based on what we are told.

[justbanANNAz]

yeah pretty much. iv seen it asked around on the site a few times as well, but yeah disagreements dont sit well with some people=/

[Creole_Flavor]

Maybe they should just talk to themselves in the mirror then lol

[luvme56]

Narrow minded people after reading this take...

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[justbanANNAz]

LOL. :P

[ManaX]

If ignorant people were not allowed to ask questions, it would only lead to then becoming more ignorant.

I find it amusing for a QA to disagree with every answer that dosent reflect their own. They ask a question and don't help themselves because they don't even know how to recieve the help they are looking for.

[justbanANNAz]

yeah i find it pretty funny at times too lol.
but that's a good point u mentioned.

[TedStar]

I agree with you. Another think that grates my tits is asking for an opinion and someone replying with a general an vague answer

Ex. What do boys like in a girl

Answer I hate: "it depends on the boy. Some like blah blah blah and others blah"

^^^^^^ Effing hate that sh! t

What they should reply is with : Well "I" like blah blah<---- That is an opinion. Not some general pc nonsense

*rant over*
*drops mic*
*pics it up again coz that sh! ts expensive*

[Chick180]

That person should word the question 'what do YOU like in a guy/girl?' Otherwise, how are we supposed to answer? I never got that. I like one thing and somebody else may like another thing.
So a vague answer to a vague question is what they're getting.

[jacquesvol]

@Chick180
Bullseye.
You hit it!

[justbanANNAz]

grates my tits. LMAO. ok sorry...

ohh i see. this may be a slightly different issue.

[kangy]

I agree 200%
sometimes i would ask the asker, whats the point of having a question when all you wanted is people agreeing with you.

and people should be participating in forum or site or even asking questions if they get butthurt over little things.

[kangy]

should not be *

[justbanANNAz]

true. thank u for ur input:)

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Preach. I know I lack compassion most times but I am understanding of certain situations. If I agree than I agree but I'm by no means a yes man nor do I sugar-coat my words just so someone is more inclined to liking it. This site isn't about that it's about helping people, giving them new perspectives on life in general. Most times now a days if I even get a hint of thinking someone is whining or some kind of over entitled attitude I usually go about it by giving them I guess a bit of tough love. I see a lot of people don't like that. Does it mean I'll change my answer style? Nope. However since this is the Internet people are going to say a lot of things we don't all like and if it isn't blatanly offensive then so what? Get over it, we don't all know each other there's no reason to bitch because someone disagrees. I'm starting to think most people confuse the meaning of this site and are flocking here instead of going to actual office therapy or support group sites.

[justbanANNAz]

exactly, I'm pretty much on the same page, which is why i wanted to increase awareness about it.
thanks for ur input girl x

[kambo_trick3y]

No you're wrong.

My opinion is always right and anyone who disagrees with me is a stinky poopy head.

So nya nya.

[justbanANNAz]

:O baboon face

[misscoffeehead]

The truth hurts...

Great myTakes hun. Certainly agree with you on this!

[justbanANNAz]

thanks girl x

[misscoffeehead]

☺️😁

[Kris85]

Agreed 100 percent with you. I think the majority of them just want attention and validation and are not interested in actual opinions. They wouldn't how to have an argument in the real world if they can't handle opinions on here. Quite sad actually.

[justbanANNAz]

yeah=/ i mean it's also gonna b hard when dealing with others in the real world that you'll have to be with everyday, such as the workforce etc.

[TheDevilInside]

Also, sometimes I'm just here to voice out my thoughts. Not to debate with some people about it and ending up having to defend my opinion. Some people just don't get that. They poke their noses on my opinions, contradicting me, or saying something derogatory like "lol what a stupid idea" or "you don't know anything about...". Well let me tell you this: You don't like my opinion, downvote me, then move the fuck on. Don't put down my idea because I WILL block you if I find you irritating enough. I'm not here to debate and defend my views, I'm here to answer and voice out my opinions.

[Lothian]

What a wanker. German? Of course.

[TheDevilInside]

@Lothian: nope. wrong. Just because I live in Germany, doesn't mean I'm German, WANKER.

[TheEmma]

The worst are the "Did I do something wrong?" then they explain what happened, people tell them that it is indeed their fault and they get offended, start insulting the ones who comment and then block them lol.

[justbanANNAz]

LOL yeah @jacquesvol brought up the blocking thing too

[Stacyzee]

Yes. I answered 3 Q's on this subject in less than 24 hours.
I've been attacked for my own personal opinion.
It's sad really.
What do people expect? The whole world to agree with them and to hear what is socially acceptable?

[justbanANNAz]

yeah i think iv even noticed one of those, and even tho it's not happening to me, sometimes i feel i just wanna intervene lol, but thas nunna mah business:P
i do agree 100% tho.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Great Take or rant or whatever lol!
People come here for different opinions...
if u wanted people to agree with you or say what you wanted to here GAG wouldn't be so helpful...
Thanks for writing this!

[justbanANNAz]

:)
thaks for ur input!

[PiuBelloAmante]

No problem =)

[BumbleDeev]

This guy on here asked a question about Turkish Guys and if we think they're attractive. I said "they're handsome but not my type"
He said "Turkish guys wouldn't like you either because you're ugly" then he called me a nigga and blocked me.
Like dafuq? You asked for people's opinions. And I gave you my honest opinion. Just because you didn't like it you attacked me and blocked me.
This is why I hate most people

[justbanANNAz]

-.- LOL
there u go.

[TheDevilInside]

Turks and Indians... *facepalm* Where's the surprise?

[justbanANNAz]

not all of them, let's not generalise. @TheDevilInside

[KevinBreakin]

I don't care if someone's opinion is different. What leads to stupid-stuff here is when people are too lazy to read the question they're responding to. I've gotten really catty and derogatory answers about what I wasn't even asking. The ones who actually take the time to read the question generally have more level-headed answers.

[justbanANNAz]

that's also a very good point.

[Hephaestus]

Yeah ya see it a lot
people will ask a question and if an opinion is posted that even slightly differs from what they want to hear, ya become public enemy number 1.

[justbanANNAz]

pretty much. so sad lol