Know What You Want

[pavlove]

I write a lot about all these great girls, and I spend a lot of time breaking down a false ego the media has given people and try to build in it's place a connection back to that good loving self esteem you had when you were a kid. But lots of people who would be considered the "Greats" suffered painful lack of self esteem and still built amazing things. So what's the difference between them and people who suffer through mediocrity and lack all their lives?

All that matters at any given moment is that you know what you want

When you know what you want nothing else matters because when you know what you want passion and drive build up inside you and direct you to what you need to do to get them. Therefore, in terms of generating raw power, the only thing I need you to do is know exactly what is that you want? It's what gets you up at 3am to play WoW for five hours and max our your character before school at 7am. It's what causes you to take that waiter job you hate so that you can buy your girlfriend an expensive gift for her birthday, it's what causes you to propose to your SO when it absolutely terrifies you to do so, it's what causes you to walk into your boss's and requestthat pay increase that you deserve. It's what causes the skinny kid who caught picked on in gym to have perfect six pack abs. It's what causes the jock to finally sit down and write some of the most beautiful poetry the world has ever seen.

So what do you want?

What do you want? To get married? To own a benz? To retire in five years? To record an album? To get a book published? To date a blonde, a black girl, a geek? It honestly doesn't matter what you want, but that you know very clearly that you can see it in your head. It has to be clear not fuzzy and even if you can't articulate it you should know it in your head crystal clear.

You have to sacrifice

The major problem is that your current lifestyle will have to be altered depending on what you want. You can't be who you are now, you can't live how you want, and get that relationship that you want. You have to give up sleep, or money, or you have to break that habit and break up with your current SO so that you can be available for the person who's going to truly make you happy. You're only alive for one lifetime so you can't waste it.

Kill your comfort zone

What you want always, always, always exists outside of your comfort zone and you have to go out and reach that thing you've always wanted. The girl is out there waiting for you but you're too scared to go out and get her. You sit in your ivory tower looking at it, making analysis after analysis, wondering why you can't have it instead of stepping out of the tower and walking towards it's. It's incredibly simply, but it isn't easy at least not at first.

Your biggest strength isn't your talent or your priveleages, but your will.

The thing that will really get you what you want and why you occasionally see this short guy with this dropdead gorgeous model or this girl who's a better basketball player than any guy you've ever met is becasue they wanted it so incredibly badly they fought for it with all their heart.

You will have obstacles

And when you encounter that obstacle say I WILL outwill you. I WILL outlast you. You can conquer anything if you just push at it. If you keep wanting it the path will reveal itself. You're Rudy, you're every underdog and you will get there because your will is strong as steel. You are never too small for the gym, you are never too ugly for that girl, you are never too dumb for that physics class.

You can't just do the regular path

If you do what the world expects of you, you will only get what everybody else gets. You will never be special and can never have anything that isn't available to everyone at any time. Yes, some are born to priveleage but even among the rich there are those who get what they're given and those who take what they want.

Life can break you

Life is filled with pain as much as it is with joy and life will break you if your will isn't iron clad. There are so many pressures pushing you down from every angle that if you aren't ready to knock back at life it can be absolutely punishing. So we must all be a bit of warriors when it comes to going after the things we want.

Get out of your way, figure out what you'd love to do this year and do it.

2016 Is Your Year

Every critic is just a cynic who lacks the drive and heart to do what I do and do what I have done.
- Patrick Stump

[Prof_Don]

Very well said! If u want something, having the will to constantly persist is critical.

EVERYONE wants things and wants to accomplish goals, but will and sacrifice are the two factors, that most often separate the haves from the have-nots

[karahiri]

Has someone been reading The Alchemist? :)

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Knowing what you want means being honest with yourself. It's sad how difficult it is to just be honest inside our own minds.

[pavlove]

haha it's on my list.

[Entity]

I disagree. As a matter of fact I vehemently disagree.

"When you know what you want nothing else matters because when you know what you want passion and drive build up inside you and direct you to what you need to do to get them."

First myth. The reality is that wants tend to be temporal and this means that your motivations, drives, passions, etc. are all temporal along with the want. This plays out time and time again when people swap majors; they go in thinking "I'll be a X" and come out sometimes something completely different.

"Therefore, in terms of generating raw power, the only thing I need you to do is know exactly what is that you want? It's what gets you up at 3am to play WoW for five hours and max our your character before school at 7am."

No. What gets you to get up and grind in a video-game is it's lack of effort not your overwhelming willpower. That's why most people want to be physically fit and aren't but have enough achievements on Xbox to put some fool to shame. The motivation is totally different, and so is the gain, because now you are talking about two different types of want: Those that are hard and those that are easy. An insomniac being up at 3am playing videogames is not a champion of willpower no different than a person addicted to physical exercise would be a champion of physique.

"It's what causes the skinny kid who caught picked on in gym to have perfect six pack abs."

No. Just no. As a matter of fact I'm glad you mentioned this because now this brings up a distinct third type of want, and that is an external want. Internal wants are totally different; the jock sitting and writing poetry is an internal want but the kid who just wants to get some respect and not be picked on is an external one, his influence is from the outside, he did it to overcome a social problem not because he dreamt of a 6-pack.

I like this a lot. So far, so bad.

" It honestly doesn't matter what you want, but that you know very clearly that you can see it in your head."

Garbage. Most people don't succeed not because they don't want to, or even need to, but because they don't have anything to back the want and the need. Let's go back to our 6-pack kid. How many kids actually start a fitness journey and never finish it because they want respect? Hint: A lot. Do they want it? Yes. So now we go, "oh, but not BAD ENOUGH", fucking bullocks. They want it the most. They just don't have a way to really get there, no real plan, and no hope to succeed.

[Entity]

"It has to be clear not fuzzy and even if you can't articulate it you should know it in your head crystal clear."

Bullshit. The reason is because many things that one strives for may not actually even exist yet. Coming up with new ways to do old things requires drive that is not formulated based off of what exists nor is it based off of some empty crystal clear vision. Most entrepreneurship is based off of a vague idea and the intent to see at least something arise from it, and that's why we write business plans, because that makes that idea more real to those who are not us.

"You have to sacrifice"

No. Many of the world's greatest and most successful people didn't sacrifice anything. Actually they got more than most people do out of life pursuing. The underdog story of sacrifice is appealing but it's nonsense because there are zero opportunity costs to self-empowerment. "I have to give up sitting doing nothing to go to the gym and get healthy. :(" <--- said no one ever.

[Entity]

"Kill your comfort zone

What you want always, always, always exists outside of your comfort zone and you have to go out and reach that thing you've always wanted."

No. Actually it's the opposite. Most of the things we want exist well within our comfort zone. Most of the things we need exist outside our comfort zone. This is worse than a motivation poster. First and foremost the reality is we want it, and we want it, if it's an internal want, because it's appealing to our inner selves. That means we want it because it's in the comfort zone of ideas. The steps taken, the needs to actualize, may not be but the actual want itself always is.

Difference? Yes. Huge. Trust me. I don't need to explain why saying, "I want to be healthy" is totally not "I will strive to be healthy."

As a matter of fact speaking of women talking about how to grow some confidence, you don't grow confidence by wanting confidence, funny shit, huh?

[Entity]

"Your biggest strength isn't your talent or your priveleages, but your will.

The thing that will really get you what you want and why you occasionally see this short guy with this dropdead gorgeous model or this girl who's a better basketball player than any guy you've ever met is becasue they wanted it so incredibly badly they fought for it with all their heart."

Ignoring objectification actually your talents do play a major part in what you want, why you want it, and whether it's attainable to your or not. I have no idea what jealousy (what you just wrote about in this segment) has to do with this. Looking at it from a pragmatic viewpoint this is extremely unhealthy thinking; for one you don't know if that "short guy" didn't just have naturally good aim and some good arms, that's all you need really, and ignoring other fundamental elements for the "main element" is just... poor thinking. I get the "practice, practice, practice" reference though.

[Entity]

Fortunately you will have obstacles. That's true. Well, no it isn't, ha! It really isn't. The only obstacle between you and the gym is your couch and your door. For many things the only obstacle is the presence of a personal vendetta against your own self. Because it turns out that willpower actually goes both ways; you can totally will yourself to fail, and ironically willpower to not change is sometimes stupidly strong.

The only obstacle in most things you want is you. Again, man against the world, sounds great, but there also things you cannot overcome through willpower. For instance, since you were talking about girls before, when she says "no". Or when you walk up to that boss and say, "I deserve a raise!" and they say... "No. Go back to work." Or when you walk right up to that boardroom and say, "BUY MY IDEA!" and they say, "not interested".

Then you just try another. But that's not overcoming an obstacle, that's admitting defeat and moving forward.

[Entity]

"You can't just do the regular path

If you do what the world expects of you, you will only get what everybody else gets. You will never be special and can never have anything that isn't available to everyone at any time. Yes, some are born to priveleage but even among the rich there are those who get what they're given and those who take what they want."

I hate this shit. Actually you can do the regular path. Following your forefather's examples is a great idea, and it really, really works, really, really well! You don't have to reinvent the wheel to be amazing, to get what you want, and to live as you see fit. This prospect of being TED worthy because you did something radically different is false; Einstein went through college just like everyone else to get his Master's like everyone else does in Physics. He was amazingly good at Physics but he didn't break the mold, drop out, and think he was hot shit. This is a primary reason why people fail.

[Entity]

"Life is filled with pain as much as it is with joy and life will break you if your will isn't iron clad."

It is more likely that you break you than life breaks you.

Life doesn't give a fuck about you let alone seek to undo you. Ironclad will or jelly soft confidence again there really isn't an external element to this. Once more with the underdog thing.

I want to express this:

You are not that great that anyone cares enough about you to break you. And you will likely never be that great. And that is because you don't want anything that's great enough for anyone to care. You want some pussy, a car, a house, and some cash; wow, let me go and start a movement to stop you because... that is really, really rare.

You want to end war in Tanzania? Now we're talking about oppression. But that's not you, California Dreamin', you just want to bust a nut in a bed you own in some eye candy.

[apple24]

Wow!!! I wish i could just DO IT! But i am still waiting around!

[pavlove]

for what?

[Ashely_Princess]

👏👏👏 great take! 😊😊

[pavlove]

thanks!!

[Ashely_Princess]

You're welcome

[OfAfricandescent]

I like this mytake.

[pavlove]

thanks!

[xxcchhllaauu]

my goals cannot be obtained I was born acursed