Wonder Why Men Cheat? (Page 2)

[Ellie-V]

I don’t care why some men choose to cheat. It’s not my business but obviously they are just cowards trying to avoid whatever consequences they are scared of. It’s wrong and not everyone is like that. I feel like it’s quite easy to spot a cheater but I guess there are folks who need to strengthen their intuition.

[jasco]

More then likely gonna get a lot of hate from this but uh some of your points i agree with, but from personal expericence as a hoe, i can't say everything you say is right. For me i was watching way to much anime and ended up having the mentality that all women would be like the ones in the shows and stuff. Turns out there nothing like that and when i realize it, honestly i wasn't smart enough or just not interested in understanding the truth of that so i kept going. Some time later i stop it and i started trying to be grow up and accept my past and what i was. I have change a lot and as of now, i just have been growing. I can say that for me the main reason other then wanting a harem was the fact that it was fun, thrilling, challenging and by far interesting. The human mind is amazing. Thankfully i am no longer that type of person and yea.

[Phentromix]

Men lose interest more easily than girls do. After getting a girl he wanted, he now doesn't feel the challenge and now has accomplished. Because men lose interest more easily, they tend to find other girls more interesting. BUT this is all in comparison to women. If your man loves you enough, he must stay. There is no excuse in that and this psychological thing that I mentioned is no excuse as well. Where there is love, there is no cheating. Don't go out with someone until both of you are sure about your feelings and that is an important part.

In conclusion, psychologically, men lose interest more easily than women, that's the reason. But loyalty is something different, something which is related to trust more than love and cheating on someone has no excuses.

[OmNomaly]

There's is no excuse for anyone to be unfaithful. Period.

Man or woman.

It goes both ways.

I myself never found how someone could be so heartless as to cheat on someone and fuck with them emotionally.

You could switch the gender roles in your question and it would still be relevant.

[zeitgeist057]

I've seen one other MyTake (maybe more, but I didn't notice?) and they all start with some version of "There might be people who disagree with me. If anyone disagrees with me, it's because they are insecure/(insert negative thing here)"

Nonetheless, an interesting take on some of the reasons men (or women) might cheat. Sounds a little butt hurt, like perhaps someone has been cheated on a bit?

[AmeerX]

Mostly I found the following stories where a couple got divorced or the man cheated.
1. The wife was too controlling and mistrustful. This ultimately led to him cheat like a self fulfilling prophesy.
2. The wife was too demanding and whining and there was no peave of mind.
3. Reason which I think is BS. The other woman swayed him. That a bunch of baloney to dump it all on the women you cheated with on your wife.

[alance99]

Nice Mytake and i really appriciate.

There are many reasons for cheating like poor upbringing so they dont respect women around them and just treat them as objects, over- confidence regarding their looks like they think they can easily get any girl in their bed and have fun and move on to other one without caring about her feelings.
All i can say is i am strong beliver of karma and those cheaters do pay for it at some point in their life

[maxdoesss]

Usually when a man cheats, it's because his physical needs aren't being met. Usually when a woman cheats, it's because her emotional needs aren't being met. That being said, both men and women are predisposed to varying degrees of monogamy/polygamy based on their genetics, how they were raised, how many prior partners they've slept with. Additionally for men, we experience varying degrees of the Coolidge effect.

[juleyboo74]

I think they are designed biologically to want to fuck. They avoid it through adult maturity - restraint, parent teaching, religigious teaching and an the conviction of guilt. Most importantly, couples have to work together to help avoid getting into the positions of temptation.

[SkipPerk]

You forgot one: women using sex as a weapon. Most men are fine with sleeping with their wives every night. If their wife is refusing to sleep with him for some bizarre reason, resisting temptation gets considerably harder. My wife cheated on me, and for the life of me I do not understand why. I know there are many women in the same boat (normal sex life, seemingly good home). That is the scary situation, where it simply makes no sense.

[SoapySandwich]

I used to cheat probably for selfish reasons, not that I didn't care for my partners, just cared more for the life I wanted.

One of the main reasons I cheated was because I didn't understand that I could be open and honest and still have the relationships I wanted.

[kespethdude]

While it's an excellent take understanding why they do it, it doesn't excuse it, nor did I notice anything in it implying that it does, which is also good. Regardless of the reason, the only exceptable solution is to kick him to the curb and move on.
#wowgirlrocks indeed.

[Avicenna]

Very good, but thrill seeking, rather than feelings of inadequacy, is a major reason for cheating

[MannMitAntworten]

Perhaps it is just me but I cannot see cheating as thrill seeking. Not even the sexual component. Perhaps when I envision/engage in some form of thrill seeking it always contains an element that could kill me... and an angry girlfriend with a clever isn’t something I can qualify as a risk versus the “fallout” that it is. I have had my ass chewed out by an ex for my risky behavior before and it was here chewing me out because she wanted me alive, well, forever. However, never was it for me stepping out on ”us”. Just not something I would ever do nor does it remotely feel, “thrilling” ... let alone, exciting. But again, that is just my sentiments. I suppose for some there could maybe be a thrill element. I just don’t see it.

[MannMitAntworten]

Was her* not here...

[Avicenna]

@MannMitAntworten: I‘ve never cheated, but I’ve had friends who did, and that’s what I observed- they found it thrilling to chase, to be wanted, and to have illicit sex.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is as I mentioned, I personally do not see a thrill in it, but I suppose anything is possible... and a lot of people do lead a dull existence so I perhaps cheating is about as big a thrill they’ll ever experience. Getting laid is too damn easy to be any form of a thrill for me. I suppose there is something to be said for finding excitement in small things. I have pretty much run out of things which excite me.

[WowwGirl]

Yeah

[WowwGirl]

You're right

[0112358]

I think more married people pribably chest due to inadequacy in relationship, but more acts of cheating are by the thrill seekers as that group cheats habitually.

[Tonytoutouni123]

In my opinion, evolutionary reasons are the reason why people cheat. Their sex drives tells them to do so. This applies to both sexes.
it’s subconsciously all about passing ones genes as often and successfully (with „good genes“) as possible into the next generations.
people aren’t 100% made for monogamy

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

"it’s subconsciously all about passing ones genes as often and successfully (with „good genes“) as possible..."

- Successful -

I doubt if that kind of men want babies from all of women he sleeps with. If so, why many are so afriad of making a partner pregnant? Why want abortion? Moreover, studies say that children raised by a single parent has a lower rate of surviving.

Nature's not really a smart program sometimes.

[Tonytoutouni123]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa

On a conscious level you are definitely right! Nowadays a man definitely does not want every woman he sleeps with to become pregnant.
There are also some people who consciously do not want to have children at all. But on a subconscious level anyone who has a sex drive also wants to have offspring. This is not a contradiction.
The sex drive in men is there to make women pregnant.
Sex feels good in order to make us mate. That is why it was invented by nature.

By using condoms we trick the sex drive in our favour. We get the good feeling of sex without a woman getting pregnant. We get the good feeling of sex without a woman getting pregnant. The man's body thinks after sex "Yes, I got another one pregnant. Well done 👍"
But the consciousness knows of course that this is not the case. And is glad about it

"Moreover, studies say that children raised by a single parent has a lower rate of surviving."

Yes, that's unfortunately true. Therefore nature roughly distinguishes 2 types of men.
Type 1: He tries to successfully pass on his genes to the next generation by constantly changing females and trying to get as many of them pregnant as possible. Because he does not take care of the offspring, the probability is high that the child will not survive unless the woman finds another man to whom she can put the child. Since the type 1 man gets many women pregnant, he accepts that a few die because he has got many more women pregnant.

Type 2: he tries to bring his genes into the next generation by getting only one woman pregnant and helps to raise the offspring to increase their chances of survival. So it is a different strategy!
Anyway, this man also has a sexual interest in cheating when the opportunity arises. But he does not want to leave his wife.

[broken_heart_at_48]

I would say for the same reasons as women cheat but men do seem to be more needing of sex than most women. Really I believe it boils down to lack of self control, selfishness, and little to no respect for their SO

[billmunch]

Dated a sad, little Chinese Muppett for three months. She had been single for 5 years to that point. Anyway, after two months of dating, she still wasn't even ready for a high five let alone sex. So, I cheated and kicked little miss issues with intimacy to the kerb. Of course, when I sent her packing, she was immediately ready, but no. These things are time sensitive.

[Redred56]

As far men go cheating I’ll only go as saying to simplify it (It takes 2 to tango) enough said!
As far as the man goes being "content"! According too who? I know such a person that stays home
All the things women say! She works, he works. She has a lover on the side! Remember the man
Cheats now! But my friend stays home. There is a name for that! See if you can guess?

[888theGreat]

Men hoard things like women, guns, knives, and cars. But it is also lack of morals. It could also be their Dad cheated. Men whose father beat their mothers , usually beat their girlfriends and wives.

[WowwGirl]

True

[888theGreat]

It could also be health issues with her or A guy thinks he is all that and a twinkie and a gift to all women, that their life is now complete because he boinked them. It could also be he wants oral or anal and wife won't do that.

[cth96190]

Interesting.
I cannot comment on the accuracy of the views that were expressed, because I have not been motivated to cheat.
All that I wanted was one special woman to love, but God decided otherwise.

[JesterRose]

On a biological level men are pre-programmed to spread their seed to as many possible choices as are available, i mean thats the basics of survival in most species. Men can impregnate many women at a time, but women can only be pregnant by one at a time.

Society and the moral code it lives by goes against programming. Not to say that people should follow that programming, but it doesn't erase the fact that it exists.