Someone on GAG recently answered a question about alpha males and beta males, and I thought that their answer was the most realistic one out there to this question. They acknolwegded that both alpha males and beta males are necessary for society to function properly, and I agree with that. However, their answer was short and I want to explain that in more detail, in this MyTake.
A lot of people misunderstand what an alpha male is, they think an alpha male is a rude, arrogant, misogynistic bully. They think alpha males are no longer compatible with scoiety, and barely exist anymore. That is incorrect.
Alpha males are just as common in the modern world as beta males, or men who are neither alpha males, nor beta males. It is society at large that decides who are the alpha males in their society, not the alpha males themselves. Society has always seen men with a rare set of traits as the traits of alpha males, those traits have never changed.
A NATURAL LEADER
Alpha males usually end up as leaders of any group they are a part of, whether they want to be the leader or not. When members of a group see the traits associated with alpha males in the behavior of any person within that group, they start to encourage that person to take up the position of the leader. This can apply to any group, from a group of friends at school, to a group of militant mercanaries. Wether that group does good things or bad things is not relevant, alpha males exist in both, groups of good people, and bad people.
CHARMING AND CONFIDENT
It is difficult to describe what charm is in words, but charming people tend to be liked by almost everyone around them. These are people everyone wants to hangout with, these are people everyone is nice and helpful to, these are people whom others easily trust. Charm makes a person follow the individual that is charming, you could say charm has a magical effect. Such people tend to exude confidence, women tend to feel drawn to them in their physical presence, other men tend to lose their confidence around them. There is an aura of dominance around them that cannot be explained in words properly. Such people are not afraid of new experiences, they do not breakdown at the sight of a seemingly impossible challenge, they simply carve a path out for themselves. These are the reasons why they are expected and encouraged to be leaders. There are alpha females out there as well, who embody all the traits that an alpha male has.
AN AMBITIOUS SURVIVOR
A lot of people misunderstand what makes someone an alpha, it's not money, success, or power alone that makes someone an alpha. Alpha males and females are first and foremost survivors, usually those who came from nothing. These are the people no one expects greatness from, yet they survive and they achieve things that leave a permanent mark in society and the minds of the people. It is overcoming those experiences that are considered impossible to overcome, that makes someone an alpha. Without conquering the impossible, having money, success, or power, is just being privileged.
THE ALPHA ATTITUDE
Though there are a categroy of people who are not alpha males or females, but they have what you could call the attitude of an alpha. They are confident and charming, they believe in themselves, they are not afraid of the unknown, they are ambitious and they do not feel threatened by others or their successes. They are not necessarily survivors though. Most women are highly drawn to such men sexually, wether those women be alpha or beta themselves.
A few examples of alpha males and females are: Keanu Reeves, Elon Musk, Eminem, J.K. Rowling, Joan of Arc, Spartacus, Augustus Caeser, Adolf Hitler, Joseph Stalin.
Some fictional characters who are alpha males and females are: Vito Corleone (the Godfather), Michael Corleone (the Godfather), Voldemort (Harry Potter), Bruce Wayne (Batman), Sarah Conner (Terminator), Lara Croft (Tomb Raider), Alice (Resident Evil), Daenerys, Jon Snow, Arya Stark, Tyrion Lannister, Petyr Baelish, Varys (Game of Thrones).
Now for the other part of this MyTake.
Contrary to popular belief, men and women who are not alpha males or alpha females, are not necessarily beta males as well. Beta males and females are just as rare as alpha males and females. Most men and women embody some traits from alphas, and some other traits from betas. There is no label for those people, and they are the majority of the population of the world.
Most people do not understand what a beta male or female is, they think beta males are people who are too psychologically or physically weak to function in society, that is incorrect. Beta males are healthy individuals who are passionate about helping others, they prefer living for others instead of living for themselves. They do not feel threatened by alpha males and they do not mind following an alpha male or an alpha female. They are a necessary cog in the machine that is society, without their willingness to help those in need and without their willingness to follow, society could fall apart. They make the world a more positive place for everyone.
Beta males are passionate about helping others acheive the goals they have set for themselves in life. Beta males are willing to shoulder your burdens, so you could feel at ease. Beta males are the kind of friends who would look after the child of a single mother, so she could go out and have a fun night. Beta males are the kind of friends who would help you study day and night for a test. They are the kind of friends who will selflessly listen to you when you are going through a tough time, like a breakup, divorce, or if you are recovering from abuse, etc. Beta males feel good when they do these things, it increases the feelings of positivity in their life. Men and women who are being nice to you to get something from you are not beta males and females. They are simply bad people.
While beta males have adequate self-esteem, it may seem like they are pushovers sometimes. Beta males are willing to let go of past offences, if they believe you are genuinely remorseful. Beta males do not seek revenge, they are very good at moving on from a negative experience, which is part of what makes them good at helping others move on from bad experiences.
Beta males do not have a big ego, they don't feel the need to win. Instead, these people would sabotage their own expected victory, just so someone they care for could feel better about themselves. These are the kind of people that will ignore mild bad behavior, if they feel like that the bad behvaior was a temporary act done under a state of stress and rage, or if they feel like the bad behavior is a part of the other person's personality, that it was not intended to hurt. For example, some people swear a lot while others find it offensive, a beta male is likely to ignore if someone were to swear at them, unless it was being done constantly and if it was specifically intended to hurt their feelings. Even then, the beta male would simply let the other person know that it not nice to swear. If the other person continues to swear, the beta male is likely to ignore them instead of swearing back or starting a fight.
Beta males are calm and gentle, and prioritize someone's emotions over other things. They tend to have deep friendships with their friends, and very intimate relationships with their partners.
So, alpha males and beta males are not the opposite of each other, if anything they get along well. None is ultimately better than the other, some people prefer to surround themselves with alpha males, while others prefer to surround themselves with beta males. Some women are attracted to alpha males, while other women are attracted to beta males. Though, it would be correct to say that when it comes to sex, most women want to be dominated and that is likely why alpha males are considered hot.