I'm listing this under guys behavior, primarily because I'm fairly certain many men are to blame for what goes on concerning this topic. That being said, let me tell you that I've been in the "friend zone", to a point that I feel it was legitimate, and have not only found my way out, but as a married man occasionally come into contact with womenfolk who regret not giving me a try back in the day.
"See the fucks I literally don't give?"
Well how does this apply to me and what does that mean as far as getting myself out of/understanding what this guy is doing in the friendzone? Well, sometimes a guy is focused on his future. And a lot of times, that nerdy guy you cheated off of in physics class while being flirty with who asked you to prom? Well, he has a history of finishing school, you know, and college. Me? I married a C/S major (if you don't get it, I don't care). She's a cute little foriegn exchange student who has chosen to work with me on spending the rest of our lives together. And it's awesome.
See, there's two types of guys who get friendzoned. There's the guy who's fucking clueless, and there's the guy who's focused on NOT YOUR BOOBS. This guy is a little lost when it comes to females because, well, he's focused on stuff like "One day, I'd like to be able to afford a nice house in a good neighborhood" or "College is where I go to learn stuff about making money".
"Yeah, it's nicer than your baby daddy's apartment, and no, you had too many babies."
Guess what, that high ranking school system for your future kids? It costs money to live in a place like that. Yes, I said it. Crazy story, it costs MONEY to live in a good neighborhood and near a school with a good education system. So whatever you've heard about "happiness being more important than money", well, it doesn't mean shit when you can't put food on the table for your kids. So guess what all you guys who've been focused on school and not boobs? IT WORKS! I'm now married to one awesome chick, live next to a nature area, and when we decide to have kids together? They have a GREAT school system to attend!
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Maybe I read this wrong, but it reeks of the "you'll regret turning me down because I'll be that stable guy in the future" superiority complex. These articles (and this site in general) I thought were supposed to help people, but I've found that it's only a place to give opinions, hence them changing their terminology from "answer" to "opinion".
But yeah, I'm happy that you have a good life going for you now with a wife and all. But telling dudes to subconsciously or otherwise look down on the girls who turn them down is hardly going to do them any good, especially when a lot of them are looking for pity to begin with.
No one is telling people to look down on others, but there's a truth to the real expenses of, dare I say, living happily. And a lot of the message being sent out is "money can't buy happiness" and blah blah blah. But, here's the crazy story. Stability is sexy. That's why I didn't choose to end this with "And I won, all the bitches, ever" I chose to end this with THE FACT that living in a neighborhood with a good school system costs money. And I worked for that, and one day my kids will love it. And now that I'm a little bit older and meet women who are focused on a little more than what's on the surface, I do fucking great.
Oh, I don't disagree with you on the first part. Money does buy security and ultimately happiness. If money doesn't buy happiness, it at least lets you buy your own preferred type of misery lol
But even with you not saying all of this overtly, it still smells of it. Basically I can say it like this: it might not be a knockout blow to the girls that rejected you (or the girls that might have rejected a guy reading this), but it definitely feels like a jab. I think the term "alpha" gets a really bad rep, and rightly so for all the idiots hijacking it to explain themselves away. But the REAL alpha thing to do is to move on and not get hung up on these sorts of things.
A girl rejects you? No problem, keep your train moving. How they end up in life is their problem, and I don't see why it needs to be analyzed how someone might be doing something wrong in the 'here and now' that will affect them in the future.
Teaching guys to not take things too seriously or personally while they're young sets them up for a healthy mindset as they age.
I guess it's just topical, I was focused and hard-working... and I don't care what you or anyone else really thinks? I don't know? I had a few beers, read a cracked article, and thought it would be funny if I talked about college girls and how "everyone has to grow up together" and that "there's two kinds of people who end up in the friendzone"... But to argue that, I'd have to care that someone decided to promote my post when I was too drunk to finish it...
Well the important question now is: what were you drinking? :)
I'm all for constructive criticism but let's face it, this was a baby I didn't even mean to make. The original introduction was actually about having fun in college and how that equated to not worrying about what some chicks were into because, it might have not been you for reasons beyond your control. And it's totally cool to actually be a nerd. So you're sitting here with the body of something with no preface... And I'm chilling in Korea because happy lunar new year bro.
The friend zone is just a nickname for a situation where the one you are interested in is not interested in anything romantic with you. The friend zone is that simple. The friend zone is for those who have not accepted the reality of their situations.
Yes, that's why it's called the friend zone. Because people haven't accepted reality. Or, you know, maybe peoples goals when they're younger are less defined and they like to experiment and try new things.
yea I was thinking same thing as that guy. you choose to study and not date im guessing
Jesus no. I don't have the worst record in college either, but when you're 18-23 it's a different game. There's a reason it's called an experimental age. Girls might not want to do the dance of the beast with two backs with you at that age kust because there's other more fun stuff to do...
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