Shy guy runs hot and cold. What's up with this behavior?

[CutestMommyEver]

Is it typical for them to do so. Should I run? Should I stay? Should I pursue? I want nothing more than to be with this man, and I tell u it just sucks, sucks, sucks! Ugh!!!

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes it happens to shy guys, they are meaning nothing by it
it basically is the fact they do it cause their afraid to get hurt
some can't warm up to a girl, some don't mean to be that way
least on my part, I'm the sweetest guy but shy as hell but i
do not leave the girl, i do text, talk on phone, laugh lots due to
my shyness yes it sucks big time but i don't break up with a
girl over being shy , yes with me I come out of my shell

[CutestMommyEver]

I think there are different variations of this anxiety

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes there are different types of anxiety

[CutestMommyEver]

I'm saying s.a.d. There are varying levels of shyness, and with proper attention, self care , and counseling, u can get past whatever it is that's holding u back. There's always a reason

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes there is always a reason, I been under psychiatric care since age 19 but I had a bad family life, I was a bully victim, i had no one to help me, i would report the bullies but it was still there, i had learning ability issues.Different people had different stuff happen in their life , I am also Bipolar, Schizo-affective disorder, Personality disorders. I been on many medications for several years some helped , some didn't help me

[CutestMommyEver]

I under stand the struggle. I as well have been in your boat! I am now battle g.a.d. With m.d.d. so I can relate on so many levels

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Best wishes xD

[CutestMommyEver]

Thank u. U2. In my situation, at was an abusive ex that did the trick for me!

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Your Welcome and Thank You too xD

[Anonymous]

It's not worth it.

If someone is really interested in you, they make it easy for you to get with them, they don't pull and push, they don't play games.

They don't make up excuses, move on and find someone with a backbone.

[DerrickRicketts93]

A lot of "shy guys" I know kinda get discouraged after a girl mind games them or plays hard to get.

[CutestMommyEver]

Really. He's been trampled by woman in the past but I've made it so obvious that I like him, it's like a neon light hanging over my head now.

[DerrickRicketts93]

Lmao well then thats on him

[CutestMommyEver]

Yeah I think if I could smack him over the head with it, it may knock some common sense into it. On how to treat the ladies

[Anonymous]

I'm shy too and I do the same stuff sadly. I act interested and I pull away and its the same thing over and over. If you want him you gotta pursue him.

[CutestMommyEver]

Everyone tells me he cares about me but he's been hurt. I'm so tired of the excuses. Stop leading me on and sugar coating the bull shit. Give it to me like my whiskey straight on the rocks!

[Opinion Owner]

What do you like about him is he tall good looking? Nice personality? Why are you so drawn to this man? If he cared about you he'd make a move but the ball is in your hands now.

[CutestMommyEver]

I put the ball back in his court, so hmmmmm. He's very nice. He cares about people in general, not just himself. He is great with kids and animals. He actually listens to me and remembers the littlest things about me. Things I wouldn't think he would remember. And surprises me by bringing them up at the most random times. It feels like he knows me better than I know myself, and yet he is just so mysterious to me. He makes me laugh our humor is much of the same. He makes me feel safe and happy. But I don't know that's it I guess. His eyes are beautiful, I'm in love with his face, but he is a little chunky boy he's tall, but stalky. Not the best shape body wise, but neither am I.

[Anonymous]

i'M LIKE THAT IM SEXY BUT HOT AND COLD.
IM FKN PYSHCO THOUGH SO ITS LIKE YOU SHOULD RUN!!
AND FKN FAST

[zombiebabe]

yeah

[CutestMommyEver]

But I'm psycho too. We can be psycho together...lol

[Opinion Owner]

ME AND YOU AGAINST THE WORLD BB (:

[CutestMommyEver]

Ah yeah now that's what I need to hear. Lol!

[Opinion Owner]

we can be like bony and clide bb (:

[Opinion Owner]

nothing can stop us

[CutestMommyEver]

Ok tupac!

[Opinion Owner]

NAH im 3pac
i dont give a hoot son

[CutestMommyEver]

Oh boy oberto

[Opinion Owner]

Call me rico suave (:

[zombiebabe]

just run baby...

[CutestMommyEver]

Like the wind...

[zombiebabe]

yeah

[CutestMommyEver]

Why do u say? U sound like u have experience here.

[zombiebabe]

yeah if a guy acts hot n cold..he has a pretty unstable personality and you might keep on trying to understand his behaviour/feelings but you will never be able to fully understand him...you might getting stressed

[CutestMommyEver]

Yes very much so...ah to heck with him. I'm so much better than that. That's for surr.

[CutestMommyEver]

But u know, now that I think about it, he's not really running hot and cold, he's trying to play games with me.

[zombiebabe]

he is a player then

[CutestMommyEver]

Yeah but he's not hot looking to me like players I dealt with in the past

[zombiebabe]

better leave him and stop wasting your time

[biggie90]

lmao just run!!! If the guy really is 30-35 he should be more mature or confident idk. You can at least talk to him to get the scoop because clearly he won't make a move. Talk to him or regret it that's the way I see it. Good luck.

[CutestMommyEver]

Thank u, and he's 26...7 years my younger

[CutestMommyEver]

It sucks being in this position. Fuck this.

[zombiebabe]

yep it sucks