This guy told me he's going to bed and good night baby, but he's on Facebook after.. Bad thing?

[sneakers79]

I'm talking to this guy and he's telling me he's going back to sleep and says good night baby but then goes on Facebook for a bit...

[jolee1]

Did you know even when you log off Facebook you still appear online on chat for up to 5 minutes. The only way you log out properly straight away is if you click sign off chat. Besides how many devices now do we have running fb, there is tablets, iPhones, laptops, and computers. It is possible he left himself signed in there.

And he is probably winding down. Engaging in back and forth conversation will delay his ability to get to sleep. Casually exploring fb and the internet will make him sleepy.
This is not a reflection on your for sure, unless you see him contacting girls with sexual messages or something.

[sneakers79]

I know... But he was still commenting and liking posts on Facebook up until 1 hour ago... Is this bad? And could this mean he's not interested?

[jolee1]

What kind of posts is he sending? to guys or girls? i don't think so. Could you help me out with a question i just posted if you have time. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1054886-guys-would-you-move-overseas-with-a-girl-friend-coworker-if-you

[sneakers79]

To both, I guess just random posts... This was his text... please tell me what it sounds like to you... Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX

[sneakers79]

And yes I will help you with your question..

[jolee1]

is that what he wrote to the girl. xoxos and babes seems like there is something going on

[sneakers79]

No that's what he texted to me...

[jolee1]

he is very keen. "HE has an annoying mid-shift tomorrow, yet still wants to quote "DEF" catch up with you. and he is sending babes and xoxo's. i wouldn't worry about the fb stuff. i used to get annoyed at one of my ex's for doing that and it drove him away i learnt my lesson

[sneakers79]

Thank you... I was also worried because I had texted him before all that and he did not respond... But then he was on Facebook and commented on his own post saying goodnight to his friends... I then commented (and by the way this was a Facebook post that I had commented on of his yesterday so it was in my notifications) and then right after that he texted me all of that... Was that all a bad thing he did not text me until then?

[sneakers79]

Is that bad or am I just overthinking?

[jolee1]

i think you might be over thinking that last point. he replied, and he replied with a good message that is all you have to remember :)

[CommieDearest]

How many times have you thought you were going to bed and ended up on facebook?

[CreeperZombie]

I think it isn't bad, he prob considers goin on fb part of his sleep cycle

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Well, he likes you cause he said, Good Night baby !
When i show a interest in girl and we are close friends,
i will do that to show my caring more than friendship towards her
It's a pet name to let you know yes he is interested. Does he call any
other girls baby? You play out too much with this guy and you really
have feelings for this guy. You have to start giving this guy signals by
reacting back to him that you like him. If that's something you want do
with him

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Honestly, if the guy spends time with you and he is calling you pet names , the guy seems to like you , Yes he goes on Facebook. Why not say to him , oh baby you going back on Facebook? Say oh handsome i thought you were going to bed? You got give signals
back to the guy if you really care for him. Where you know this guy from?

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

I've always flirted with a girl she would be some what interest but she would never respond back to me so i tend to lay off thinking oh wow the girls not into me

[sneakers79]

I met him on Facebook... And he knows I like him already.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Well, you met him from Facebook someone has got to break the ice

[WoIIie]

This is one of the many reasons I disdain Facebook 's influence on relationships. For science's sake.

This is like you staring into his window at night as he grabs milk from the refrigerator, and wondering why "goodnight love" didn't really mean GOODNIGHT.

[sneakers79]

Exactly!!!

[WoIIie]

I hate to tell ya... But it's over between you two. That milk packs a some serious calcium.

[sneakers79]

Why because of Facebook?

[WoIIie]

Are you serious?

[sneakers79]

Ummm ok!!!

[WoIIie]

This guy is clearly after your looks.

[sneakers79]

Well this guy posts TONS of selfies on his FB page of himself.

[sneakers79]

But he texted me earlier today when he woke plus he called me on his way to work..

[rthomas43]

Don't overthink it.
He told you that he's going to bed and goodnight because he was done talking to you and he was going to begin winding down for bed. He probably just enjoys a little bit of alone time before he crashes out. =]

[sneakers79]

Thank you... I was seriously hoping that I was overthinking it because I had texted him before he said that and nothing, but then he commented on his own post on Facebook and saying he was going to bed, then I commented on his post after that and then that's when he texted me... Is that still ok?

[rthomas43]

Don't be clingy. Give the man his space =]

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Yeah exactly what I said in my next comment have a look.
Do we have exact chemicals in our brains.
Lol

[sneakers79]

Okay I will... but do you think he's still interested? This is what he had texted me... Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX
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[Red_Dragon]

He was just tired of talking to you for today. Doesn't mean he doesn't still like you or w/e.

[sneakers79]

Well then why did he comment on his own post on Facebook to everyone right before he texted me that he was going to sleep?

[Red_Dragon]

I don't understand what your saying. Are you saying he posted a comment and then told you he's going to sleep?

[sneakers79]

Yes he was on Facebook commenting on his own status and then telling people he was going to bed and goodnight.. Then he texted me telling me that he was going to sleep and other stuff and then after that was when I saw him on fb

[sneakers79]

This is what he said... Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX

[Red_Dragon]

Maybe he thought about leaving and changed his mind or maybe he pump faked you. Idk. It seems to me like he was just finished talking, but maybe wanted to do some other stuff on fb. Maybe it was a way of him saying "I'm done talking to you for now but I'm still going to stay on fb".

You seem like the type that would like honesty. I mean I get it, but I guess some people aren't like that. I would have told you I'm staying on a little longer, but finished talking for now. *Shrugs*

[Red_Dragon]

Oh. Yeah that sounds like he pump faked you and wanted to stay on fb for w/e reason.

[sneakers79]

Does this mean he's not interested in me?

[Red_Dragon]

Nah it doesn't mean that. It just seems he didn't want to talk anymore for that time being. Maybe he really was tired and just didn't feel like talking even if he still stays on fb some.

[sneakers79]

I had talked to him earlier today, he texted me when he woke up this past morning. And he called me before work.

[Red_Dragon]

At this point I think your overreacting. None of this gives me any indication that he's not still interested in you. Hell he may have went to sleep still logged in. Don't worry about it. Your jumping the gun girl.

[sneakers79]

I saw him commenting on pics though... But do you think if he was not still interested would he have bothered to text me that? plus also then texted me saying sleep good and have a wonderful rest of my evening, then he called me baby again and then sweetie...

[Red_Dragon]

Ahh your confusing me again. Ok so:

1. Y'all talk on FB.
2. He finally says he's tired and he'll talk to you tomorrow.
3. He stays on FB.
4. He comments to pics on FB.
5. He then text you sleep good and have a wonderful rest of the evening
6. He then says baby and sweetie.

Is that right?

[sneakers79]

Sorry to confuse, no he texts me that long text about texting me tomorrow and then I reply and then he immediately says sleep good and have a wonderful rest of my night and calls me baby and sweetie... Would he have bothered with all of that if he wasn't interested?

[Red_Dragon]

No he wouldn't have bothered. I know if I was interested in a girl I wouldn't say baby and sweetie. You are just worrying yourself to death about this. Again I'm not getting the impression that he's uninterested in you.

[Red_Dragon]

*I know if I was NOT interested in a girl I wouldn't say baby and sweetie.

[sneakers79]

Even if he was commenting on a few posts on Facebook after all that?

[Red_Dragon]

Yes! So what if he makes a few more posts on FB?

[sneakers79]

I had texted him before all that... And didn't say anything... But after he commented on his own post on his Facebook page and part of the comment he said to his friends was he was going to bed.. Then I made a comment on his post... And then right after that he texted me... Why did he not text me until he saw me post on his FB comments?

[Red_Dragon]

He was going to bed, he saw your comment before he went, he responded.

[sawno]

Sounds like something i could do.
After a fun evening chatting right before i go to bed i will check some sites before i go , relax and then sleep.

Its most likely part of his ritual and you shouldn't be worried about it.

[Shaggy5150]

Sounds like he was done talking to you. Either he felt tired, but then couldn't sleep and got back on or he was done conversing with you and was saying goodnight.

[sneakers79]

Oh... I guess that means he's not interested then :/

[Shaggy5150]

Not necessarily. I don't know what he is thinking. I would say he isn't overly interested. Could just be that he was just done talking and wanted to do other things on Facebook. I wouldn't say that he was feeling a deep connection though.

[sneakers79]

Well he had texted me when he woke up that morning, plus he called me on his way to work. Then later on that night I texted him and he didn't reply... So then he commented on a Facebook post of his saying he was going to sleep, (which I commented on the other day) and then I commented on that post and it showed in my notifications... So right then he texted me this: Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX

[sneakers79]

So what is the deal with all of that?

[Shaggy5150]

He can control when he talks to you this way. He can set aside time and not have other things going on. Relax and see what happens. Don't over think it. He is guy you are getting to know via the internet. Don't get overly needy and worried right away.

[sneakers79]

So he's probably interested and I am really just overthinking all this?

[Shaggy5150]

Time will show his interest level. Yes, you are over thinking it. Just enjoy when you two talk and see where it goes. No expectations or demands.

[sneakers79]

So you don't think he would have bothered texting me ( plus he texted me a few things after that calling me sweetie and baby again) otherwise? You don't think he was driven away or done with me or anything like that?

[Shaggy5150]

He wouldn't keep talking to you or reaching out to you if he was put off by you. Just don't hound him constantly, that will put him off.

[sneakers79]

Ok thank you for the advice :)

[Shaggy5150]

Anytime. Glad to help :-)

[sneakers79]

I'm sorry, one more thing... Do you think he intends not to talk to me anymore?

[Shaggy5150]

I haven't heard any reason why he wouldn't. Time will tell.

[apropos]

OOooohhh, a sleuth. I'm the same way.

Don't read into it too much. Sometimes a conversation just kind of dies close enough to bed time so you call it quits with that particular person.

[Shyguy_1988]

I do that when I want to see what's going on but don't actually want to talk to anyone. Means nothing, just want to read some articles and have alone time. Don't look much into it.

[sneakers79]

Well he had texted me when he woke up that morning plus he called me on his way to work... Then later on that night I texted him and he said nothing, but then he was on Facebook and had commented on a post of his that he was going to bed and then I commented on that post (which had showed in my notifications) and right after that he texted me this: Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX

[sneakers79]

So what does all that mean? Is he interested or not?

[sneakers79]

And did I drive him away or would he have bothered if not?

[Shyguy_1988]

Well, sounds like there is some interest, but a word of advice. If he likes you and is interested he'll come to you. If you just through yourself at a guy that normally doesn't end well, don't make yourself too available and don't seem clingy like you need his attention. In all honesty, you don't, you're in the early stages of friendship and can lead into more but if it doesn't it shouldn't matter. Just wasn't meant to be.

[sneakers79]

Thank you I appreciate that... I will take that advice... And would he have even bothered to text me all that plus right after that he texted that he had hoped I had a wonderful day, plus he said that he would talk to me tomorrow and called me baby and then sweetie.. Would he have even bothered to say that? Or if he was not interested what would he have done instead?

[Shyguy_1988]

Really depends on the guy, he may be naturally flirty, I don't know his personality. Me, I wouldn't ever say that unless I was in a relationship with said person, I'm not really the flirty type.

[sneakers79]

Do you think he would not have bothered to text me back at all if he were not at all interested?

[Shyguy_1988]

Probably not. But its best to find out exactly what he is interested in if you know what I mean. I don't know what your relationship is like with him so its hard for me to know what his intentions are.

[thepaperbagtest]

So he's not allowed to go on Facebook after wishing you a good night?

[sneakers79]

True... I see what you're saying... It's just that I was worried because I had texted him before all that and he didn't say anything... But then he commented on his own Facebook post and in his post he was saying he was going to sleep... I then commented on his post after that and that is when he finally texted me back right after that... Does that seem like a bad sign to you? Or am I just overthinking?

[thepaperbagtest]

If he's not your bf I wouldn't worry about it

[Theguywhomadeurday]

No he is just done with the contents to talk about.

There is nothing to worry id he is online up to 10-15 mins.
But if its like an hour then you have all the rights to feel bad. ☺

[sneakers79]

This is what he texted me... Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX

[sneakers79]

Do you think he would have bothered texting me all that if he wasn't still interested in me?

[Theguywhomadeurday]

He is interested in you.
It was just that he was exhausted.
Nothing to worry about. 😀

[sneakers79]

Even if after all that he is on Facebook for a little while commenting on people's stuff?

[rthomas43]

He's interested. Being in a conversation with someone is a constant obligation, which is why he said goodnight in order to free himself of that obligation for the night. Commenting on people's stuff randomly on Facebook does not enter him into any conversation that he can't walk away from whenever he wants.

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Don't be sad on these small matters.
It can be like if he started conversation with you and it may go long and he won't be able or would not want to leave the conversation in middle so maybe he thought to talk to you in a good mood that's it.

And meet him today if you want.
I don't find any confusion here.

[sneakers79]

Thank you!!! Another thing... Why did he say I'll text you tomorrow if you want!

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Just coz, if you have anything important or not so important to talk about, we can have a conversation tomorrow.
That's it.
Men are really simple they dont think too much just act as they feel like.
And you must not bother with little matters if you want your relationship to grow. ☺

[sneakers79]

Why do you think that when I texted him before that he said nothing... But then when he had commented on his own post on his Facebook page I commented after he did... Why did he text me right after that and not before when I had texted him?

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Coz you made him feel like you are stalking and he didn't wanted to piss you off.

At 30-35 you are that confused about guys?

[sneakers79]

I just tend to overthink things is all.., but in honesty do you think he really is interested?

[Theguywhomadeurday]

There is lots of conversation required to know that.
We can't not assume that on the verge of a single conversation.
Dont over think , just enjoy your life and you are pretty dont get insecure.

[sneakers79]

Well he texted me when he woke earlier this morning... And he did call me on his way to work as well...

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Then obviously he is interested.

[NovemberJoseph]

I do that to my friends all the time, that's just how I get ready to go to sleep. I can't just fall asleep out of nowhere, I have to ease into it lol

[Insaan]

Not a bad thing. Oh girls... you are all really cute ... always curious and confused. Lol

[PANDAmonium]

I almost always hop on my phone when im going to bed just to do something until I feel like I can sleep. I wouldn't put too much into this.

[Myster]

Lots of people do that. Its only bad if he is obviously hitting up the ladies. He could just be telling his bud about you.

[sneakers79]

He has been commenting and liking posts on Facebook up until an hour ago...

[Myster]

Again, "Good night" for some people just means 'I'm beginning my wind down routine.' That could take any amount of time. Unless you see him comment on a bunch of bikini pics you had best leave it alone or you will let your fears show and drive him away.

[sneakers79]

Of course I would never ever mention it... So I am seriously overthinking things then aren't I?

[Myster]

Yes. You are doing what I always do. You are trying to know things you can't know. Get lost in a book or something next time. That s the only thing that keeps me from obsessing.

[sneakers79]

So he is still interested in me despite all of that? Here is the text he had texted me Jessica I'm very sorry was SLAMMED at work which is ALWYS good then came home went for my run but a LOT longer than expected came home showered then passed right out. But if ya want baby I can hit you up tomorrow I'm working 1-8 and will DEF have time to hit ya up if you'd like. XOXOX

[Myster]

Whenever I'm unsure what my current crush is thinking or doing to do one of two things: I force myself to read or do something that takes my mind completely off it or I hang out with people actually doing something. The later has the added benefit that I may get some wanted attention with which I will do nothing about but gets me by until things become clearer. Every time I try to figure it out on my own I overreact and say or do something dumb. Learn from my experience young padawan. I've acrewed up enough good things to know! =)

[kAniShkAKAxar]

Well he might have bored of you or he has some work to do