Co worker blowing hot and cold. Is he interested?

[Anonymous]

Co worker is displaying signs of being interested in me but he is in a relationship which he says is on the verge of a break down. He blows hot and cold. We work in different areas of the floor. He has given me lifts home and told me all about himself and hardships in his life. He comes over just to ask what shift I am on when he already knows it's the same shift for the whole week yet he comes everyday to ask the same question. One day he'll speak to me and the next he'll avoid me. He looks me up and down and has a big grin whenever he sees me but he avoids eye contact. What does this mean? He has told me his relationship hasn't been right for a while and he is trying to fix it. He hasn't admitted if he likes me but I feel his behaviour speaks volumes. He is my type but I could never be a home wrecker or rebound girl. Please help.

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He hasn't actually said he likes me or if I am his type. He has praised his girlfriend to me and said how much she helped him through a dark phase of his life. If they did break up I'd give him time to heal. If he wanted to be friends we could be.

[jeremy20]

He said you're his type. That's a major way of saying he's interested.

The problem is that you'll be exactly what you don't wanna be, either a homewrecker, a rebound, or both. He's not even out of his clearly unhealthy relationship yet and you're already secretly hoping he's interested in you.

All in all, you're in a lose lose situation. In situation A, If he breaks up with her honestly, then comes to you, you're still seen as "that girl." The girl he's with 20 minutes after a break up with a long time girlfriend. In situation B, he two times his current girlfriend and then you are "that girl." That makes you the homewrecker." And, in situation C, even if he transitions smoothly from her to you, you're still going to wonder whether he just wants to do you as a rebound, or if he's going to be in it for the long haul.

All of that aside, if I was you, I would steer clear for the simple reason that he's still in a committed relationship, yet telling another woman that she is "his type." That my friend, is a sorry excuse of a boyfriend and not worthy of your time, because no matter how much a relationship sucks, even thinking about making yourself available while still committed is inappropriate. And, as they say, he does it to her, he can do it to you.

My advice is to tread lightly. Preferably stay clear of the dude.

[Plato]

He definitely likes you, I think it's quasi-genuine as he's also having some blues, that also explains why he's avoiding you sometimes. I would give him a chance if I were you, but take it slow.