What's your opinion on men crying being emotional?

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Like the question asks whats your opinion on men crying and how would you react if you witnessed a man crying?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't like to see my man cry. I am not used to seeing men cry and I don't cry in front of a man. I HATE crying in front of a guy I am dating, so I break neck and limb swallowing anger, stifling tears, etc. (even when it has nothing to do with him). I feel that it makes me less attractive.

This is just me though. I have never seen my dad cry in my 17 years of life. I've seen his eyes water from chopping onions, but that doesn't count. My dad just. does. not. cry. and I've heard that women like men that are like their fathers, so this might be why I feel this way about men crying.

I also take after my mother, (much to my dismay sometimes) who breaks neck and limb not to cry in front of my father. She cries in front of me, but she doesn't like it when he knows that she is sad, despite the fact that he is an extremely caring and understanding person. She just doesn't want to seem less attractive I think... after all these years of marriage... and she still makes efforts to seem attractive to my dad.

Hannah591 · Accepted Answer

It sounds horrible but I love it when a guy cries in front of me. I really feel more connected to them, it allows me to offer them support which I couldn't have given due to not knowing how they felt and it does show strength that they can open up without any qualms. I wish all guys showed more emotion about everything, not necessarily crying at everything, just so us ladies know where we stand and can offer help. I honestly think it's pathetic when a guy holds back tears or if I see a guy doing it on TV, I scream at them saying "SHED A TEAR MAN!".

I would start to see weakness if they cried over the smallest of things, all the time, like crying every time we had an argument. I've cried twice in front of my boyfriend, he's cried three times in 17 months. I still see him as super manly and I really like it if he cries *over* me because it shows just how much he loves me.

Burgundy · Accepted Answer

I see it as a sign of strength, because they're not afraid to break gender roles of 'Grrrr, we are manly men! We don't have emotions! Grrrrrrrr!' Boys don't cry, but men do! Everyone should be able to cry because of what's happening, or not happening, in all our lives. It can be difficult, and for a man to not being afraid to show that is strong. I understand that as a female, I probably don't understand how hard it is to show emotion without breaking gender roles, but I don't have a problem with a man crying, no way.

TheDevilInside · Accepted Answer

I usually melt when I see a guy cry. Because it means that he is truly, deeply hurt. And it's a privilege and an honor that he allowed me to be there instead of pulling himself away or goes away to cry somewhere else.

so yes, crying is a sign of weakness. It's a sign that he is secure about his masculinity, he knows that crying is human and he is human too. It doesn't make him "a girl", it just makes him a human being.

DodgersGM · Accepted Answer

I think it's a big strength for a man to feel confident enough to cry when he needs to. To me, that's someone who's very comfortable in his own shoes and in his masculinity, and he doesn't fear being human.

Now, if the man breaks down in tears because someone snagged his last Pop Tart from the food pantry, then that's a different story. LOL

Macklin91 · Accepted Answer

Depends. I personally feel crying over a death is always permitted. Crying over a broken heart is understandable but if it's like those YouTube videos then your pathetic.

lumos · Answer

I believe it's a sign of strength. In my opinion, it takes a lot of confidence for a man to openly cry, since men are pretty much conditioned at a very young age to not cry. I don't think showing your emotions is a sign of weakness. It's a sign of strength. You're strong enough to let people know how you feel, with the possibility of them even judging you for it. It's hard to put yourself out there like that, emotionally. So I appreciate it.
If I saw a random man crying, I would probably not do anything about it. I wouldn't want to bother him, just in case if something very personal has happened to him. But if it was a male friend of mine, I'd do my best to comfort him, cheer him up and listen to him.

Shutupman · Answer

It's not about weakness or strength, crying is a natural response in every human being.
I wouldn't think anything less of a person, male or female, for crying (ofcourse not for some silly shit like she/he didn't text me back boohoo :'( )
I generaly hate girls who cry too much over nothing, and find it sad for guys who don't cry at all as it is the way they were raised (you cannot cry, you need to be a man).
I mean when I teach the kids at our club, I see more boys cry than girls up to the age of 9- 10 ...
so them not crying is mainly the way they are being raised.
And that is just plain sad, stupid gender roles

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

My heart just melts when I see a man crying. It just makes me want to give them a big hug and comfort them. Of course, I feel that way pretty much when I see anyone crying, not just men. But I don't know, it just tugs on my heart sttings a little more when I see men cry. I guess it's because I associate men with masculinity and being "tough" so it's just ultra sad to me when I see a man break down and cry.

I definitely do NOT think crying is a sign of weakness. Emotions are normal and sometimes those emotions overflow in the form of tears and I think that's perfectly okay. I never look down on anyone simply because they cry. As I said, it just makes me want to comfort that person.

justbanANNAz · Answer

when a man who rarely cries, cries, then i LOVE it. why? because it just adds more depth to him tbh.
needless to say that a man who cries all the time for any damn thing pisses me off... like dude u cry more than me! please! -.-

i think a man who isn't afraid to cry [over a big issue] is stronger than a man who hides it.

and wow... those poll results r awesome:)

LittleSally · Answer

I'd say depends on what he's crying about. There was a question earlier- a guy asked what would we think of him when we saw him crying and pitching a fit because his gf doesn't want to have sex with him a few times a day (or something...). That was ridiculous. I'd think he was a weak, sad little man.
IF he cried because his father died - that's a strong, yet sensitive man.

BrunetteBabe1005 · Answer

I clicked "sign of strength" But I think somehow my vote went to "sign of weakness" I don't think crying should be classified as weak or strength, I believe it's a natural release for us humans. We all need to cry, we all need to "Release" somehow. We can't generalize it by saying "Men are wimps if they cry" No they are not! Lol. Nobody is a wimp when they cry. It's healthy, natural, and normal! Fuck these egotistical losers that say it's "wimpy" or whatever, cause they had to of cried at some point in their life too!

Anonymous · Answer

My husband is sensitive, he'll cry if he's happy not just sad. And I truly love that about him. That was actually one of the things I admired when we were in our early dating stage. He's sincere and gentle, while also being someone who could knock your teeth to the back of your skull if he needed to. Lol... he and I will be talking about how beautiful life is and he'll get choked up, or sometimes when he expresses how much he loves me he'll choke up... He's passionate. So so passionate. He won't cry in public though I mean it's gotta be baaaaaad for him to ever do that. He came from a family that would do anything to tear him down all his life.. Very abusive. But he remained who he is. He says I pull it out of him but that's only because he knows he can be himself and never be judged... Ugh, I'm getting emotional writing this!!! Sorry!!!

basketballchick · Answer

its very rare I've ever seen a guy cry, i saw my brother cry for the first time ever over this girl and i was like so touched, people might say it takes strength not to cry, but it takes even more strength to let those walls down and just let your emotions flow. so its a major sign of strength to me.

EpicHam · Answer

You know...
We are socially educated into thinking a man who dare to show his emotions are a sign of strength.

But deep inside... there's just a primal feeling that a man who cries is a man who's weak.
I mean... in the wild , animals will do EVERYTHING in their power to hide an injury , because appearing to be injured in the wild is a sure fire way to get yourself eaten...

But eh , whatever floats your boat.

MissBex95 · Answer

I ADORE if a man can be vulnerable or emotional around me because it shows that he's just as human as I am. It's sad that society has set a standard that guys just have to suck it up and be more rational, we are all humans we all feel things emotionally and at equal levels for the most part, it's just that it's more accepted that women are "suppose to be" more emotional. YES TO A MAN WHO CAN CRY!

harakiri · Answer

Crying is not a sign of strength or weakness. It just..-is-. It's an outlet. I don't ever see men cry so I imagine I would be very worried... I hatehateHATE it when people cry, I would do whatever I could to help.

Anonymous · Answer

If they cry about everything, I'll be annoyed... just as I would be if it was a woman.
If they're normal and cry when things are rough, sad, etc., then I'll just think he's a human being who has emotions too, and expressing it is great.

I will say this... I guess because it seems like women cry at everything all the time, when men cry, it kills me. I have a hard time not tearing up too when I see/hear a man crying for legitimate reasons... I just want to hug them until it's all better.

obiwansmistress · Answer

It depends why they are crying, if I think they are overreacting then I might look at them a little funny, but usually I just accept it and realize they are being vulnerable and it must not be easy and I try to comfort them, but I'm awkward around anyone who cries.

somegurl01 · Answer

If the guy cries with you privately then ya i see it as a strength. They are human too and experience the same emotions we do. Showing control in public is big for me but when he comes home and he can deflate about his job or stress. Then I find that a good thing that he can let it out at some point.

poppypinklips · Answer

I think that men don't show their emotions as often because society is persistent in telling that it is a sign of weakness to do so. So for a man to show his feelings despite that, he must be strong and confident.

TheRunningBackGuy · Answer

Why such a dichotomy? People cry for many reasons... strength and weakness is not exemplified in crying. Crying is just an avenue of which people express certain emotions. If that's the case, would someone who likes to hit things when he's angry prove himself to be weak when he punches a wall? There's a fallacy in that logic.

hope4days862 · Answer

When he cries because of something sad, it wouldn't bother me. It would probably make me feel trusted since he's able to be that vulnerable in front of me.

CommieDearest · Answer

I think it can be sweet. It shows that they're comfortable with you if they can cry around you, because it goes against all instincts to always have to act like a tough guy.

MaskofInsanity · Answer

It depends on why he's crying. If someone died or its something touching, no prob. If is fave show got canceled or someone said something mean, no thanks.

I generally prefer all people to keep crying to a minimum.

Execu · Answer

A unless it was for a family death or something serious.

Chance18811 · Answer

Honestly i Just Shows A Sign Of Strength 100 & 10%. I don't Care What NoBody Says Im A Guy Who Is Not Afraid To Show His Emotions, At All. I Am Proud To Say That On Here & In Person To Any Man Or Woman.

Marihorror · Answer

When I see a man crying it instantly makes me tear up as well because I know that it takes a hell of a lot to make most men break down.

KLTheErudite7229 · Answer

I just think that the men who cry is actually spiritually and emotionally strong because he isn't afraid of showing his real emotion of sadness/grief/agony. But it would be a problem if he cries a lot or over something small.

Silkyme623 · Answer

I think it's admirable if a man can show emotion and vulnerability to their partner. It's a closeness that isn't very common. I personally love it when my man opens up to me and we work whatever problems is bothering him at the time out. It makes the both of you stronger as a couple. Apart from in a relationship, I just respect someone in general for being able to talk about their feelings

wonder444 · Answer

A man who can cry is not weak , it shows he actually has feelungs. Now a guy who cries over every little thing is different and the same as a woman who cries about everything way to sensitive.

EntourageNaj · Answer

Its not so much a question of strength or weakness, but a question of self control. Its OK for a man to cry, but WHEN he cries will reveal his level of self control.

notcompletelythere · Answer

I always cry when people cry, but when men cry I know that they must be in a lot of pain, or really really really happy like when they get married or engaged or see their first baby. <3

Anonymous · Answer

I love it as long as its not all the time. A guy friend of mine cry's if he messes up thats not ok but i also don't want someone who won't show emotion.

Anonymous_Mysterious · Answer

Sign of strength -- dare to express their emotions, BUT... sometimes is ok but not ALLL DAAA TIMEEEE.

Robertinho · Answer

Guys who cry are real men... guys who dont cry are fake towards themselves and ohers, that simple ms.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it depends on the circumstance. In some cases its ok to cry and in some cases it is not.
E. g. if you cry at a funeral of someone close, its ok. If you cry when you see a sad movie... not ok lol

Planetoid · Answer

Sad things make people cry. I don't think it's a sign of anything either way.

whosethatgirl · Answer

Strength because it takes a real man to show their emotions.

ArabianPwincess197 · Answer

To me its a sign of strength - it shows they need love and support too - that they are humans too

Sam89 · Answer

It really depends on the context, just as if it were a woman crying, I suppose. Generally speaking I would say it shows he is secure in his masculinity, so that makes it a sign of strength in my opinion.

Patrick453 · Answer

Lets face it, men don't cry as much as women do, and some are afraid of looking weak. Any man who can cry and not be ashamed of it is strong in my book

zombiebabe · Answer

its nice to see a guy who shows his emotions... so rare these days

soccerchick4eva · Answer

Guys are human beings also! you can't expect them to be strong everytimeeee! :)

performerwannabe · Answer

people cry not because they're weak. it's beacaise they've been strong for too long.

decemberxblue · Answer

It's perceived as a sign of weakness. Maybe if you cried and emotional once a year a woman wouldn't lose respect for you. Harsh truth.

ThatBritishLad · Answer

dah feels dough Extremely uncommon in a public setting, even to this day. Just one of those gender things that everyone accepts despite it being rather unsettling.

AnimeLover12 · Answer

nothing wrong with crying, I was playing the last of us last night and I shed manly tears!

Anonymous · Answer

Crying is showing emotions. Everyone had emotions. So what's wrong with showing it regardless of gender?

brianawilld · Answer

As long as he's not making whimpering sounds while he's crying like a woman, than I'm fine with it! Nor strength or weakness. Just emotion.

rUinSAYAN · Answer

I cried on the final part of Seikon no Qwaser and Elfen Lied. does that make me gay?

Anonymous · Answer

When I see a guy cry make me feel sad I don't know why I get emotiional too it's like swings puppy cry lol

COCOCHANEL · Answer

i like to see emotion in my partner. a man who is devoid of emotion is boring in my opinion.

1NAMDERAJ · Answer

I always thought women liked sensitive guys and I happen to be a sensitive guy.

MisforMarion · Answer

I don't see how crying makes you strong but there isn't anything wrong with it

Anonymous · Answer

if its not all of the time i would say its strength. So many don't because they think they are gonna be made fun

Anonymous · Answer

men who don't know how to cry turn into abusive alcoholics eventually...

Anonymous · Answer

It kinda breaks my heart ):

Soren · Answer

Sing of strenght :)

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