I cheated on my girl and now she won't take me back... She said she hates me.

[southernboy910]

I am in the navy and I met my girl in san diego over 2 years ago. We were together ever since. But she left and went to med school last year. And she would come visit every 2-3 months. I've been cheating on her just for the sex. I first time she found out she forgive me. This time she said she hates me and won't talk to me.

I really love this girl. I want to marry her. And was saving up for a right. I couldn't wait tell she finish school so I could see her everyday. And now she is almost finish and found out I cheated on her and won't forgive me. What should I do?

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

You cheated. No matter the motivation, what did you expect, applause?

Let's get serious for a moment. You want to marry a woman, but you need to have sex for the purposes of sex?

Here's a scenario for you to ponder, don't think about it too long.

If you were to marry her, and say ten years down the road she gets into an accident that injures her to where she can't have sex without being in excruciating pain. She wants you to promise you won't have sex with anyone else, but at the sametime she can't have sex with you.

What are you going to do?

Marriage is about committing yourself to someone unconditionally. That means, you accept them in whatever position they are in, and you take the good with the bad. The absolute good, and the absolute bad.

If you can't commit to her before getting married, what is she suppose to think about what you're capable of if you did get married?

What can you do? You can beg and plead for her, and tell her how wrong you were and that you'll never do it again, and that you want to take care of her for the rest of her life. That you don't want anyone else, you want only her. But most of all, that you understand what you have done was wrong, and that you were not right at all for doing it. Accept responsibility, let her know you are ready to be a man and truly honor her.

That's all you can do. She has to make the decision.

[Dela1111]

Well firstly you were stupid for not only doing it in the first place, but also doing it again after you already got caught. She's never going to marry you, nor should she, you've already shown you can't be faithful. Maybe next time you love a girl, you won't cheat on her.

Btw you give all of us military guys a bad reputation because you don't have the discipline to stop yourself from being a scum bag.

[mrsvincenoir]

Well...what did you expect to happen?

I would of got rid if you the 1st time you cheated-you were lucky she forgave you and you did it again ;o\

That doesn't sound like love to me,and certainly you can't really want to marry her-marriage is about commitment and spending the rest of your life with that person-but you couldn't stay faithful for this short time while she was in med school?

c'mon now,i don't think this is the girl for you,if it was love and you were ready for commitment you wouldn't of cheated once,let alone again,especially just for sex.

What should you do? personally it sounds to me like your not ready for commiting to this girl so I would do the decent thing and let her move on and find someone who will,while you continue to play the field.

[Anonymous]

So you had sex multiple times with another girl, not just a one time slip-up? It's going to take heck of a lot for anyone to forgive a partner like that. What should you do? I don't know. The decision is up to her. But you should learn from this. You're also not ready for marriage.

[itzzxhypnotik]

HAHAHA! good, scum bags like you deserve whatever you get. I hope you cry a lot over you, she deserves better. someone who knows how to treat her right.

[itzzxhypnotik]

Cry a lot over her***

[jbone79]

I think your a selfish prick and I'm glad she hates you. I spent 7 years in the Army and I was deployed and I never cheated on my woman. When your dodging bullets and explosions...the last thing you want is sex...your just happy to be alive and hear a womans voice who cares about you. I don't feel sorry for you one bit. Your why military men get such a sh*tty stigma as being manwhores...thanks a million jackass! - j

[finecute]

hahahah in your face. Don't do anything. leave her alone and continue to screw more hoes. That's what you been doing right?

f***in idiot