Why would he text me "Are you still alive?"?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Me and a couple of my friends got drunk and we were at this strange dude's house, and I wanted to leave because he was creepy and we literally just met him at the bar, and his room mate wouldn't stop harassing me so it's 3:30am and I am calling everyone in my phone, well I called my one friend Jack who I posted about who has been mad at me for no reason. I called him. No answer, so I text him.

Me: Jack where are you? I don't what to do
Me: I am stuck at this guy's house and I have no idea what to do?
(He didn't respond till 6:20am but my friend Craig ended up picking us up)

Jack: Are you alive?

Me: Oh god sorry. It was a nightmare. Heather is a stupid slut and was so adamant on going to this guy's house when he was creepy. I was in total panic mode, his friend wouldn't stop harassing me they were weird and wanted us to sleep over, and I should've left earlier, I thought my life was over lol.

Jack: I think you were being a little over dramatic lol
Me: No, Jack I wasn't. His room mate had swords and he said he wondered what it would be like to cut someone's head off with a sword lol too fucking creepy and Heather was nowhere to be found at one point. I was so scared. It was a nightmare. Luckily Craig picked us up.
Me: Sorry I bothered you. It won't happen again.
Jack: Oh stop! I was sleeping otherwise I would've came and picked you up. My ringer doesn't work on my phone and my phone only vibrates.

Me: Honestly, it's cool. I get bothered by calls at 3am lol, I bother people too much. So I just need to stop haha.

He didn't respond after that. He has been ignoring me lately you can see my other posts to know more details about that. Well I think it's rude that he would text me "Are you still alive?" When I said I was stuck at a guy's house. What do you get from all of this? He's mad? He's rude? I was rude? Tell me your honest thought. Thank you.

[transience]

He was just kidding around when he asked that. Just ignore this incident. Don't think too much of it. I text my friends "are you alive" all the time when I forget to respond to some text where they're asking for help (my bad, lel).

But yeah, you might be coming off as a bit needy here. Just sleep this event off.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I see. Thank you! :)

[bambi3]

Um he was showing concern & even after you apologized for texting late still said it was okay & if he had been up would of come to get you... what more do you want? Like honestly the fact that you continued to go on after that is probably what muted the conversation

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah you're right! Thank you for sharing your input. I appreciate it :)

[bambi3]

No problem :)

[LastGirlScout]

Why is that rude? He's jokingly asking if you are alright. Crikey, way to make a mountain out of absolutely nothing. This kind of stuff is EXACTLY why men think women are insane and create drama for no reason.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I see what you mean. I'm not making up excuses but I was in a distraught mood when I texted him, so I just think I was on anger mood because of my friend Heather. But thanks for your input.

[LastGirlScout]

Horny friends suck, they always drag you into stupid scenarios with weird creepy guys and then disappear leaving you with the uber creepy guy on your own who always thinks that because your friend is hooking up with his friend that something is gonna happen to you... dream on!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I know exactly! And he was the most psycho one. Because he was saying it would be a "thrill" to cut someone's head off with one of his swords and he seemed spaced out and serious when he said it, and I am thinking "Oh hell fucking no, I am outta here" Lol. It was a terrible night and I feel bad that i over-reacted with Jack. But thank you for your input.

[LastGirlScout]

No, if you were genuinely freaked out and this guy is your friend then I would have probably messaged him too. I'd have serious words with my friend though, she shouldn't be taking you to houses then leaving you with random guys she doesn't know. Not cool.

[kara1019]

He's basically asking you if you're okay. I use that phrase a lot when I'm worried of my friends but don't want to sound all dramatic. He was probably worried about you.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ok, Yeah. I just needed opinions, lol. Thank you! I appreciate it :)

[James0]

He's jokingly texting if you're ok. I text the same message ' are you alive' when I haven't heard from them in a while. Also you texted very late; I would think one of my friends were joking or drunk since it's near Halloween. I feel like he was mad but very concerned for you.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

You think he was mad? I think he was too. I kinda friend zoned him not intentionally but that's what he said to me and he distance himself from me, so I think he wants nothing to do with me but I was desperate to be out of that situation so I literally called and texted everyone. But thank you for your opinion. I do understand now it is a joke, but I guess the reason why I was offended because I thought "Why would he joke around and say this when I am in a bad situation?" I guess I thought he was a joke out of the fact I was in a bad situation and I thought he didn't care. Thank you for your opinion and insight.

[James0]

Oh, I didn't know about the other stuff that happened; he's trying to distance himself but it's hard. He still cares for you even though whatever between you guys

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I agree. Thank you for your insight.

[Meedo]

He just wanted to know if you are ok and unharmed. He found out your texts late and he wanted to knoow if you are ok.. It is not rude at all! This is a neutral conversation really.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ok, thank you for your input. I was just making sure and seeing what other people thought. I appreciate it! :)

[Mesonfielde]

Doesn't that just stand for "are you there" or "are you awake"?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I didn't know it stood for that, but I guess because I was in a weird situation I didn't like how he would "joke" and say "Are you alive?" When if I stayed there any longer I probably. I'm not being dramatic, I have stayed at guy's houses before, this guy and hsi room mate had "killers" written all over them, they had weird demeanor and they just gave me like a rapist, killer vibe. I didn't like how the one guy said it would be "thrill" to cut someone's head off, and he seemed spaced out and weird when he said it. He was serious and I was like "oh fuck no" lol. But thank you for your input.

[CommieDearest]

He was just asking if you were alright. Just because you might annoy the fuck out of him doesn't mean he wants you to be in danger.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lol, yeah I feel bad. I over-reacted. Thank you.

[CommieDearest]

It happens.

[Klaatu51]

you've learned your lesson don't get drunk again LOL

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lol, well I need to choose better friends because I was actually the most rational even in my drunken state lol. But thank you.

[Prof_Don]

It's a way of asking "are you ok?"

Don't be so literal all the time! :-P

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lol, you're right! Thanks! :P

[Anonymous]

"Heather is a stupid slut"... is that how you talk about you friends?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Well I was mad at her, and no I don't talk about my friends like that. But I am sorry she is stupid slut because she is so guy crazy that she put our lives in danger when we told her someone will pick us up and we'll just wait outside of the bar, but she insisted on going with this guy when he had a weird, rapist, serial killer vibe. I shouldn't have chose those words exactly but she made me so angry because she was being unreasonable and wouldn't listen to reason. We would have been fine if we would have waited for someone outside of the bar or in my car. Thanks.

[Sexyandsexy]

Everybody is rude...
If i were him i would take you from the house

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lol, thanks.