Why did he ask me would I text him?

[messinessB]

I had a date with a guy. It went well and after the date he asked me was i going to hit him up. Why can’t he just text me instead

[MrOracle]

He wants to make sure you're as invested as he is. If he does all of the work and takes all of the initiative, he has no idea if you really care, or are just going along for free food and entertainment. You need to make SOME kind of an effort to show that he's important to you. It's a two-way street!

[Gisellereceiver]

Sounds accurate, but he already seems afraid of whatever it is that he’s afraid of, so she shouldn’t bother with him!!

[winterfox10]

He wants to judge your interest. Too many women expect that the guy is going to do all the work, and that's a problem because we have no idea if she's just wasting our time. By asking you to text him, he's putting the ball in your court to make sure that you are actually interested.

[Anonymous]

I agree with most of the guys on here. He probably likes you, but isn't sure how interested you are. He's deferring to you on next steps. I think it's cute. He doesn't want to come across as too pushy and scare you off.

[wingattebaby16]

coz he is not sure how you feel..

having you text HIM shows interest on your part...

Guys are afraid of rejection big time. If he texts you, you don't like him and dont text back, he gets freaky!

[OlderAndWiser]

Why does it matter who sends the first text?

[messinessB]

I mean he asked why didn’t he just text me

[OlderAndWiser]

He wants to hear from you? Right? How important is that?

You seem to be overthinking this.

[messinessB]

Most guys don’t ask to text... they just do it

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. He's different.

[Gisellereceiver]

@messinessB Clearly he’s being a loser. Why should you make the effort when HE’S the man?

[Gisellereceiver]

@messinessB Well you are bound to fail anyway if you do it.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Gisellereceiver Hahaha! Sending a text message doesn't mean that a boy is a man! What a crazy notion of manliness!

[Gisellereceiver]

@OlderAndWiser I’m not worried about the text message, but the lack of initiative.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Gisellereceiver Right. Because you should be constantly testing a prospective partner.

Meanwhile, maybe he's siting back doing the same thing - testing her initiative - and they're both gonna give up on the other because they were too stubborn, not to make a phone call, but just to make send some cowardly little text message. How pathetic!

[Gisellereceiver]

@OlderAndWiser Well between a pair (man and woman) who can’t muster up the courage to send a text, it’s default that he should take the initiate and do it. Men=give. Women=take. It’s normal for women to be receiving because we are seen as the submissive sex. And during sex even, women receive and men GIVE. It’s quite basic, so why are you trying to paint men in that submissive light? Absurd.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Gisellereceiver If women are the submissive gender and they are "supposed to do" what men tell them to do, stop arguing with me and go make some fried chicken!

[Gisellereceiver]

@OlderAndWiser Initiative* It makes no sense, because I should be RECEIVING some fried chicken. I never said women take orders from men ;P

[Kimdracula9]

@Gisellereceiver Well you just want the best of both worlds dont you? Lmao

[OlderAndWiser]

@Kimdracula9 How dare you expect consistency! :) :) :)

[Kimdracula9]

@OlderAndWiser haha!

[ivbnlknfru]

He wanted to confirm you really are interested in him. If you say yes then don't text him, he will know you politely not interested in him. If you do text him, he will know you are interested. If you say no, then he will know for sure you are NOT AT ALL interested. Basically he was un sure how the date went.

[Nigjt]

Say if what u are asking is because u really don't know then the best answer I can give u that I know of is this.
He an like other Men won't u to text us first is because we won't to know that u are thinking of us an are interested in us as well so Please go on an text him an let him know thatheis on ur mind if he is.
God Bless

[DizzyDesii]

I mean he should take the initiative but yea def text him. I hate how people wait days/weeks to text. By then, i’ll have moved on to the next 🤷‍♀️

[WarningWarning]

He is another moron. Trying to make rules where they don't belong. Dont text him. Or text him and say hey, tag your it... dont let it be heavy. Just play with it.

[Kimdracula9]

This is his way of checking if he should invest more time and money into trying to make a relationship work with you.

[FreyaRed]

You should initiate texting with him, but if he doesn't respond or isn't especially enthusiastic you should forget him

[Hepy82]

Why didn't you just tell him, "Once you've texted me." communication is key, there's no point not saying anything at the time and then getting annoyed about it later.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because the culture has changed and women are now more likely to be the ones preferring one night stands. So he left the ball in your court, because the assumption is that the answer would be no if he asked you (that is if you answer at all.)

[TraceyByrd]

I don't give two flying shxts who texts first I'll do it first Idcc as long as he respects it that's it.

[Reaperbot666]

most likely him checking to see if the date went well and if you want to continue on.

[messinessB]

So he couldn’t text me himself?

[Reaperbot666]

it's 2020 age when females have more power then ever before. so if the want a more traditional guy. then should be a more traditional girl.

[JosyJosy]

He just wants to know if you're interested to keep going to maybe another date and another and another

[ShedZJ001]

Just wait and don't text first, if he wants you he'll text first

[spartan55]

Why are you girls so hung up on this type of stuff? Who cares who texts first?

[MrKinktastic]

He’s probably just a bit shy and doesn’t want to have to be the one to text

[Paris13]

Perhaps he Wanted to be Sure you Liked him and The----Date. Go ahead. xx

[nodnol32]

Maybe because he feels like he'll come off as creepy or rather annoying? I don't know, thats all i can think off.

[COMMODOREII]

Maybe he expects you to contact him. Next time a guy says that. Just tell them to text you tomorrow or whatever. That way they will know its ok to text you.

[pizzalovershouse]

Maybe cuz he figured sense he dint know what time was best to get a hold of you he let you get back to him always best to set a time thats best for you to have him get a hold of you or him

[jgirl99]

He probably will, maybe just time make sure ull respond