Opening up = girl loses attraction/respect
As a guy, it's something you learn and accept. Don't open up to women. Don't do it! Things go to shit when you do. No matter how much she begs, pleads, threatens, encourages--don't do it. You can make it look AS IF you are... but you also have to clearly be holding back at the same time. Be charismatic while you dodge her pleas.
As a man, you realize that push comes to shove, the only one in your corner is you. So you accept that if you want a girl, you have to supply her the illusions she desires--if you don't, she leaves. Appear vulnerable, but never actually open up. You have to be your own comfort, your own shoulder to lean on. You can give her a taste--you can't give her the meal.
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this encouragement thing is a subjective thing... and most guys are not good at decoding body language... me who have done the wrong thing in my entire life where i invest feelings for the girl i just met or know... so when i approached a girl and got rejected... i was humiliated and hurt... well its because i fail to gauge her interest at first... i was confident but unfortunate thing happens... so i will never admit my feelings for women until i'm very sure or certain that she is attracted/liked me in the first place or i'll never be
He is probably a commitment phobe. I can't think of a reason why a man should STILL be scared even after you tell him. Or maybe he is playing games. I am so tired of guys doing that weird shit. I know women do it too but I personally don't do that kind of thing. I have told numerous men my feelings regardless of how scared I was.
i believe many are. it's not an easy thing for anyone to do.
some just like to put it out there if they feel comfortable enough, while others will just hide it due to a negative mindset that it's pointless or whatever.
however, it's their call. they should know if they should or shouldn't do it.
Some girls are afraid to admit thier feelings too. So yes, some guys are actually afraid and guys have a lot of pressure on them not to appear too sensitive or vulnerable.
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Men are afraid of being hurt/rejected as much as you are. I had one girl beg me to open my heart up and tell her how I felt about her once. She ended up throwing it back in my face and decided to date my best friend took my 4 years to get over it. I put my heart on ice after that my girlfriend went through hell to melt it but you get the point.
Yes, we guys are afraid most of the time. This is because girls usually don't know where to draw the line between 'being super friendly' and 'showing romantic interest', and their behavior/words often contradicts their thoughts. And being rejected/friendzoned by the girl he likes is possibly among the worst forms of insult/humiliation for a guy, so he'd rather avoid putting himself into that awkward situation unless he is almost certain she likes him too.
Yes guys are afriad but its because most guys get very attached very quickly and they are afraid of being hurt emotionally.. believe it or not that is one of the worst feelings for a guy.. whether he shows it or not
I only open up to a girl when she earns my trust and respect.
Yes some times guys are afraid to admit their feelings and you women take things the wrong way
If that's the case, then you gotta open up first.
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