Why the hell would a GAY guy stare at a girl?

[Anonymous]

I understand when it's about straight guys. But, seriously, gay guys are attracted to guys so they should stare at them, not at a girl?

The thing is that, this guy I have 3 hours/week in my class (but don't talk to) started looking at me in the eyes, in class, out of the class. When I started wearing contact lenses. And he doesn't look away. I don't get it.

Once, a long time ago, I heard him saying in class that he didn't like staring or being stared at (at that time he didn't look at me) and that he finds it awkward.

It is weird.
And I know he is gay, everybody knows it and he also has a boyfriend. Also, I'm not attracted to him.

So why would a gay guy stare at a girl?

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+1 y

He is clearly gay. He told it, has a boyfriend. He is kinda effeminate in the way he talks and in the way he behaves too.
I'm almost sure he can't be bi

[genuinlysensitive]

If he does look at a girl as a straight guy would it is most likely because he is bi. One of my best friends growing up turned out to be gay. Although, he def., prefered men, he would sleep with women if he was attracted to them and interested in them. In fact in my experience many gay and straight people are not 100% into men or women but have a strong degree of preference for one or the other. For instance many straight people experiment in college or with friends etc , but still have a strong preference for the opposite sex. He may be gay, mostly prefer guys, but has bi feelings and is attracted to you.

[Jbunch]

Everyone is entitled to think someone is handsome/pretty/whateves. Maybe he thinks you are good looking, but not attracted to you

[Asker]

Yeah, I guess you're right
And that's true he can't be attracted to me

Though I didn't know gay guys stare at girls so often

[KillerTaco]

You do know gay/lesbian people do developed "crushes" on the opposite sex? I don't think they are physically attracted to them its more of an admiration thing. He probably likes your style or how you looks and wishes he had those character traits be it personality or physical attributes.

[Asker]

Really? Crushes?
I see, you mean he wants to look like me?

[KillerTaco]

Yes. Like women who idolize female celebrities. Kind of the same thing. They like them so much but not in a sexual manner.

[Asker]

Ah ok :)
I get it, admiration of my appearance then?

[KillerTaco]

Yes. Definitely. Next time he looks at you just give him a friendly smile or just say hi.

[Pinkbeauty]

he probably stares at u cause might think your pretty if I walk by some were I sometimes would always get stared at by teenage guys as young as 16 and 17 and I think 18 and 19 but iv never had a gay guy stare at me

[Asker]

Even gay guys stare and don't look away at a girl's face?

[Pinkbeauty]

I never knew gay guys could stare at girls i thought it was straight guys that did that

[Wumbo_Phoenix]

Maybe he wants to be your friend or something? Or he is trying to understand what guys find attractive about girls?

[Asker]

Maybe, I didn't think about that, but he could have at least talk to me ( he is really talkative), now he just stares at me but he once said he didn't like staring or being stared at

But if it's the second reason, he would have stared at me before, not only since a few time

[Wumbo_Phoenix]

True, true... You could always try approaching him one day if you notice him staring at you again...

[Account]

Maybe he likes women too? Sexuality is fluid like... most things in life?

[Klaatu51]

the fact that he's effeminate doesn't mean he's gay. they are 2 different worlds.

chances are he's bi if he does.

[Asker]

And the fact that he has a boyfriend? Also, I can't imagine him dating a girl, he is friend with girls always hangs out with girls (never guys)

[Klaatu51]

bisexuals can have both boyfriends and girlfriends you know...

[sammy_31]

I don't know I've had a couple of "gay" guys check me out and I mean you know when they give you that look. I am like whattttttt? Ummmmm I don't know maybe they are bi or something.

[soccerchick4eva]

One of my closest friends is gay and he told me that the reason why he stares at some girls is because he find them beautiful and that he likes their style.

[menina]

Just because he's gay, it doesn't mean that he can't find you attractive. Probably this is what he thinks about you.

[DREWSKI1]

Maybe he's bi or you're really pretty and he wants to be you

[Asker]

Not bi, almost sure (have a look at the update),
Hahaha, he wants to be me? Seriously?

[DREWSKI1]

Hahaha it sounded better in my head hahaha I don't know I usually have good advice but that's just weird cx I didn't know what to say

[Asker]

Well, that's true it's weird but thanks for trying to help me ;)

[DREWSKI1]

No problem its what I do ;)

[TheEnding]

Same way a straight guy would, because maybe you're pretty? You can look at someone and admire how they look regardless of your gender or sexuality.

[Asker]

I guess you're right
But the fact he said he didn't like staring or being stared at but finally stares at me is funny

[Sexualchrist]

Maybe your eyes are the key to turning him back onto the right path;)

[Sexualchrist]

@Troyesivan18 Fuck you too bitch

[Averageusername]

he's like "mmhmm i know she did not come out in public looking like this *finger snap* "

[Anonymous]

first of all, no need to start being ignorant, second he probably likes your contacts and wants to tell you but can't he may also want to be your friend OR maybe he isn't gay and you're just assuming.

[Asker]

But if he wants to be friend since he's that talkative, why doesn't he talk to me in class?

Second option clearly not possible, he even told he has a boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

because teachers get pissy when kids socialize during class.

[Asker]

You're right

[I_M_LEGEND]

maybe your outfit isn't on point or your makeup. gay guys no this stuffXD

[Asker]

Hahaha :)

[StickStickity13]

We sometimes stare at things just for the hell of it. We see something and process it. We don't always have a secret agenda.

[Anonymous]

Becuas maybe he's bi and not just gay or maybe she just had on a really cute outfit.

[sarah-lovaticx]

He might be gay but it doesn't mean he's blind so maybe he just thinks you're really pretty xx

[Asker]

I didn't know :)
But if a gay guy look at you, do you have to be very pretty? You meant, a gay guy wouldn't stare at a less pretty girl?

[sarah-lovaticx]

I'm literally just saying maybe to him you're pretty xx

[Asker]

I guess that's why, but I really thought gay guys could only find a guy good looking, never a girl
I'm wrong then

[Kythe]

He might be bi. Or he might really like your look.

[Asker]

It's almost impossible that he's bi (look at the update)
Can a gay guy still find a girl attractive?

[Kythe]

Anyone can find anyone attractive. That doesn't mean he's attracted to you sexually/romantically, though.

[Asker]

Oh, I see :)
Obviously he can't be sexually attracted, otherwise he wouldn't be gay but bi

It is like if I was staring at girl? Though, I would never stare, maybe glance but not stare like he does

[miserybusiness]

Maybe you have something in your teeth.

[Asker]

Hahaha, it could have been true but no
Most of the time he's looking I'm either listening to the professor or walking so I don't smile for no reason ;)

[GoldCobra]

she's so hot it turned him straight

[Asker]

Hahaha but I think he couldn't

[SkaterDude]

maybe he was bored staring at the wall

[Asker]

I thought so, but it happened everytime he's around, plus he is looking in my eyes so I notice it

[SkaterDude]

maybe you are making him feel funny in his pants

[a_person_]

maybe he's bisexual

[Asker]

He's clearly gay, that's clear for him and everyone knows it. Also, he has a boyfriend
He is close to some girls but that's only friendship and he never hangs out with other guys

[a_person_]

oh okay

[Anonymous]

Jealous of her shoes obviously

[Asker]

Haha I doubt it, he stares at my face

[Opinion Owner]

Jealous of your eye liner obviously

[Asker]

Hahaha maybe ;)

[luvme56]

he might be bi!

[Maxemeister]

Maybe he's bi?

[Asker]

That's just not possible at all (look at my update)

[Maxemeister]

Umm, bi people can be like that. Or, if you are very set in your opinion, it could be he's not staring at you because he wants you, but is instead trying to find something out, or is mad at you.

[Asker]

Well... I doubt he's mad at me, it's more a curious stare if you know what I mean

[Maxemeister]

Then he might know something about you and wants to know more