My coworker asked if I wanted to hang out after work. We hung out for like 6 hours just talking, and I noticed that the whole time his eyes never left me even when I wasn’t looking at him. He was staring at me so intensely and when we locked eyes it felt as if he was looking into my soul. His eyes looked like they were full of love and adoration. I don’t think that is the case though because I just started working there a week prior to that hang out. Another reason I don’t think he is even interested in me is because it has been 2 weeks and he has yet to contact me. I don’t really care, but I am very confused.
There are many reasons why a guy might stare at a girl, but some of the most common reasons are because he is attracted to her, he is trying to figure her out, or he is trying to intimidate her. If a guy is attracted to a girl, he will likely stare at her for a long time because he is trying to take in her appearance and figure out what it is about her that attracts him. If a guy is trying to figure a girl out, he might stare at her for a while in order to try to understand her better. And if a guy is trying to intimidate a girl, he might stare at her in a mean or aggressive way in order to scare her.
Love. I can't tell you how many times I've "fallen in love" with a girl the moment I set eyes on her!! One girl, in Jr. High School, I was MADLY in love with for 13 years!! But, because I felt she'd never want me, I never made very much of an attempt to go after her!! Give him a chance and see where it goes from there! He just might be Mr,. Right instead of Mr. Right Now.
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So you think he never contacted me after the hang out was because I didn’t seem interested in him?
It's a possibility. When I first spotted Emily in the lunch room at school, I went NUTS over her!! I sat next to her at the table and refused to move even though a couple other girls asked nicely to sit next to her. After a few months, maybe even a year, I found out what her phone number was and would get home from school and call her up and talk with her for maybe an hour, a couple times a week, MAYBE. I wasn't psychotic about it. We had a lot of nice chats but nothing ever came of them! Then I heard she was dating another guy but, one day, in the lunch room in high school, I was eating an eclair (on a stick) and she walked up to me and asks me for a bite of it! Like she was actually interested in being more than just casual friends! Stupid me: I was on an anti-germ kick at the time and as much as I WANTED to give her some, I ate it faster so I could give her the last bit. Lol. Of course, she refused. For the last several decades I've been mentally kicking myself for not letting her have a bite when she asked because it might've become something more! But, at the same time, a lot of kids in school had been teasing the hell out of me all my life and I was also figuring this was another make-fun-of-me session because, she was already dating Dave!! It'd be like, why the hell would Bo Derrek be interested in me when she's already married to John (?) Derrek? She, eventually, dropped Dave and married some guy named, Freddie. I've talked to her on the phone once or twice since then but, that was decades ago, a few years after high school. My band was playing very near where she'd moved to so, I invited her to come see us and she never did. Anyway, in this situation, at least I DID take the steps to show her I was at least somewhat interested. I'm sure a lot of the other kids in the school knew that I was into her and probably told her, if she hadn't already figured it out.
That was kinda bold for someone as shy as me, really! Maybe he's more shy than I am! Then, there's ALWAYS that thing about how the girl you want most is probably not at all interested in you because she's SO GORGEOUS she's GOTTA have a LINE of guys waiting to be her boyfriend so, what chance do I have? A LOT of guys go through that! Maybe he's just waiting for YOU to make the first move! Some guys need that. One night, we were getting ready to go on stage when this girl, Cindy, that was hanging out with us that night, was sitting beside me as I was tying my shoes and she just placed her hand on my leg above my knee and sang a line from, "Cinnamon Girl". "The drummer relaxes and waits between shows for his cinnamon girl". I wasn't exactly interested in her before then but (being a drummer), that touch of her hand flipped a switch and got me into her. So, if you're into him, next time you talk with him, just touch his hand or leg for a few seconds. Sometimes that touch is all it takes to open his doors! Ask him for a bite of his eclair! Invite him to go along with you somewhere: a movie, a stroll in the park, some help carrying groceries on your next big shopping trip. It doesn't have to be anything really special but, once he's with you, you could possibly make it into something special!
I met my ex-fiance at a gig I was playing with another band and I REALLY DIDN'T want to play the damn gig but my guitarist's girlfriend begged and pleased with me to do it so, I did. Madame Ex showed up, and we just started talking! She was interested in meeting me! I thought she was gorgeous and actually looked a bit like Emily! But, I tend to always assume they're taken (as, they usually are!) because, no point in getting your hopes up only to find out they ARE taken!! At the end of the night, we figured we'd never see each other again (which she told me a short while later). 2 weeks later, I was putting an application in at a big drug store downtown and she happened to be standing at the door waiting for a bus, spotted me and said hi. I had NO idea who she was but figured this is someone that wants to talk to me or meet me so, I took care of my business inside (it only took a few seconds) and went back out to talk with her. We chatted at the stop for about an hour (she let several of her buses go by) and then invited me to her place to learn more about the music I was telling her about. She invited me over for the same thing a couple more times and we became lovers!! I was with her for 10 years before the little mini-bitch started cheating on me and I dropped her like a hot brick!!
Awe :( well I hope you find love if you haven’t already. I also hope you reconnect with Emily. I don’t think he is shy though because he asked me if I wanted to head back to his place after like an hour of talking. I think he might have just wanted sex, but he also didn’t take me home after I told him I didn’t feel comfortable heading back to his place so I don't know what to think lol. I honestly just want to be friends with him because I don’t have time for a relationship right now.
Thank you! I hope so, too!! I've had so little of it!! It'd be nice to see/talk with Emily again but, I've long written her off as a lost cause. Well, as long as he didn't try anything with you then, I guess no harm done. There ARE nice guys out there like me; I might ask a girl over but it's not for sex unless SHE wants it! And, she'd HAVE to make it DAMN CLEAR that's what she wants!! She'd practically have to rape me! I just don't want to come off as one of those assholes that's ONLY interested in getting into her panties!! (Besides, they just might not fit!) I MEAN!!! Anyway, I'd prefer to be seen as someone safe for her to be around than someone she can't trust. Being this tall, I've already had loads of the Frankenstein, Herman Munster and Lurch references! At least I'm as friendly and trustworthy as Herman and as helpful as Lurch (and the exact same height!)
I was sure the last one was! after 10 years with her, she proved that she wasn't! What sucks is that I had two other offers just after we started seeing each other and I turned them both down for her!! AND, I wasted 10 years of my life with her!!
I know it is hard, but try to not only focus on the negative aspect of the relationship. I’m sure you learned a lot from that relationship, so don’t look at it like you wasted 10 years of your life.
Oh, I had a great time while it lasted but, the point is, if she'd have TOLD me she was gonna end up cheating on me, I wouldve gone after one of the other two girls that were interested!!
Yeah it’s always the “What ifs” that drives us crazy. But you can’t change the past, so use all the knowledge you have acquired from your past and focus on the present while hoping for the future. 🙂
i have/had the same situation going on and has for the last 2 years- from what i have gathered, yup does the stare in your eyes non stop. yep gave him my info and nothing---he basically wants you to chase him, its an ego boost and a game, to get you into bed. and on my end, well he has lost for sure
yeah i have also faced the same situation basically from every fuckboi possible.. all you have to do is wait for the ryt person, or find the ryt person to with whom you really feel the connection and warmth in the eyes to get cozy with
I know it sucks but TBH I went through the same thing my first job out of college. Thought the guy I onboarded with had noble intentions as my teammate and was maybe a little attracted to me, but not enough to get in the way. He seemed very innocent and gave me the googly eyes as well. This was all until he tried getting me drunk and hitting on me... twice. He never got anywhere and then retaliated when i rejected him.
Made me realize how important it was to be extremely professional and set boundaries on day 1 that can only come down with time and trust. Some dudes are looking for a means to an end. Don't take it personally- it's their problem, not yours.
I can think of a lot of reasons. I will first say why a human might stare at another one. 1. They are deeply thinking and just are drowned in the thinking. 2. If a friend is staring at their friend, they probably want to make the friend laugh. 3. There is something weird about you (a weird clothing or something) 4. His/Her parents didn't tell him/her that staring is impolite. 5. There is something weird happening right behind you. Now plus all those, a guy might stare at a girl: 1. He is attracted to her. 2. He might be trying to scare her. 3. The girl reminds the guy of someone else he knows about and wants to make sure she really is the one he thinks before going forward (like a classmate or a friend) 4. He is just being annoying. And many more!
that is what happened to me too but whenever I post a story (I get like 300 views -- and the alothogrim changes when it goes more than 50 to people who "stalk" you or look on ur page and his name always shows up second on the top, and this shows me that he still finds me attractive enough to look on my page but If I was you I would post a story and see what is up, and where he is at. and if he is then (between 1 to 12 from the top, then text him
That example post/pic, makes me think “oh god, this guy is imagining me naked.” “I wonder what fetish he is thinking about?” And I mean this in a worry way.
Ohhh, got ya…you’re already Married🙃. He might be thinking about branching out into Acting and developing his skills.-I know both of you have a high dose of Histrionic. As I recall…since food is good, anything to keep a little bit of rib cage showing 🚼🍆. Try to avoid 🤰🏻
🤰🏻 Unless you are thinking career expansion: Pampers, Huggies' Wipe, UTI, Similac, Babies-R-Us, Pamprin, child safety seats, milk squeeze and drain storage container, OR Feet 🦶.-maybe not with swelling ankles.
-Alright. Teasing-you already work together and thinking “dating”. That’s Married. -You said you are not ready for love so that implies sex is fine or you would have mentioned Both. SO, since you two will likely have sex then be careful UNLESS 🤰🏻is not an issue…and you can make a lateral career move into MOMMIE MODEL MARKETPLACE.
Tell me…. is he to gentle or to rough❓ It’s hard for good-looking guys. I’ve had my 🚼 grabbed by a group of gay guys when with my female soccer friend. I’m 6’3 and they thought she was my Dyke protector.-she’s Olympic Team skill set. And, they Demanded to see my wallet and drag pics. And then drilled her certain that she has my Drag portfolio in her book bag. Another day, “downtown” 🤷🏻♂️. And, better looking than woman never works… I was not one of skinny ribbed Calvin guys. I was university soccer meat, natural cowlicks, and just tall enough to look thin at muscular 190…. really good abs-like see through with t-shirt or a University Team Jersey on. Lots of University centers and shots for Academic recruitment,-I guess. Most of it I don’t even remember as my Mom has all the Pics. Out 4-5 years now but it did pay for under and graduate school etc. How long for you? Lifetime work for you?
No nothing is wrong with him. I just don’t know him well enough to be attracted to him yet. I am attracted to a man’s personality not his looks. Like I could think a guy is unattractive but then I get to know him I he becomes the most attractive man to me and I have no idea how I initially believed him to be unattractive. Does that make sense?
That sounds like a terrible experience. I am sorry you had to go through that.
You use to model too? That’s so cool! I have been modeling since I was 11 or 12. A lot of my family members are/were models. And no I only did it for fun when I was younger, but now I do it to pay for med school. That’s what my sister did too.
We are on same page‼️ How long before you are in the medical working world ❓ What do you hate most about modeling…. besides being stunning and smart and people either wanting to possess you OR will not get close to you…. Woman wanted to keep me in Grad school…. Nerds like librarian out and pencil pocket protector Engineers out for you. Actually, I’m good relationship wise now.
3 more years!!! I hate that’s I have to keep an extremely strict diet, because I gain weight easily. I hate that no matter what I am either too fat or too skinny or “you are perfect as you are right now but ….” That’s not everyone though. The make up artist and photographers are always super nice. What did you hate about it? Most people avoid me. I think I have RBF or something. Some of my friends have told me that before they got to know me they thought I was a stuck up rich bitch. I’m glad everything is good for you now :)
Once you get out, everything changes for sure. Everyone is Talented and NOT impressed. it’s so nice but watch out for the Creepy Mentors. I have an Elder friend who is a very well known Neurologist. He is NOT CREEPY. Idol Worship and smart-hot blonde. I’m not a blonde guy either. -Wife out at 52.
No. Just friends. Share other interests like real estate.-I have been playing in real estate since 16. I’m an educator by trade but also am Landlord. Hard Assets… I’m blessed with many 15-25 older than I am relationships. “Boy” kind of thing and he’s one of them. I think they will figure it out.-I’m hopeful. I’m that guy everyone, girl or boy, confides in. I’m fortunate to have many relationships of this kind, I guess. Tiresome sometimes.
That was kind of you... all they get from me is stress from "our generation" :-). BUT yes it is like a talking Wikipedia except the Data is accurate...
sounds like he's smitten, but if you're uncomfortable with it, i would say to avoid him. he might be a creep but it's wayyy more likely he's infatuated (which is normal).
he might be kind of shy or socially awkward - or he could be emotionally repressed, even if he is outgoing. even the most confident and outgoing guys can be kind of shy and awkward when talking to girls they like. also, it might have not been a full-blown crush, but maybe just attraction at the moment.
I don't know. I don't know the guy. The fact that he was only looking at your body, though, makes me think that he may just want sex. But you may want to get to know him a little better,
Well he did invite me back to his place about an hour after talking, but I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that. Since he asked I figured that he might only be interested in sex, but since he continued to stay and do nothing but talk for the next 5 hours I thought maybe he isn’t only after sex. I don't know 🤷🏻♀️
He is really smart. He’s studying to be a lawyer and is really passionate when talking about law. He is super outgoing and seems really fun where as I’m very introverted and tend to avoid parties and loud places. We are basically opposites lol. I think he is a great guy though and I want to be friends with him.
At least you see the dark humor. I in no way condone any violence towards women. Seeing a woman cry makes me feel terrible inside. I just have a dry sense of humor. Call the PC police!!!
Damn so an awkward guy asks you on an awkward date, is kind and respectful and then you put him on blast for a whole thread of ladies to light him up. Brutal.
maybe you had some spinach in your teeth, or a booger hangin
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If I had spinach in my teeth then he would have definitely called me back!!! I don’t want to give his name out, but I will tell you that he is a very muscular sailor man that LOVES spinach. 💪🏻
