Why can't good guy pushovers realize that most women do want them, but when the women are ready to settle down?

[Anonymous]

Don't lose hope, pushover nice guys. Most women end up choose when they are ready to''settle down.''

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Most women end up choosing you when they are ready to settle down. Most won't admit it though.

[kheserthorpe]

That's not wanting. That's desperately grabbing hold of because no bad boy with a job is ready to settle down with them.

The guys want a girl who loves and appreciates them and is passionate and sexual.

Plenty of people say 'oh nice guys win, in the end'.

No 'nice guys' do not win. Getting a woman who can't marry a guy she's excited about to decide her hot sex days are over because she's going to let you pay her mortgage and co-raise kids with her is not 'winning'.

If women aren't into you, the LAST thing you should do is get married to someone who will accept you.

You're doing something wrong. Fix it.

[Bandit74]

Lol there is some truth to that but I don't see how that's a good thing. The push over guys get them after they've slept around with all of the confident guys and they are only going for the push over guys later in life because they are less attractive and getting more desperate to settle down and know the type of guys they normally sleep with aren't going to commit. So the pushover guys are bassically second choice and are being settled for. If I was one of the pushover guys I wouldn't feel good about that, I'd feel pathetic.

[Asker]

Even if their looks don't fade they still do it.

[Anonymous]

You don't even have to wait... Plenty of nice girls out there looking for nice guys. Being passive aggressive will screw up any relationship eventually though.

[Asker]

What is passive aggressive?

[Opinion Owner]

This explains it better than I can:

www.psychologytoday.com/.../the-passive-aggressive-conflict-cycle

A lot of "nice" people fall in this trap.

[Asker]

Alright.

[Yeatts]

We want good guys just not necessarily pushovers because if a guy can't stand up for himself how will he stand up for you?

[Asker]

Most women only want the good guys when they are ready to settle down

[Yeatts]

Yeah good guys are great I am all for them but the issue I have is when a guy is a pushover who won't stand up for himself when needed. You can be a good guy but not a push over at the same time.

[Asker]

You always wanted nice guys or just to settle down for?

[Yeatts]

I have always wanted nice guys. Assholes just piss me off and we would just end up fighting because I am not all that girly so it would really be a bad combo.

[Asker]

Alright that is good. Do you agree with me that most women in general just choose nice guys to settle down with?

[Yeatts]

Yeah I just don't agree with the pushover part.

[Asker]

Alright. I think it is messed up most women only choose nice guys to settle down it. Do most women know since High School and college that they would marry the nice guy or most find out after getting heart broken?

[Yeatts]

I honestly don't know. I am not like the majority of women. I don't think or act like one most of the time. I think when everyone is young they just look at someone's appearance. I can see how there is a fun sexiness to a bad guy but I have always sort of looked at things logically as opposed to emotionally (unlike a lot of women) and realized that would be hell to deal with.

[Asker]

Well you are mature for your age.

[Yeatts]

Yeah I have always been very mature for my age.

[Asker]

Where can I find women like you? I am 23 and most women around our age and younger are mean.

[Yeatts]

You are probably looking at extroverts. Take a look around at the introverts around you. Yeah they don't stand out or talk a lot but what they lack in quantity they more then make up for in quality.

[mollyringworm]

Is that really fair to say? Yes it's true, most people like a more confident person but that isn't the only factor.

[Asker]

It's the truth. Most women yap about not liking pushovers but most want to settle down with those type of guys.

[UberTroll]

I don't think most girls ever want a pushover at any point. Nice guys, yes, but not pushovers.

[Anonymous]

Well, yeah. Because they want your money and the stability and security you provide as you support the kids they had with their less reliable lovers. They know you're not going to bail on them because - LOL - nobody would ever actually *want* you!

Nearly half of all births in the United States are to unmarried women.

Almost 40 percent of unmarried people living together who have a child together break up within 5 years.

www.washingtonpost.com/.../

[meatballs21]

So until they're ready to settle, those guys can endure endless lonely nights? That is like ZERO comfort.

[Asker]

I agree.

[john2]

Highly disagree.

[Asker]

You know I am right. Most of them end up choosing the type og guys they rejected earlier on in life

[john2]

So if you dropped a nice guy cold turkey and don't tell him why you did it sooner or later your gonna comeback apologize and expect for him to take you back?

[Asker]

I am not saying they come back to the same guy they rejected, I said they choose a guy that was like the guys in the past they rejected.

[john2]

I'm sorry but I'll always disagree with that. Plus you don't understand y'all girls change the nice guys in some shape or form.