Like you said its a bit of regret over squandering their 20's. They feel like its a time to get serious. Possibly watching the clock and wondering why they haven't gotten farther up the wish list of life. For me it was a feeling that I was confident of my abilities on how to handle life. I wasn't winging it and bluffing my way through life. Many people are way too serious at this point in their lives.. You can look forward to your 40's when you realize it doesn't matter and you can enjoy what you want too
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They mistakenly assumed that men were doing the same things and that men and women valued the same things. So come middle-age, they confused about why they like guys but guys don't like them as much.
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A lot of it has to do with being spoiled by people (in this case of dating, men).
Social media apps and inflated attention also delides them and their ego.
The whole feminism/propaganda doesn't help either.
Influence from other bad influences or women makes things worse too.
They can expect unicorns to mow their lawns but it's not happening. Same applies here and the man has the choice.
In a perfect world, they should have been settled down a long time ago. With how a woman's body is, they have less time to have kids. So when they reach late 20's/30's, they eventually become desperate as reality slowly sinks in.
It's disrespectful on many accounts when you think deeply as to why and what usually occurs. That alone is a losing ground.
The attitude/entitlement alone will turn men off. Then there's the baggage and everything else. The more I think about it, the more turned off and annoying it is.
If you treat a group of people badly when you are at your best/top/prime all your life, what makes you think you'll be treated nicely when you descend to the bottom? And why should the group of people who were at the bottom give you a chance now that they are on top and you descending to the bottom?
And no, don't give a manipulative answer. Sure, doing the right thing in spite of being wronged is good but that doesn't mean allowing disrespect or manipulation.
By the way, the above doesn't just apply to dating but many areas such as finance, politics, etc.
There's a lot more to this conversation.
I'll tell you this though, I really do feel bad for the small and few genuine women who have done the right thing, never dated, waited their whole lives or became widows who lost their husbands after being with him for a long time (years).
Then again, finding a virtuous woman is like a needle in a haystack.
You are blessed if you are one or have one.
The category of women above get caught up in this mess and the bad apples ruin it for everyone else. And unfortunately, some get influenced and change for the worse.
I'm glad the internet is here, exposing and sharing knowledge with others (although some is good and bad).Girls in her late teens are always compared to fresh, budding flowers - quickly snatched away without much consideration for the slightly inflated price.
Girls in her 20 are like blossomed flowers - a little bargain is made, usually sold at discounted prices.
Girls from 30 are... sorry Girls if you're in this category... withered flowers - never harvested for the beauty, except perhaps the overall plant to dry off for herbal value.
Hence in my opinion, girls in her 30s know their "market value" vs their "herbal value". She can no longer allow men to take his time to savor her. He can only do so after he "pays" for her in marriage.Can't say I'm familiar with this, but I'll go hypothetical here:
Probably because most men are already in serious relationships by their 30s.
Most... Not all.
Those who aren't in a committed relationship by their 30s probably don't want to be in one, period. So those who say they should settle down are barking up the wrong tree and wasting their breath.
Besides, trashing out a guy like this is a sure fire way of not making them want to be with you, so it's a bit self defeating.
Regardless, it works both ways in gender. Women also get pressure to settle down, but often it's much earlier in life than what most guys deal with.I personally don't expect men to settle down unless they want to. There isn't anything wrong with not wanting to settle down or have a serious relationship, regardless of one's age.
But everyone holds different opinions on certain topics, including this one. Having been married & divorced, I just say live your best life & take it one day at a time.That's bullshit. Just more internet myth. Most women are single at 30 because they went to college and chose a career, not because they partied their 20s away. There are also those who got divorced because they married too young... but according to your ignorance, sounds like you think girls should marry at 21, then stay with that guy until death.
And what do guys do in their 20s? Party like a bunch of frat boys, but you don't seem to have a problem with thatThey expect men to conform to their schedule, and they don’t care about what men want. Any man who doesn’t do as they want them to they’ll shame. Almost all types of shaming from women toward men is about that.
Women want to settle down in their 30s cuz they need to start having kids. Past 40 they can't really give birth safely
Its the mid point of their lives but i know some women in their 30s who still didn't find that guy and she didn't party or anything in her 20s so its not just that..
I am in my 20's and if any successful woman in her 30's wants to settle down with me I'm down. As long as you promise to love my two cats and we can get a big dog.
Bonus points if you like hiking!People can settle down whenever they want. The problem with those ladies isn’t likely all about their age. It’s that they don’t know how to filter for relationship minded men.
I didn't know women in their 30s owned all the guys in the world to expect something out of them🤔
Just be clear with them as to what your intentions are. If you don't want to settle down, you owe it to your relationship to make that clear.
It's the same the other way around too
One sided questionBeing a man in my 30s I’ve found that some of the worst dates I’ve been on in my entire life were with women close to my age. Women in their early to mid 20s were ironically more respectful than some of the bs I’ve seen.
Because women are stupid. Just that. Short term thinkers who feel entitled to a man's commitment once their looks have faded away.
Not most I know , the singles are all single by choice. I'm glad I have zero interest in the BS & nonsense known as " dating " .
I never saw that at all.
They want to settle down, but they don't tell men to shut up and just do it.Really? My studies have shown that girls and women only get horny during the winter. Jesus was born in the winter.
Because they are dumb and think they can make men do what they want.
I mean they are really too old to be trying to tell us what to do.
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