Why do I only get hit on my ghetto guys?

[etpige]

It's frustrating... I'm starting to think it's me that's the problem. The majority are black, and I'm not saying that's a bad thing, I'm just wondering why polite black guys can't like me? Polite orange guys? Polite blue guys? My point is that color is not a problem...but being so completely trashy is, and I hate it! Why do you think this is?

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+1 y

I'm starting to feel like an ass for asking this question just because of the amount of "because that's who they like" comments.. okay.

[zorro8888]

Well there's no doubt that you're attractive, or else even the "ghetto" guys wouldn't be making approaches.

I'm guessing you don't exactly put yourself out there for the guys that you do like, but rather wait for them to approach which never happens. You're most likely going for the shy/quiet types when instead you should be going for a confident polite guy.

Overall those "ghetto" guys don't care whether or not you give them signals they go for what they want, as simple as that. They have the confidence, but lack to be the type you actually want.

So I suggest you put yourself out there, I'm not saying to ask out every guy you like, but start hanging out with a different crowd and let yourself be noticed more socially.

[etpige]

Thank you (:

[zorro8888]

You're welcome! You'll find the right guy soon enough!

[MrScTi]

Here's the deal...

These "ghetto" guys appear disproportionately attracted to you because they aren't afraid of making moves. They are typically braver than the general population, which makes it seem like nobody else is interested.

Other guys ARE interested. Trust me. You've got it going on, and that's not even considering the booty you might have.

I did notice it's harder to approach a girl once she's associated with these "ghetto" guys. They sort of stick to her, and that deters other guys from making a move. That's how "trashy" guys reproduce. They are relentless.

[etpige]

I see your points and thanks hahah (:

[peachblossomluck]

That's true. Those ghetto guys are like a case of the herpes, coming around, flaring up, when they're least wanted, keeping people away.

[RationalLioness]

1) Don't ever feel bad for putting your question out there or having an opinion. It's okay. I know what you mean.

2) In my experience, a lot of those guys usually have had many women, which boosts their confidence, and makes them go after women that they find attractive/prefer.

Nice black guys approach as well if they feel confident enough and are interested. Maybe there aren't a lot where you are.

:)

[peachblossomluck]

The worst perps in my life are the ghetto whites. This one kid just came right up and slapped by butt as hard ss he could. Never seen him before. He would have been attractive had he not been such a dumbass. I was like "Wtf do you think you're doing?"

[RationalLioness]

Wait... what?

I've never had that done before. That's insane to me.

[peachblossomluck]

You have to get tough as nails. Don't put up with their crap if they sexually harass you. Low class people need to be put in check because they often don't have boundaries.

[Anonymous]

honestly stop focusing on it refocus your attention on your goals your life your friends and your bank account. because your a girl their is always going to be a guy out there who will try to have sex with you its the reality. but at the end of the day they won't take care of your ass so just be nice and work hard and you will reap the benefits of your OWN succeess and guys will find you

[etpige]

Happiness is success to me, and I'm feeling pretty happy... and trust me, boys are not the one thing on my mind, it's just a general observation. I mean come on, wouldn't you be curious? I have a girlfriend who gets hit on by super nice guys, and I get assholes, and I don't know why I always get assholes.

[Opinion Owner]

i definitely have noticed what types of guys try to hit on me too haha so i feel you... like i think im a pretty nice girl and i can't understand why i can't attract a nice caring guy with goals and a life but other girls can. honestly I've attracted some losers in my life but I've also talked to some caring really unique guys and i guess what iive noticed is that the good guys really admire a girl who go ahead and make the move first... like they really admire that. so i say if you see a guy you like either at workk or school or at a party dont wait for him go up to him and chat. and as far as gghetto guys hitting you up tell them to shuut up i honestly hate guys who can't even spell correctly and call me pet names like hell no byE haha

[etpige]

haha I completely agree with you! Thanks for your input (:

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I feel your pain and yes you're right no matter the shade or ethnicity there always seems to be a few out there. Then again it might not be them like their personal thoughts it might just be where they've grown up. Maybe that's how they have casual conversation as to not frighten you bc that's how other people feel more comfortable around them.

[etpige]

Yes, finally someone who agrees with me... and I see your point, thanks (:

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

No problem. Like I have a default British accent when I'm nervous. Always had it and I notice people in general like it so I kept it. In short passing conversations I use it. Then there's usual me, political and gangsta rap me. Different vocals and speech patterns for different people and settings. Texting and online interactions I still take the time to write everything out. I'm a little more lax in my grammar but there's no way I'll ever use, for example: "U is" "Don't dat be like..." That'll never happen. I try but I can't really tolerate blatantly poor grammar for too long.

[peachblossomluck]

I love that idea:) Sometimes I pretend I'm deaf or don't speak English .

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@peachblossomluck yeah when aim British people don't think I'm from here and just visiting so they'll usually leave me alone lol.

[Anonymous]

Well, you're attractive so they hit on you, no doubt in a cringe worthy way.. those dudes are arrogant and unintimidated by attractiveness, so they're more forward. Other dudes take a while longer to pluck up the courage.

[etpige]

congrats for making the first useful comment lol. and thanks (:

[Opinion Owner]

No worries! I just said what I thought was logical! lol

[cavmanier]

So many stereotypes

[etpige]

@cavmanier yeah these are stereotypes, do you have a better way to explain it?

[Opinion Owner]

@cavmanier do you have a problem? lol

[cavmanier]

Well I'm not an expert in "ghetto people" but from what I have seen many do tend to have an attitude that "game" (talking to women) is something that they feel prideful about so I bet those guys are more likely to be overt when trying to get women for that reason. It's like a macho attitude. Not all are arrogant and not intimidated. They are still human lol. Also there are not ghetto guys with high levels of courage.

[etpige]

@cavmanier

you're right, they're human too. I'm just not interested in that, I want mutual respect and more than just sex, you know? I look for more than what I see on the surface of these ghetto guys and it's not my fault if I'm not interested. Not all "ghetto" guys are this way, but it's what I see, and I don't like what I see.

[Opinion Owner]

@cavmanier I'm sorry, I should have written "most of", I might have known someone would crawl out from under a rock to point out that I made an abhorrent blanket statement, I will scold myself. Now you've done that, you can go back whence you came. lmao

[etpige]

"go back whence you came" hahahah

[cavmanier]

What I said goes beyond you not saying most.

[Opinion Owner]

@cavmanier no it doesn't. Do yourself a favor and stop talking.

[peachblossomluck]

Amen!

[Prof_Don]

"Ghetto"/"Thug" culture, is based around aggression. I know people who are of thug culture, although I don't live out that lifestyle myself.

Because of aggression being the epicenter of "ghetto"/"thug" culture, it makes sense that people of that culture are more bold with approaching women. It's no myth; I've seen this myself in my teen years when I lived in urban areas, so you're not crazy!

Now as of why non-"ghetto"/"thug" culture guys, DONT approach you as much, i'm honestly not sure.

[hotstuffSRD]

Okay I think I'm polite... believe me LOL 😁 they think that your out of there league?

[etpige]

lol no I don't think it's that, but that's nice

[hotstuffSRD]

What's nice?

[TripleAce]

The ghetto guys almost have that not much to lose type of attitude. Putting that into perspective there not to worried about their image, let alone looking silly hitting on women there not going to get

[Kshppatel]

I notice you didn't say polite brown guys.. lmao jk. Ghetto dudes hit on everything that moves so its not just you lol

[etpige]

haha I know it's not just me, it's just I only get hit on by ghetto guys and I'm not sure if that's only me?

[Kshppatel]

I'll hit on you if it makes you feel better lmao

[etpige]

hahah it might

[CommieDearest]

I think you're mistaking getting hit on with catcalling which is sexual harassment, not flirting.

[peachblossomluck]

Good call, @CommieDearest

[peachblossomluck]

No one wants some tore back bum trying to get at them. Lower class people are more sexually aggressive, race notwithstanding.

[CreepyOldMan]

Because the only difference in a hood rat and a sociopath is that a sociopath generally has a higher IQ.

[peachblossomluck]

There are still smart sociopaths in bad neighborhoods. They aren't necessarily good with money.

[Watermelonoma]

you're a cute girl. you'll attract the right attention eventually. Just need to change up the venues that you tend to visit.

[Anonymous]

You're very pretty, that's why. Usually these ghetto guys don't care and will go after whatever they want. Polite people actually have manners so they won't approach anyone.

[apexalpha]

the place you live,, You would be hit on anywhere even by middle class guys

[Sexualchrist]

Do you live in the ghetto?

[etpige]

Nope, nice suburban town

[Sexualchrist]

Ok what I think the situation is, is this:

Nice guys are to nice to hit on you and don't have the desperate urge ghetto guys do to try and take the best opportunities when they arise.

[etpige]

someone else said something similar, I see the truth to this

[BeautifulMystery]

Becuse they like you?

[etpige]

I said "only"... like I exclusively attract assholes.

[Anonymous]

They aren't as wimpy as middle class "men".

[Anonymous]

Because that's who they like?

[etpige]

you have to understand, I meant exclusively. It's stopped becoming a matter of what's up with them and what's up with me because clearly if I'm only attracting assholes I'm doing something... I dress modestly too so that couldn't be it.

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't matter what you do, you attract who you attract

[Opinion Owner]

That's how life is

[etpige]

I don't possess the energy to argue with you, but I'll just leave it by saying I disagree