Guys, do you believe in love?

[Anonymous]

Do you truly believe in love? I am 27 years old and have had three relationships, the first lasted two years, the second lasted for one and the third lasted for a year and a half. The first man I dated, cheated on me when he was Coaching kids sports at a summer camp. The second man cheated on me because I became sick and was in a wheelchair. The third man dated me while I was in the wheelchair, but subsequently left me so that he could be with other women. I am now out of my wheelchair, but my self esteem is pretty shot. I used to believe in the kind of love that my grandparents and parents have. My grandparents were married for 43 years and my parents have been married for 29. I want that kind of love, but I'm not sure if that kind of love exists anymore. I am the kind of girl that gives my whole heart, I'm loyal and loving. I try to give my guy space when he needs it. I like to cook for him, give him massages after work, listen when he needs to vent, be there for moral support and just really love and treasure him. But no matter how hard I try to make relationships work or how much I love someone, I am always cheated on or left for something better. My question is, do you believe in love and do you think love will come to a girl like me?

[Beaver19]

I am a guy who for whatever reason has made marriage in my 20's a huge goal, even when I was a kid I wanted that, maybe its because I was an only child so my only interactions were watching two adults who were in love and made a marriage work, however I do admit there are requirements, personality alone could never make m elove a girl in a romantic way... I do have higher standards I admit, I wouldn't date below a 7 on the looks scale, (don't fully like that scoring system but just to give an idea) but no i've always wanted to do sweet romantic gestures and just spend my nights and days with a beautiful girl who loved me... but I don't feel thats in the cards either, I've never even been kissed yet at 20, where I came from was a small town with limited options and every girl I went for shot me down... one talked awhile said she liked me, but then said her old crush started talking to her so she chose him... my father passed away in the timeframe, and it was stressful enough it actually gave me a condition that made my scalp hair fall out so now I hve to razor it bald at 20... not a great way to attract girls, and hell I couldn't even get a decent one with hair. After everything I really think I'll be alone, 20 years no experience and bald? but I still keep my standards, I know I'd treat her great so I'd honestly take a bullet before I'd lower my standards, just sucks the guys who really don't care about the girls seem to be the most attractive to them. I hope love is still out there for me, or in general. Until that beautiful looking girl, who's sweet and wants me so I can give her everything, comes into my life, I walk a lonely road. I wish you luck

[Jimmy6850]

Love is an often misused term to describe the feeling you get when you are strongly attracted to them, however, lets not confuse love with infatuation which fades over time. Love is tested, refined and made complete by the ups and downs and the commitment to each other, not just sex or money but working through issues that arrive daily in every relationship. take for instance a simple thing as honesty, if a man is flirted with by another woman and tells his lover and her reaction is anger with him, there is a problem. Understand both are going to receive flirts, and looks and maybe a proposition or two, but if you are told that shows trust in the relationship, not cause for anger, but joy that he or she trusted you enough to tell you upfront. Now if the flirting continues and he or she does not tell you than you have some concerns. However it may be from fear of your reaction that keeps them quiet, so always remember that understanding and a proper reaction sets the mood in a relationship. Love is a flower that needs tending and cultivation, it will grow if you water it with truth and feed it with understanding.

[chefesscofier]

Quite honestly... its to each their own... for me I don't believe in it now... used to then realised its all a myth.. but somehow people still tend to find it and are always in a process of pursing it... it completely depends how you feel about it... if you thinkIits worth you wasting your time over it then go for it... if you think you want to do a lot better than now then focus on things that will keep you happy. ... because by the end of it people are all selfish why can't you be!!!

[Northeast106]

People do love and care. You just have to keep trying, like anything else if you fail at something, you have to keep trying until you succeed. I do think people are more selfish today. Marriage is sort of an old school mentality, and most people are not that traditional anymore. Hopefully you find what you are looking for, and just be careful and wiser when choosing a man.

[The_Lone_Ranger]

Sure real love exist. I say don't let it get you down. You just need a time off from relationships , and council. Then get back out there.

[colt_nz]

who doesn't believe in love?

[planetnumb]

yes I believe, but you have to be lucky to find it