Boyfriend is going on lads holiday, I am worried! Help?

[SparklesSunshine]

The boyfriend is going on a lads holiday soon and I can't help but worry immensely about what he will get up to when he's out there. Lads holiday to a place like magaluf, Malia, kavos etc is one of those holidays where people go to get pissed and get laid - he said it himself once. I know he's been on one of these holidays before and has been a bit of a man slag, as were all his friends, and he had booked this holiday before we were together. I have no reason to not trust him, and I've spoken to him about it and he's assured me he loves me and would never do such a thing but I can't help worry! Knowing what these places are known for and the fact that most of his friends going are single (except one guy but he's a prick anyway and i know he will probably cheat), makes me worry so much!! what to do and how to get this off my head I dont know, any suggestions? Sucks having a pessimistic nature.

Would you cheat guys? Yes.

Would you guys cheat? No way!

[parkway]

Here is all you need to know. If his friend you know will cheat on his girl, then your guy who loves you will cheat on you. He loves you, remember that. All the guys love their girls on this side of the door to the whore house. I have seen guys loose their mind in some places ad some even think they are in Dysneyland wanting to ride all the rides.

Why don't you go with them. Bring a bowing ball chain and lock so you can keep an eye on old boy.

[SparklesSunshine]

I guess it is inevitable then isn't it :/ and I guess it is only a one time thing as none of these people would ever be seen again... Its just a horrible thought.. Someone else pleasuring and giving satisfaction to the person you love.

oh no I couldn't go no way! I'd be labelled as the weird clingy girlfriend ruining his fun lol

[parkway]

The sad thing about leaving a nice woman alone is that he may come home and find you with someone else. There is a bad feeling that he left with you knowing that when he comes home he will lie. There is a cost to everything. Good luck.

[SparklesSunshine]

If I am worrying about it myself of course I would never do it myself! That is true, I guess we will see what happens. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

If he is going to exotic places he will certainly go to massage parlors, and i can tell you the nastiest shit happens in there, there a are basically middle aged to elderly women working there and well it's all about prostitution.

I really suggest you cheat on him back with someone, that's what i would do.

[SparklesSunshine]

He is going to Kavos, not exactly exotic and is just full of young drunk people.
But fair enough, could happen. But have you heard the saying 'if everyone practiced an eye for an eye the whole world would go blind'

[Opinion Owner]

I don't believe in sayings, they rarely work.

[SparklesSunshine]

Have you ever cheated?

[Opinion Owner]

No, why? @Asker

[SparklesSunshine]

I was just wondering what your opinion on cheating is, as you so easily said just to cheat too!

[Opinion Owner]

Well i can tell you that prostitutes are very common on holidays like this, just be observant.

[SparklesSunshine]

Ok, ill be observant. Althought... I dont exactly know what I am looking for?

[Zendrya]

if you can't trust him 100% not to cheat on you you should break up with you cause a relationship that lacks complete trust is a pretty shitty relationship

[SparklesSunshine]

As I said, he hasn't given me a reason not to trust him its just past relationships and experiences have caused this natural lack of trust. Its not that its entirely him I'm worried about, other girls could be throwing their drunk selves over him!

[Zendrya]

My opinion still stands. No matter why if you have doubts the relationship isn't very strong

[SparklesSunshine]

Surely as it is only a newish (well 5 months) relationship this can be expected. If i were with him for a long time no way would I be feeling like this!

[Zendrya]

I don't know...5 months seems long enough to me. I wouldn't stay with someone for 5 months if I couldn't trust them to behave.

[SparklesSunshine]

It is a bit harder than that when you both love each other very much.

[Zendrya]

No I get it I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. But whatever. Those are just my faults

[Zendrya]

thoughts*

[SparklesSunshine]

Thats fine, thanks anyway 😊

[lisa98x]

I think you should trust him , it also depends how long you've been together but mainly i wouldn't worry too much :)

[SparklesSunshine]

Thanks 😊 We haven't been together that long, about half a year now, and this is his longest relationship so far. But thanks, sometimes its nice just to hear that bit of reassurance !

[evenlift]

I would never cheat.

But, I really don't think this is going to end well.

[SparklesSunshine]

How do you think it will end?

[evenlift]

I think it's highly likely that something sexual will happen.

[SparklesSunshine]

And thats exactly what I don't want :/
is there anything I can say to him that wouldn't weird him out?

[evenlift]

Actually, maybe I'm being too harsh on him. But, the reason I said what I said is that most people don't have the self-discipline to control their behaviour when they are extremely drunk.

I can understand not wanting to waste an already-paid-for holiday. But, it's a worthwhile loss. That would be my thinking. I wouldn't want a girlfriend of mine to go on holiday somewhere notorious for drunk, casual sex. And I would respect her not wanting me to go to such a place.

I think, if you make clear your concerns and the fact that you are happy for him to go on holiday with friends to less provocative places, he should understand. Maybe even offer to contribute something to funding an alternative holiday for him and his friends some time in the future. Take a serious and loving but non-angry tone.

[SparklesSunshine]

Thats exactly what worries me, people do behave differently and find it harder to control their actions when they are extremely drunk and everyone around them is too.

Thank you for the advice though, I will definitely be making my thoughts and feelings clear to him!

Although, I wouldn't want to stop him going on his holiday. Its with his friends he's known longer than me and he did book it before he was in a relationship me. I wouldn't want to be known as the 'clingy girlfriend' that stopped him going on holiday with his friends!

[sobg71124]

I have never heard a "lad's holiday" before. But, if your boyfriend is faithful to you, I am sure he won't cheat.

[reptocarl]

If I had a girlfriend that I loved I might go if she was OK with it but no I wouldn't get laid

[SparklesSunshine]

Thank you for sharing :) we love each other so will hopefully be the same too

[cinderelli]

try and trust him..

[SparklesSunshine]

I am trying my best to trust him, and he hasn't given me a reason not to. Its just hard and is taking control of my mind :(