I joked about his size and he got angry and then insulted my breast size was he serious or just upset? (Page 2)
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What you meant it to be (a joke) is not as important as how he saw it (not a joke). In that kind of situation, you both need to understand each other's humor and also how far you can push that. I would have probably made a joke about tour breast size, but it would obviously been just a joke and I would not have been offended by your joking (as long as it was joking).
You need to apologize first (you did start it) and then have a talk so you two understand each other on these kiind of things.
Especially if its in front of others. You down right embarrassed the dude, Question asker.
Never joke about that with a guy. EVER. It doesn't matter how big or small he is, never ever mention anything about his size in front of other people. It's incredibly rude, and insensitive.
What stickstickity said is 100% accurate. This would be like if he said "Well I'm surprised too, cause she's a fat one". You would not appreciate it at all. You should apologize.
You were extremely rude and inconsiderate towards his feelings. What you did was wrong. What he did was wrong too, but under the circumstances, after you humiliated him in front of everyone, I can understand why he said what he did. He was hurt and spurned on by that, but potentially he meant it. Who cares? It doesn't bother him enough to do anything serious about so obviously he doesn't give too much of a shit but he likely does feel embarrassed about himself now. You both need to apologise.
... Are you fucking kidding me? Woah. You must be either insanely naive about guys or wickedly insensitive. I'm going to assume you're just really naive.
Joking about your boyfriend having a small penis, especially in front of other people, is probably the most insulting thing you could've done to him short of castrating him. That's probably the equivalent of him stabbing you and calling you fat as you bleed out.
I sincerely doubt that you'll be able to get his forgiveness on this one. If you do, he's going to remember this for a damn long time.
You don't make fun of a guys penis in front of a bunch of people. You were very wrong for that and really hurt his feelings so I don't feel bad for you at all.
He was insulted and serious in his reply, do not be surprised if that is the last you see of him, or if you do see him it will be to collect anything he's left at your place and then move on,
Honestly, do you have no filter between your hind brain and your mouth?
Did you even give a thought about what you were saying?
You could try apologising and own that what you said was wrong, but I doubt he'll accept the apology, You just turned you longest relationship into the longest so far.
For real. No self respecting person would return after a blow like that. It’s every guy’s biggest insecurity and you humiliated him with it. I’d never be able to have a physical relationship with someone who took a shot like that at me. He reacted that way because he was incredibly hurt. People that truly love you don’t hurt you like that - do my advice to him would be to move on and work on rebuilding the self-esteem that you just shattered all over the floor.
Almost the exact same thing happened to me. That was 18 years ago and I’m still messed up by it.
You're both wrong, but your jest is worse because unless he whips it out to prove to them all that he isn't suffering from tiny dick syndrome, none of them will know. Provided they don't fuck him, too.
Your tits are on your chest and it's quite easy to see whether you're flat chested or not.
You can fix this by asking for his forgiveness. What he did, he did it to show you that it hurts. Maybe there is some truth in what he said, maybe he finds you don't have big breasts. That doesn't mean you don't have other great things he likes. Nobody is perfect. Tell him you're sorry that you really don't think he has a small dick and don't do it again. Give him some time and all will be ok.
You don't joke about a mans size unless he is uber secure or can take what you dish out. That's like one of the most insulting humiliating things a women can say to a man. Would be like if i said "man, i bet guys just run away from you when you walk into a room." Also its one thing to be joking around in a private setting but with a group of people that was just mean regardless of the intent. I don't blame him to be honest.
Agreed. Even if he is secure, the social put down of telling someone they have a small penis (whether they have one or not) is still alive... Such intimate info shouldn't even be said in front of other people.
This was definitely your fault. You are a horrible communicator to even think that what he did was way worse. I don't properly understand how women in this case, like you, ALWAYS EXPECT the man to be at fault. You are clearly selfish and narrow minded. I can't believe your boyfriend would date you.
He was most likely serious and didn't say anything bc he respected you. At that moment he had no reason to. A bit overreacting on his part but plain bitch move on your part. Not called for. He couldn't call you a bitch? You're allowed to hurt him but it's wrong when he hurts you?
You made a negative joke about his body, and you expect him to be okay with that?
He should have played it off with a smile and said, "yeah, it looks like someone glued an acorn to my pelvis".
In general, dude, you should know guys are over self-conscious of their schmucks. On the level of body dysmorphia.
Girls can get cheap attention from almost any dude they want and do so to spite a man already in their life. That "hidden truth" is not on the same level. Apologize.
He should have just left (without stooping to your level of insult) and never looked back. As in be done with you.
Couldn’t have said it any better myself.
You shouldn't have said that, that must of hurt his feelings. You kind of deserved it because what kind of girlfriend insults her bfs penis infront of his/her freinds. Lol
Yeah, you were a rude bitch and you basically humiliated and dedignified him in front of your friends. You deserved the comment about your chest. This is your fault. You crossed a line.
Insult his member, infront of his friends? And ask if his insulted?
*rolls eyes* youth these days
And you think the boob insult was worse
*rolls eyes*
The guys on here are saying they'd break up with a girl over this. I don't think you did anything terrible, and he insulted you back (maliciously) so he got his 'revenge'. How all the guys are replying makes me feel glad that I chose not to have a boyfriend yet. I can't deal with the whole male ego thing. This is one of those times that I think feminists have a good point.
I think for girls, having a guy insult their body parts hurts their self esteem. For guys, the insult is ego damaging, but I don't think it hurts their self esteem in the same way. If it did, they wouldn't be saying they would leave a girl who said that. A girl would probably react to being insulted by trying to please her partner even more. So the guys comparing insults and saying Asker deserved to be insulted back, don't sound like they have low self esteem to me.
Come on. How would you feel if your boyfriend joked you had a flat chest or a large labia in front of your/his friends?
@byebuddy I wouldn't like it. But I wouldn't get extremely offended or want to break up with him as long as he wasn't trying to hurt me.
Nobody wants to be with someone who hurts them.
"but I don't think it hurts their self esteem in the same way"
How would you even know that? You're not a guy. Stop making assumptions like that, it's only making you look like a fool.
I can agree with you on breaking up is over the top, but suggesting guys don't have emotions or self-esteem problems is a sign of ignorance. The 'ego' could be some guys way of manifesting their hurt feelings or damaged self-esteem condition by our society or supported by ignorant internet garbage and the media. Ultimately, we all have emotions which is why people are pointing out that her actions were wrong.
Oh yass baby, this make meh even more determine to marry u and be the LUV if ur life👄💋
You mention feminism then presume that girls would react to an insult by "trying to please her partner EVEN MORE?" LOL! This is the first time I have wished for a feminist to be here. They would have you for breakfast and -I- would have some live entertainment.
You did get one part of feminism right - shrugging off the woman's actions and bashing the entire male gender.
I said that since the guys want to DUMP her... that's not the same disposition as someone who has low self esteem. I said that their feelings wouldn't be hurt in the same way, not that they weren't hurt. And I do think a girl would feel like there was something wrong with her, instead of dumping/hating him. Even on this thread, most of the girls are agreeing with the guys.
I'm surprised so many people support how the guys feel! I think people like traditional roles more than they would admit.
It's a betrayal of trust, that's why some guys feel like it's worth breaking up over. She betrayed him in a very sensitive way, and some guys just don't put up with betrayal well.
But if a guy were to make fun of a girls boobs vagina it would be considered emotional abuse
That is not something I would ever mention to him in any way let alone say in front of his guy friends! It is "potentially relationship-ending level." I would suggest ignoring the boob stuff for now and apologizing. Maybe he will reach a point where he also apologizes and you can move forward. Good luck!
I understand his réaction, Never ever tell a Guy That his pénis is Small or cute in front of others cause thats Just embrassing...
But over all he shouldn't have uses bad language such as b*tch with you That was too Much, i know it wasn't you intentions to Hurt him but we all make mistakes at one point...
And the Guys answering are a bit too dramatic... its not the end of the world if someone says you got a small cock. ...