Why are teenage boys so shallow? and does it get better after high school?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone, I currently in high school (age 18) and i'm having issues with the boys - i know it should'nt get to me but they all make me feel so ugly and small, it's why i've never had a boyfriend (is that weird) people call me cute and innocent, i'm kinda awkward, and i like nerdy stuff like astronomy and sci fi- i'm reserved and shy - i dont really say much in class so that may be the reason - a guy liked me abot two years ago but i frecked out and it all went terribly wrong since then no-one guy has talked to me - i dont get it they like the ugly girls, all the skinny blonds - i think i'm average looking - i'm altlectic, and tall but i dont really dress 'girly" i like more natural hoodies and jean tops, i'm 150ibs and 5'8 foot tall - i dont know if its me or if the boys are just shallow, i feel very alone. Does it get better after school?

yes it gets better

no life sucks forever

[kambo_trick3y]

I'm going to be very honest with you girl, probably more honest than anyone here will be with you on GAG.

You're not wrong about guys.

I hate to say this, but you're not wrong. Society, especially American society, is very shallow. And in many ways, yes, it gets better when you leave high school, and no, it doesn't get better. Let me explain.

Yes:

The world is a very big place, you dictate who you want to surround yourself with, and keep. There are amazing and beautiful people out there who look for genuine things in another person. These people, and I mean this very much so I hope you're paying attention, are rare. More rare than any diamond that you will ever find in this world. Keep them, and never let them go. Be it as a friend, or as a boyfriend.

No:

We live in a world where beauty reigns. Where society is told that just for being born looking a certain way, you are given special privileges. It's because of this standard, we promote a society that allows beautiful monsters to thrive. Look at celebrities, many of these people are shallow and materialistic people, but it doesn't matter, they're beautiful, so they get a pass.

Come at the end of the day, only you can shape what little part of the world that you reside in. Keep being who you are, keep believing and treasuring the things that really matter, and although it'll be a hard road, I can promise you will be happier in the end because you know what is the right things that you should be looking for in other people. Trust me, that is a valuable quality, most people do not possess that kind of foresight, and they're stuck forever wondering why they keep getting screwed over by other people.

[kambo_trick3y]

By the way, I also want to make it clear also, when I say society, I mean all of society. Trust me when I tell you girls are very shallow also.

When you judge a gender, it helps to judge your own first. Symmetrical logic is very important for maturity.

[Red7336]

if that's not MHO worthy I don't know what is

[Nuqood]

More like block worthy. What a bunch of nonsense coming from some snake in the grass man acting like he doesn't want some hot broad in his bed every night and blames it on society and not his male nature.

So much for being 'more honest than people on gag' while regurgitating the same sycophantic bullshit to collect MHO percentages, you stooge.

[tenofthepeaks]

lolol.. you got bullied lolol.

[kambo_trick3y]

@Nuqood

Aaand. Blocked.

Don't EVER talk for me buddy, you don't know me or what type of person I am.

[Drednaught]

@kambo_trick3y
You took the words completely out of my mouth and made it more eloquent than I would've otherwise posted. You've pretty much summed up the premise of our society and how most people think. We really need more honesty in the world because the mere fact of someone telling it like it is has such a good feeling attached to it indicates that there is too much bs in the world, and that needs to change.

Also, I can see exactly why you've blocked Nuqood as he was projecting onto you what you "are" despite having no personal knowledge or insight as to anything about you whatsoever. Things like this personally drive me crazy, but it does make me appreciate seeing that I'm not in all of this alone.

[kambo_trick3y]

@Drednaught

Appreciated Dred. Trust me, I'm well aware Nuqood is beneath me.

[Nuqood]

So you're reserved and shy and don't approach people yet you feel it owed to you that some guy bursts through the masses, hands you flowers, picks you up, and provides you with summat you never dreamed of? And when a guy actually does talk to you, you freak out and ruin it and somehow it's other men's fault that you're some awkward little nerd?

Do you know male nature? Men are visual, and if you're dressing like a bum you aren't going to attract shit. I bet you go for the guys who are better than average looking, too. I want to shake the shit out of the person who started this whole 'men are dogs' crap that teenagers love the spew.

[LuckyLittleLucy]

Hey Anonymous- I would've loved a name but I get why you didn't put it on.
I just want to address a few things before I anwer the actual question.
1. NOBODY should EVER make you feel ugly, or unimportant. As long as you are true to yourself, you are beautiful and just as important and special as anyone else. No ifs or buts about it.
2. It is NOT weird to not have had a boyfriend or girlfriend (for anyone who's reading this and is attracted to girls). You don't need a partner, and should only get one when YOU feel ready. Everybody feels ready at different times, so don't let anybody force you into it.
3. It doesn't matter what you look like or how you dress, boys should never be able to make you feel bad. they may not even realise they're upsetting you though. Be confident in yourself because nobody can love you if you don't love yourself.
It will definitely get better if you want it to!! There will always be shallow guys- like there are shallow girls- but there are plenty of awesome guys in the world! surround yourself with people who make you comfortable in your own skin and you'll soon realise that you're perfect just the way you are.
Hope this helped! Good Luck!
Lucy xx

[9mfeo]

After high school, you're able to meet a broader range of humans (especially if you pursue post-secondary education). In high school, you're lumped in together with all the people in your area so there's no guarantee that you'll share any of the same interests. While working and pursuing either university or college education, you'll be able to meet people who actually want to be where they are and have applied and been accepted to do so. It does get better. Perhaps not right away, but I would die before I went back to high school.

[Anonymous]

The good seeds get MUCH better but
also be wary of the bad seeds, as they are much smoother in oiling you up then sliding you into bed, then their true selves come out.
Take care of your wardrobe to insure you have at least one outfit to suit any occasion, dress for success but no one needs a Barbie during everyday classes/outings.

[Frost_Byt3]

Really? In my experience, HS boys were never very shallow. Everything was about sex and everyone was desperate to get laid.

While the girls on the otherhand were SUPER shallow and stuck up, and bitchy.

But either way, it does get better. It'll probably be better in college because during high school everyone is raging with mid-puberty hormones. But after everyone is fully developed they will develop actual personalities and some of them will be good people, and some will be worse than before.

But best of all, now instead of being limited to the guys in your school or the guys in your town, your limited to all the guys under the sun.

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

Honestly, all the really skinny blondes at my school dont really get asked out. The girls who are cobsiderd the best at my school are the tall burnettes. But i dont know, im pretty sure if your really cute guys dont ask you out because they dont think they measure up. But in your case, i think guys go after girls they know are sluts because they are looking for easy sex. So either slut it up, or wait untill guys mature.

[FistFullOfSteel]

so , you make a mistake with the only guy that liked you... and now all guys are shallow? let me set it straight:it won't get better if you dont change your own perception and reaction to boys. No guy will like you if you call everyone not interested in you shallow...

[oldlady]

There are always shallow men (and women), and even among boys there are always a bunch who will value you for who you are, but the numbers definitely lean toward deeper, more respectful men as you get older.

[Anonymous]

Young males hyped up on hormones make crappy decisions. I know when I was younger I have done some strange things to better my chances of getting sex. At one point I was juggling three girls and loved every moment of it. Looking back I'm not really proud of it and now I'm super faithful. Mid to late 20's when the hormone thing levels out it gets better.

[Anonymous]

"i dont get it they like the ugly girls, all the skinny blonds"

I'm surprised someone shallow enough to say that statement has the nerve to call guys shallow.

[JCT666]

This. ^^

[AleDeEurope]

So they don't like you and they're shallow?
HS is shallow, both guys and girls, once you're out of it abd popularity means nothing, you'll see a better side of the people.
Don't worry.

[Sara413]

Guys mature a tonne throughout their twenties in particular. Nothing wrong with holding off and just being friends with them while you're young.

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

Actually she could miss out on a lot, she should try to put herself out there more.

[Sara413]

Meh... I didn't really date in high school and I don't feel like I missed out on much...

[John_Doesnt]

Because they are inexperienced and their hormones make them insanely horny. Give guys time to control their sexual urges, just like girls need time to adjust to PMS.

[FistFullOfSteel]

did you read what she wrote? She said everyone that isn't attracted to her is shallow and, as anon pointed out:"i dont get it they like the ugly girls, all the skinny blonds". its clear that it isn't the guys fault

[Octavius]

A lot of guys will mature. A lot of guys will become even more skilled at being a dbag in their 20's.

[Sam19XX]

Neither.
Its not about where u r right now. i dont like shy girls. And maybe u just dont look good enough , sorry.

[Drast]

So because they don't like you and they go for the "ugly" girls, they are shallow.

[Drast]

I do not see the logic in this.

[Nuqood]

She's just mad that she has to actually try to be a normal human instead of being 'accepted for the loser she is' and still get a quality guy.

[Anonymous]

People don't like quiet persons. Tbh, I don't feel attracted at all to girls that talk so little that I sometimes forger they exist. Maybe I'm shallow. Everyone is. Like the girl who told me she prefers super tall guys. >:(

[Anonymous]

You'll meet more boys similar to you soon. High school gives you a very limited selection.

[tenofthepeaks]

you have to deal with it.

as for suck, well no, life is what you make of it. you need to learn how to have good expectations of others.

[Anonymous]

from what i see they get better in their late 20s :")

[Spyzewich]

You know I hadn't never a girlfriend at highscool. But after then it changed.

[Anonymous]

Yeah right like teenage girls dont go after the guy with the big dick.

[ClariceOwen23]

EVERYTHING gets better after high school!

[Anonymous]

Life got infinitely better after HS.