Why are some guys protective or even "overly protective" of their wives/gfs?

[JamielovesKU]

Ok so I have this friend who was in a relationship with this guy for a little while and he was so protective of her, he wouldn't even let her go out the front door unless he was there. It seems way to extrem for me and definitely not a relationship I would like to be in. I know was that protective over her because I had asked her if she wanted to out out for a walk and he flat out told her she wasn't allowed to leave the house because he was leaving to go look at a piece of furniture with my mom. Of course we went out anyway, but he was telling her a bunch of horor stories about how he had to fight for his life after just going out for a walk on his own. I myself have gone on 3hr long walks by myself since I was 12. But there's other guys out there who are just a little protective. I guess my questions is, why are guys so protective over their wives/gfs? We aren't as hopeless as you think ya know. But in your opinion, why are you so protective over them and girls why do you think your guy is protective or "overly protective" over you and do you like it? I for one can't stand a guy that is overly protective.

I am protective of my wife/gf (Why?)

I am "Overly protective" of my wife/gf (Why?)

I am not protective of my wife/gf because I feel she can take care of herself for the most part without my supervision.

My husband/bf is protective over me because... and I hate it!

My husband/bf is "Overly protective over me because... and I hate it!

My husband/bf is protective/overly protective over me and I love/like it because I feel more safe that way.

My husband/bf is not protective over me and I love/like it because I need my free time, time to myself, alone time, etc.

[AleDeEurope]

I'm single right now, but I'll be a protective partner, that doesn't mean I'm not gonna let her out of the house alone, but if she's out at night and has no one to come with back home I will go pick her up, not letting her walk home at 2am. I trust her, I know my future girl will know how to protect herself, but there are certain situations that I rather be protective that cry because something happened to her.
I won't be overly protective, but I'll make sure she's safe.

[AleDeEurope]

Than* cry...

[JamielovesKU]

I like guys with that kinda attitude :)

[chrismarie5589]

Where can I find someone like this? love this outlook, not overbearing but still very caring

[FedoraTheExplora]

Although I'm single, I do tend to be protective of my partner to a certain extent.

There's 'natural' protectiveness which comes with being a man (that's where I am), and then there's 'creepy' and 'stalker' over-protectiveness, which some men fall under.

When you're in a relationship with me, you're allowed to do what ever you please so long as you remain loyal and honest.

[JamielovesKU]

Thats the kinda guy I would date but when they become obsessively over protective that can be really uncomfortable...

[FedoraTheExplora]

Well I never do. I'm the least obsessive guy for miles. As long as I have my space, the woman can all the space she deserves.

[Pat8707]

M'lady

[springocelot]

they're designed like that

example: when i finished up evening class one day, it was very windy outside. there was a wind advisory. i usually take the train going back home but that particular day, my boyfriend picked me up because he wanted to make sure i made it okay.

in this specific situation though, the guy sounds controlling
if he just had a bad experience, then she should teach him that nothing will happen to her going for a short walk during the day

[JamielovesKU]

I agree.

[PrincessTashaaaa]

Mine is. It was cute at first, and it made me feel loved but I really hate it now. It got old so fast. Mine gets angry if I leave the house to buy cigarettes without calling him and Facetiming him. The shop is literally a three minute walk away. He slips my 12 year old brother 50 dollars a week to make sure no guys look at me, and if they do, he has to get a photo or them or an accurate description.

[JamielovesKU]

Thats sad :( Thats just way to protective I personally would not date someone like that because that doesn't seem all that safe in my opinion.

[ShayanMortazavi1]

Whoa, $50 a week? Pretty generous offer

[ShayanMortazavi1]

Was he (your boyfriend) black or white?

[PrincessTashaaaa]

Yeah haha
He's Lebanese :)
@ShayanMortazavi1

[Kirah]

Why is there no option "I am protective of my husband/gf"? :P

Anyway, I guess men are just naturally protective. Though I'm usually the protective one in the relationship.

[JamielovesKU]

I always thought it was the guy but I guess you lean something new everyday :)

[Kirah]

It figures. I usually prefer the gender roles reversed in my relationships, so usually behavior and roles that apply to the guy, apply to me instead (and vice-versa).

[Sara413]

I could never be with a guy who is overly protective. I do NOT have the patience for that shit lol

Thankfully, my boyfriend it not like that at all.

[Tempbro]

I want to protect my wife/partner because I don't ever want anything that is within my control to happen. I may be able to trust them, but that does not mean I can trust the world enough to not hurt them. I don't want to ever find out my partner was sexually assaulted or raped because I decided to not care once. I will let them have their freedom, but I need them to take precautions themselves.

[fulloflife]

*Let them*
Don't like that

[Tempbro]

Yea, I kinda felt like that word meant that I owned them in some sort of way, but I could not think of any form or phrase at the time I posted xD, but I think most people get the meaning behind my comment.

[genuinlysensitive]

Most guys are protective of wives gfs because we love them. The man you described is overly protective because of the bad experience he had going for a walk, and he wants to make sure that no one especially no one he loves goes through that.

You will need to teach him that what happened to him was a rare occurance and he is over reacting and needs to losen up a bit, or risk alienating his woman.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

If i had a girlfriend sure i be overprotective of her cause i wouldn't want her to
go through the abuse i been through in life.

[fulloflife]

What abuse?

[Moimaris]

My heart melts when a guy is protective. Unfortunately I haven’t had a boyfriend. The fact that he cares about your well-being and wants you save makes my heart melt for him

[Ihav2fart]

I'm protective but only to a certain extent. I'm not clingy and obsessive.

[Anonymous]

Because they're possessive and don't trust their partners

[ShayanMortazavi]

Protect her from what exactly? Thirsty guys? The IRS? ISIS?

[Pftpftpft]

So what’s the difference between not being protective and being a cuck?

Because I’m pretty sure you do not want a cuck bf/husband

[fulloflife]

He's being controlling not protective

[Kalibie]

Truth, girl, have no idea why no one else realized banning a partner from leaving the house is not protective and just control freak

[fulloflife]

Exactly

[VampireEmpress]

is he really traditional?

[JamielovesKU]

I don't know I've only known him for maybe a week

[kiler1000]

we're designed to.

[fulloflife]

Well cratered to

[fulloflife]

Created*