My boyfriend said he might hit me if I cheat on him, should I be worried?

[hiselect]

A few nights ago I was very high on a medication I take for panic attacks. I don't remember much of what my boyfriend and I were talking about all I remember is him asking me if i would cheat on him. I said yes.. I'm not sure why i said yes, I've never cheated on anyone at least not physically, emotionally yes. he then said that if i did that he would beat the guy up and he might beat me up too. I've never met my boyfriend. we met online and he's 36, I'm 22. were friends for a year befor any thing romantic happend between us. should I be worried?

[Tanuron]

Kinda sad really to see so many high horse comments, when bet most have said far worse themselves. Is a huge difference between saying something and doing something, but first obvious thing anyway. Dont cheat. If relationship gets to that point, its better to break it off before continue with anyone else. I know several ladies for example who have experienced their fair share of cheaters and have also talked about how they would "beat their ass" if they got cheated on again. To me I dont see that as anything to be worried about, they are meerly expressing their pain about infidelity. Either in past experience, opinion or view about it all and how much it would hurt them.

Its not a big deal in itself.

[Vesuvius87]

There is no need to threat anyone in a relationship. Someone that does that to me says they have anger issues. I would be creeped out if a guy ever told me ''I'll hit you if you cheat on me''. Personally, if someone cheats on me, they deserved to get dumped not threatened violence.

[Tanuron]

@Vesuvius87 Different views, I dont see it as a threat nor would I if a girl told me this. Beside, he didn't say her first, he said he beat up the guy too and "might" as in maybe her. Its a vague statement. All of this again about a hypothetical scenario where the only reason this might occur is if you do a shitty thing to another human being. If you dont care how you hurt people, its kinda stupid to expect others to care about hurting you as well.

[Vesuvius87]

I expect an ''I'll never hurt you'' coming from a potential boyfriend, not a ''maybe''. I haven't hurt anyone by the way, never cheated.

Besides someone that hurts someone because they got hurt first, is really someone pathetic. Why would you even want to scoop down to their level? By doing that, you don't get to be the bigger person and walk away with your head up anymore.

[Tanuron]

@Vesuvius87 While I get what your saying, these kind of words are rather hollow, people who tend to use them usally dont follow it. But you are of course correct in that you should expect to be treated right basically and is totally okay to demand it too really, but realistically it perhaps isent, not in an emotional sense anyway, but physical more so at least. I never cheated myself either, nor hurt anyone physical of course, but know I have hurt people emotionally.

True, it is pathetic, but this is rather out of context. People say stuff like "Ill kick your ass" Or "I kill you" all the time even without going through with it or really meaning it, an in this text language, you dont know like above if he laughed a little at himself while he said the last part if he was partially joking. Like several comments here say they should break up and what not based on a situation that is taken out of context where they dont really know at all how serious or not serious all this was.

[Tanuron]

But more so too again, people use big words a lot in general all the time. Dont think people should be so quick to judge.

[Anonymous]

Eh yes And no!!

Yes... because he could have a hidden violent nature inside that might hit ou if you step out of line in his eyes at some point. Even beyond cheating.

And

No.. because as long as you don't cheat well he has no reason to hit you. Even though there's is no justifiable reason to ever hit a woman/girl anyway.

Personally I hate him for the threat made in general anyway. But that's none of my business. Kermit tea sip time :p

[hiselect]

Yes! That's why it scares me, I I do maybe some thing else he thinks is wrong he might hit me...

Thank you for your response, it's very appreciated.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome, glad I was able to help.

[ItsMrs]

If he'll threaten, it's a possibility he will. I wouldn't take chances. He sounds like he could be manipulative. I have panic attacks as well, & I wouldn't put myself in your position. I hope he doesn't know where you live, because he might not be as safe as you think. A violent person is a scary person, & they can stalk. Seriously, be careful. If you don't cheat, what else could he find a reason to beat you for? I take threats seriously for a reason. & apparently you do, too- if you weren't so worried, why would you post this? Right?

[shadowlegend]

Stop contact immediately. That is a threat and he is a prick for even saying that. No decent, nice guy would ever threaten that to a women for any reason. He sounds like he has a tendency for violence and aggression, and you don't want to be involved with a guy like that. If you're smart you'll block him and end all contact.

[hiselect]

Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it.

[shadowlegend]

You're welcome :) I just like to deter people from toxic, unhealthy relationships.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Yes you should be. A: DO NOT ABUSE MEDICATION B: If someone is threatening to harm you they are not the kind of person you need to be with.

I know first hand that anxiety medication can be dangerous so be careful with that shit.

[AthleticMom]

Even though it takes time to manifest into reality, you just saw the tip of this iceberg that comes with a relationship with such a guy as this - choose wisely when shopping BFs

[jacobwright2990]

Truth in the subtext here is if you think your going to cheat you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. But the matter you were addressing I've been cheating and still didn't hit the women Personally I would only probably hit a women is if my life was truly in danger. Men learn to take a hit man up you don't look strong hitting a women.

[suckmyazz]

that is HORRIBLE. already threatening you? continuing this relationship with you will be unhealthy because you are now in danger. he should not hit you no matter what. this is a toxic relationship. please be safe. you should find a man who will respect you no matter what.

[hiselect]

I never viewed it that way so thanks. I think it's a lot easier to see from the out so in then from the inside try I to look at the situation.

[schnipdip]

well, in all fairness she did say she would cheat on him if she had the opportunity :/
if your boyfriend cheated on you, wouldn't you hit him, slap him, maybe stab him?

[Blonde401]

Threatening to hit you for ANYTHING (no I don't condone cheating but still) is not a good sign. As you've never met, I wouldn't worry about it too much but it's difficult with online relationships and the trust issues that can come from them.

[ChocEyes]

Yes. He sounds like abusive. And insecure. Why would he ask that in the first place?

At 36, he should be less insecure. Sounds very immature. I would dump him, but it's your life.

[Jager66]

only if you plan on cheating.. lol

yeah it's a red flag, he is telling you outright that he has violence issues and if you hurt his feelings he will make you feel physical pain.

[Saumyadev]

U guys kidding me?

If she cheats on him, what the guy is supposed to do?

All he can do is crying?

Huh?

If she cheats on him, then she deserves to die...

And, wy would u cheat?

Huh?

If u won't cheat u dont have to worry bout him being violent...

But, if u cheat then just die...

Not peacefully but painfully...

[poopedmypantsagain]

Maybe not right away as he may and probably did not mean that.. but I would say to him.. if you ever say that again to me your gone.. who the hell are you.. Mike Tyson

[chriss]

maybe its all talk you never know but one thing is if he ever starts getting violent with you then leave him but for now don't leave him because you don't know if its all talk

[JayB124b]

Yeah. Break up with him. It's not worth the risk. If he thinks he could hurt someone he cared about then he isn't that great anyway.

[madhatters4]

i don't think he would truly beat you up but the fact that he would say it and not say he's joking or something like that is definitely concerning

[buttheadkakakak]

1: Don't cheat. Pretty obvious.
2: If he hits you at all, leave. He's most likely not boyfriend mat.
3: Tell him not to threaten you like that.
These situations aren't hard to handle until they get out of control.

[Vesuvius87]

Walk away immediately. There is no reason to him/beat someone other than if someone is literally trying to kill you/a loved one or cause bodily harm.

[Waffles731]

Yes you should,
A tell someone in life,
B ask him if he was serious
C if you are on medication for panic attacks you probably want to be in a relationship where someone doesn't joke like that

[Lizardking92]

Yes you should be worried. If he said it like you tell here its in his nature to think about hitting girls... Also you sometimes see that things like these remarks can be a start of something bigger, emotional/mental abuse etc. Just leave...

[nevavanilla90]

If he's threatening violence and you havnt even met yet I would take that as a red flag..

[SansiSavvy]

Probably not if he doesn't even know where you live

[Jackblue]

Was he high on the medication too, if he was it is possible he said things he would never actually do, otherwise leave him.

[hiselect]

He.. wasn't high or anything.

Thank you for your response.

[Jackblue]

Walk away now, even if he said it while high he should be begging your forgiveness. Since he was sober he is a threat to you.

[hiselect]

I'll keep that in mind thank you.

[tony72722]

I sometimes have to fcking just laugh at these questions. This is why I GaG.. for the lulz.

[OpenWine]

I would be worried if I had a vagina.

Let's hope that you are physically stronger vs hulk

[hiselect]

Lmao.
No I'm a very petite girl.

[OpenWine]

Then prepare your anus, you will soon look like quasimodo if you want it of course.

[hiselect]

O_o o... k then... LMAO

[OpenWine]

U retard? Drop that shit rite nao.

[Anonymous]

If you are nice with him, he will beat anything that tries to harm you. just type alpha guy.

[duke10]

Kick his ass and end that relationship he cantunderstand your thoughts

[Anonymous]

break up this is a toxic relationship he is bad news

[Anonymous]

no, I think if my boyfriend cheat on me I would slap him. It's a natural things for me. And where's the problems if you don't cheat no need to worry.

[hiselect]

I get that. I wouldn't cheat on him but it makes me think... you know?

[Opinion Owner]

I know but it's not because he said that he would do it, my boyfriend tell me too he would surely beat me if I cheat on him but he never been violent with me at all. I think if it's just that don't worry, it's not a big deal.

[V17Vas]

I would be just bc I wouldn't want a controlling boyfriend

[SomeoneImportant]

You've never met him, so who cares?

[hiselect]

Well.. he should be here in February... so yeaaahhh...

[SomeoneImportant]

Plenty of time to bail on this dude then. He's 36 getting clingy over a chick on the internet, that means he'll be worse in person.

[hiselect]

Lol well I'm super clingy too.

[SomeoneImportant]

Yeah, I already assumed that.

You'll do you anyway, so, best of luck.

[apple24]

You should leave him and call the cops!

[BruceJender]

Don't cheat on him then?

[Calex]

Okay, now I'm literally just confused.

[Jack_the_striper]

Yes you should.