My boyfriend keeps joking about my cheating on him or what he would do to me if he found out I did something?

[Anonymous]

He keeps joking about what horrible things he would do to me if I cheated on him.

First I would laugh it off like yea nah I don't cheat don't worry

But now everytime there is celebrity drama he always is like "man if you did this I would drop kick you and make u walk home."

"If you did that I'd put u out the house so fast make u homeless"

Today I finally got like fed up and said I don't like that. It seems like ur eager to speak about how u would dog me out or hurt me.

He said "Then don't cheat"

I'm not going to? I don't want to be with him anymore stop threatening me.

I understand how he feels about cheating but I've never done it before in my life.

It's like he enjoys talking about how all these ideas he has to harm me

I told him if he cheated I would just leave isn't that the more mature thing to do? No drama no nothing.

He's scaring me not making me feel secure or safe at all.

Ik I have anxiety but it's stressing me out and making me uncomfortable.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh hell no girl, that is not okay at all! No one should ever make their partner feel threatened or scared like that, that's emotional abuse. Don't let him try to pass it off as just joking either - threatening to hurt you is never funny.

I know walking away can be scary too, but trust me you do NOT want to be with someone who gets off on putting you down and making you feel unsafe. No one deserves that. He's totally manipulating you by constantly bringing up cheating too when you've given him no reason not to trust you.

Saying things like he'd hit you or make you homeless is so over the line. You're right, a mature partner would just break up respectfully if actually cheated on. But it sounds like he's trying to control and isolate you - major red flags! Life's too short for that garbage.

You should dump his ass for good, no one should ever talk to their girl like that. You can do so much better than someone who makes you feel this anxious in your own relationship. Stay with friends or family for now if you're worried, but get out of there ASAP. You deserve to feel safe and secure with someone who genuinely cares about you.

[Asker]

Thank you so much it means so much to me I 🥺 I was feeling so scared he definitely seems controlling and abusive thank you for taking out the time to help me

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem sis, I'm glad I could help provide some perspective. No one should ever make you feel scared like that - you absolutely deserve to feel safe and respected. I know confronting him is scary, but please don't be alone with him until you've had that serious talk. And if he doesn't change, don't be afraid to walk away. You're so strong and you've got this!

We're here for you if you need support. And remember - you did nothing wrong, his bad behavior is not a reflection of you at all. Stay confident in yourself - you've got your whole amazing life ahead of you without that toxicity holding you back. Feel free to message me anytime, I'm always here for a listening ear if you need one. You've got this girl! Focus on surrounding yourself with people who truly appreciate you 💕

[Anonymous]

That isn't ok. And it's usually the person who's constantly doing the assuming who's actually cheating. Find a better guy

[Prezzi3]

I think in the past he may have been cheated on and are putting those insecurities on you, which is not fair. Since you don’t feel safe, leave. It seems like he has a propensity for violence towards women, but especially you.

Also this type of constant hounding could lead you to want to cheat (not saying you would). That will only serve to validate his insecurities even more. It’s like he badgering you about cheating, just so you can cheat, for him to say to himself see I wasn’t crazy I was right all along.

[Asker]

That's exactly how it feels I'm going to just have fun and be happy he is very toxic and scary and insecure I'm tired of it I don't need to be with someone like that he's basically letting me know who he is and what he's going to do to disrespect me. He's already planning it like no thank you I want to be with someone who is happy about how he's going to love me not how he's going to hurt me.

[Prezzi3]

Amen, sister! Good luck to you and stay safe!

[laly520]

so toxic
n its not only a joke
he is projecting his insecurities plus threatening indirectly

[Asker]

Yeah exactly and I don't like that at all its scary I told him it makes me uncomfortable and it's afraid of him and he said then don't cheat.

[ÖmerrCan]

The solution is simple: don't cheat on him

[Asker]

I'm not going to I don't have a desire to I never cheated in my entire life I'm not that type of person so why does he need to keep bringing it up over and over again? He's never even had a girlfriend before its getting uncomfortable like I get it okay