lets start off the story .
I met my boyfriend 6 months ago we clicked instantly.He's so nice I'm his first official gf,and he introduced me to all his family. his parents love me , they even told him to aim his goals on me,and how excited they are having me in their sons life.he got his bachelors this month. we are in a long distant relationship. I'm in America and he's down under.
the trouble started about a month ago. I met a boy he would make me feel so good. we laughed and joke and instantly clicked. I saw him as a friend at first, but then he started flirting more and more.At this time my boyfriend wasn't giving me attention at all. I don't seek everyday attention ,but at least my boyfriend should have tried. I know it was my fault to, but it happen. I had sex with this boy not once, but twice. I cried my eyes the first time. I told my bff , but not my boyfriend. I have kept it a secret from him I will never tell him. even though he says I can have sex with people since he knows I'm young. I'm such a hypocrite though , it's OK for me to do it , but when he does it it's wrong.
so he left last week for a trip in this trip he met a girl and they went out and danced hat happen they kissed. he told me all about it. when I first found out I was OK with it because I knew what I did and I thought well I'll let it slide, but after a few hours it sunk in. I feel horrible, betrayed, I cried.i love this man, but wow I never knew it would hurt this bad. it was a kiss, but wow1 I know he didn't have sex, but it kills me imagining another girl on him.
hat to do?
i have ignored all his text everything. I'm stuck
i know I have no right since I cheated, but wow ...it hurts bad. I know karma came to me.i just want to know what to do?
I'm hurt so hurt and some of you may say good for you.
advice on what to do. how to make the pain go away. I lost trust in him. I'm a hypocrite since I have done worse. I love him that's all I know.
the reason I cheated was because he didn't give me emotional or attention and also because I didn't value him.
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Well, there really is nothing we can tell you to make the pain go away.
You get what you give. You cheated, so did he. His offense wasn't as severe as yours, but he fessed up--you didn't.
I think what you need to understand here is that casual sex isn't going to fill the emotional void you had from lack of attention from your boyfriend. IF it was that simple, you wouldn't have cried your eyes out the first time you had sex with this other guy. You need to understand that just because someone has sex with you--doesn't mean they like you. Like or love is not a prerequisite for sex--that's why you couldn't get the emotional connection you were looking for when you slept with your friend.
As for your boyfriend kissing another girl...If you aren't planning to tell him that you had sex with someone else, then I think forgiveness is the least you can do. He gave you PERMISSION to have sex with other men, which is not something a lot of guys would ever do. That's putting a lot of trust in someone and if you can't do the same for him, then you don't deserve him.