Technically that was rape because you were not in the right state of mind... even though, I presume, you may of enjoyed it. I only mention this to highlight that this guy is a creeper... and he's slept with your friend too, so it's important to analyze if this guy or your friend... or anyone else that may know about it, will ever be in near contact with your boyfriend. Be real with yourself (and honest), about if this guy talks to anyone or not despite what you've heard or your also female friend has heard. My point there is, guys talk... brag even, but we don't go telling females we know who they've been with, and all the details, we don't ask about it either... guy code. I mean I might be wrong, but chances are I'm not.
So is there a chance, once he's home, that he's going to be around this guy or any guy that's around this guy... because if so... holy fuck, not only did you do him dirty, but now those dudes all get to rub salt into his wound in the worse way if they so choose to.
If you're not going to tell him and want to be with him, at least be fair with him. Tell him that you can't do the LTR thing anymore, but you'll be with him if he still will have you once he finishes school... that he's free to do as he pleases until then, and so will you. Don't make this public news though, so that anyone that knows you or the creeper drunk rape guy will not know.
Finally, put the leverage down on the creeper drunk rape guy. Make sure he understands that if he tells anyone, he will be accused with rape... so it's in his best interest to realize it never happened and to never tell anyone about what never happened to begin with.
This is fair to your boyfriend because he is now free to fuck another or others if he so chooses... you can lump what you've done into this time period as well, especially if I'm right about how us guys like to brag to each other and the knowledge of the event gets to the boyfriend.
It still sucks that you actually cheated your boyfriend, but it's about damage control at this point. LTR's are usually doomed unless some cheating goes down from what I've seen in life... so if life is giving you lemons...
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Tell him... or let it plague your conscience until you once again get so drunk that you have zero inhibitions and proceed to tell him anyway
Something here first doesn't add up. Either go file rape charges against this guy, or admit to your boyfriend that you're did unhappy with him that you cheated, but you were too weak and selfish to break up with him.
If this story happens exactly as you say, you were legally raped by definition of the law, and thus did nothing wrong. But if you're lying, YOU could go to jail if you try to file charges. Either way, someone's life as they know it, is over.
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So once you closed the door on him how did he get back in?
I wonder if he did something to the door so it wouldn't be able to be locked.
This guy is a major Creep and I suggest that you stay away from him. He took full advantage of your drunken state and I feel like you wouldn't have been able to give your full consent.
Removed the "drunk" part as that's never an excuse. You cheated on him.
You should tell him and let him decide what to do next.
You need to tell him and let him decide if he wants to work with you to move past it or not.
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It sounds like a bit of a rape scenario... this guy was only meant to drop you off home. He walked you to your door, helped you unlock it, you said goodbye (his cue to leave) and went to lay down on your bed (unknown whether you closed the door or made an attempt at it), and then this guy appears in your room uninvited. He took advantage of your drunken state (drinking less on your part would be recommended to avoid this scenario - then you may have had the presence of mind to close and lock the door properly and even if he did turn up again, you could have told him to rack off).
Regardless of the other details it's only right that you tell him what happened - if he cheated you'd want to know too. You shouldn't have drunk so much knowing what you're like, you didn't have to drink like that or even drink alcohol at all just because it was your friend's birthday.
So I going to come clean here. Only read the first couple of sentences. Right. Now. Yuuup! that's pretty much how long distance relationships go. especially at collage age. That's why it's kind of silly to try to maintain one at this age. Your not going to be the same person you were in High School so you would probably have grown apart anyway.
Come clean call it off and move along. Your not the first and you will not be the last.Can't for the life of me remember why people say silly things like stay away from drugs and alcohol.
"Drinking turns me into this weird party animal version of myself and I don't like it, it caused me too many problems already."
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Save him the misery and break up with him, every man needs a red pill kick to the teeth at that age.sounds like a bit of rape to me. Tough spot. He is not going to want to hear about this. I'd probably suggest not saying anything to your boyfriend. I might call the police on your drunk rapist.
This sounds like you were raped fam... I would be more worried about that if I were you.
Lol. Ask God for forgiveness. Joke! If you really love and care about your boyfriend then I think he has a right to know.
Don't keep this from him, but this sounds really sketchy and a form of rape to me... If it is like the story.
Drinking does not justify cheating. Tell him and let him decide what he wants to do. And even if you absolutely have to go out, you don't have to drink.
Well.. figure out if you were raped or if you cheated because you don't seem to be sure of what even happened in the first place.
How come you do this? You should be ashamed of yourself. He trusted you and you broke it! Shame on you! Go to hell. He should deserve better girls... not whores like you.
Tell him everything. If he forgives you, u are saved... otherwise... see the doorHe definitely took advantage of you. Tell your boyfriend what happened and he might understand but I wouldn't keep this from him.
Tell him and stay away from the alcohol. Personally I hate when people blame the alcohol for their poor decisions. If i were him i would dump you as soon as i found out. Alcohol makes it easier for people to do what they would already do.
Thanks for ruining my faith in mankind.
anyway, dont tell him unless the guilt is really killing you.
but as you mentioned earlier, your conscience isn't your brightest side so you should be able to manage with the guilt 😉Tell him for the sake of honesty. If you really love him tell him. If you don't tell it will be strange in the long run I guess
Own that failing and probably see a therapist about the issues that you bury but come out when drunk.
You made your mistakes now grow up, be honest, and own the consequences.
Sounds like rape, but no telling what happened. I would keep. it to yourself
Break up with him, you can't manage a long distance relationship. Once a cheater always a cheater. It will destroy him if you tell him, it will destroy him even more if and when he finds out by himself
I see NO need to tell anyone, including us
and being more strict in your reform will make life easier for you, keep good guys longer
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