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That’s something you’re going to have to consider very carefully. He’s going to have to prove that he’s going to change. Do those 9 years outweigh what happened? If you were to sit down, write down the pros vs cons, which bears more weight? I’m not saying it’s good that he cheated, but at least you found out before marriage. Seems as though everyone is saying once a cheater always a cheater. I don’t believe that, but that’s on you to decide whether that statement is true. Since you two aren’t married or don’t have children together it would make it a lot easier to leave.
Sorry to hear that 😕, hope you’re doing okay. Situations like these can be an emotional rollercoaster but in your best interest you should leave the schmuk, if he’s done it once he’ll do it again. more importantly If he can hide it for 8 months until you found out he’ll only be sorry you found out. His priorities are way off, you deserve respect and you deserve better. Get yourself tested if he’s done it with her he could have seen others. Good luck, it hurts now honey but with time you’ll be better than when you were with him 👍
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Ay yo, homie went out bad on you sistah. Playin around wit a whole MARRIED woman behind ya back fo 8 whole months? Das grimey as hell if ya ask me.
I feel ya still got love for ya man but ya gotta do whatchu gotta do. Cuz how ya know he won’t just do it again down the line, he already showed he ain’t loyal wit the quickness.
And ya don’t wanna start no relationship off built on no lies and deceit ya feel me? Dat shits just bad karma.
I say take some time for yaself first - hit up ya girls, go have some fun without him gang. Clear ya head.
If after all dat ya still feel him, maybe give it another shot - but lay down some hard rules boo. No more secrets, he tell ya where he at at all times on facetime, delete them other chicks, don’t go ghosting ya no more.
And first sign of bullshit again ya gone, no second chances. People only change if dey wanna.
But choose yaself first sis! Do whats best for you and ya peace of mind gang. We here for ya no matter what 💯
I'm sorry this happened to you. Being cheated on after such a long relationship is understandably painful and confusing. Here are a few thoughts on what to consider:
- Cheating is a massive breach of trust that will be very difficult to overcome. Rebuilding trust will take time and consistent effort on his part.
- Think carefully about whether you'll truly be able to forgive him and move past this, or if lingering doubts/hurt will damage the relationship long-term. Only you know if reconciliation is possible.
- Consider counseling/therapy - individually to process your feelings, and possibly as a couple down the road if you decide to try reconciling. A counselor can help guide you.
- Pay attention to his actions now, not just words. Has he gone no contact with the other woman? Is he willing to be fully transparent? His behavior will show whether he's earnest about winning you back.
- Prioritize your well-being here. Don't rush back into the relationship or stay out of fear of being alone. Take time to regain perspective before making any decisions.
- Listen to people you trust. Getting outside opinions can help in such a difficult personal situation.
Ultimately this is your choice based on what you feel is best for your emotional healing and happiness. Wishing you strength in whichever path you choose.
Leave him. How can you still be in love with someone that completely betrayed your trust like that? What makes you think he won't do it again too? You know the old saying once a cheater always a cheater. Well keep that one in mind. I would leave him immediately with no questions asked. That is a complete deal breaker and nothing he could say would ever make it right but that is just me. And of course now he wants to be with you and make everything okay. He got caught. Trust me and leave the jerk.
If you aren't married and have no kids, then you should pack your bags and leave ASAP. Be thankful that he showed his true colors before you were more seriously tied to him.
The very best lesson he could learn is to lose everything.
Leave him. Even if he says that he won't do it again, who is going to take guarantee for his actions if he happens to do it again?
In my experience, girls who forgive have a better life. Any guy would accept a blowjob by a hot, nasty bitch, eventhough he loves you deeply. If you accept it and he remains with you, it should be fine.
What? You've been in a relationship with this guy since you were 15? Dump him or become his dominant bitch, one or the other. You're scared of being alone, who knows if you actually love him?
Say goodbye to him.
I would suggest stop being a doormat
Hire a hitman
He already cheated on you
leave
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