So I met this Virgo guy a few months back when school started. As the weeks passed I noticed he stared at me a lot, and teased me but that's about all. I developed feelings for him early on, but it wasn't until recently that things began to happen. He would tease me about liking him, which I never mentioned or displayed, he'd cuddle up to me when it was cold and we were sitting together, and he'd encourage me to text him. The thing is, he had been in a relationship with one of my friends. Throughout the duration of their relationship, he'd go to me and tell me things that happened, what bothered him about his girlfriend, and how he planned to break up with her. I never went back to my friend with this, because I felt it wasn't my place to say anything, and it was clear that this guy didn't want her to know. I didn't want to break his trust in me, or start trouble and get in the middle of a potentially dramatic situation with my friend. Soon after he broke up with her, we started to text. Flirting ensued and he's confessed that he likes me twice now. He is very caring, makes sure I'm okay, asks me about my interests/my day, and also seems a little surprised that I like him back. We've been talking for around 2 weeks now, and we've discussed that if we begin dating, it will be in the future, to where things settle down with him and my friend (his ex). We don't see each other much at school since we don't have classes this semester, and when we do talk it's brief. He seems cold and detached, almost as if I were a friend instead of someone he likes. Apparently he's had feelings for me for a while even before getting with my friend. I worry because he claims he isn't shy around me and wants to get me to open up, (I'm a Cap girl, and shy) but when we're in person, I get the feeling that either of us doesn't want to make the first move. Should I let him do the initiating and hold off? Should I back up and wait for him to make more of an effort? Or maybe I should just take the first step and try to communicate more in person?
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Alright, so I've just been told by my friend that he says he still has feelings for her. She says that they used to say they loved each other, even though they dated for a short time, and that he told her that they needed to break up for a different reason then he was telling me. If this is true, and the guy has feelings for both of us, should I ask if he still likes her (since he doesn't know that I know he said this), and who he likes more? I fear that I might be a rebound!
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