How do I convince my boyfriend he is handsome?

Question

My boyfriend is a pretty self-assured guy who knows his worth as a person, so fortunately there's no insecurity bullshit to deal with, however, he doesn't believe that he is good-looking / handsome. I tell him all the time that he's handsome and I even tell him in particular what his best features are. He has gorgeous eyes, a super sexy smile and a head full of thick hair. He's also the perfect height and has a fantastic ass. 

How do I get him to actually think of himself as handsome?

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

It's impossible. He has to start seeing it himself to believe and because he's your boyfriend you love him (hopefully) lol and to the ones we love we see no flaws inside or out. Beauty is in the eyes of the behold and maybe he believes he is handsome but maybe when he was younger he got bullied and that stayed with him for the rest of his life which had him thinking twice about his looks now that he actually grown up to be a "man". It takes time and i don't think telling someone their looking good will over shadow how they actually feel. Talk to him and tell him the importance of who he is and just because he may not see the beauty.. the people around him see's it.

LaFemmeFatale · Accepted Answer

That's why I love confident people, they do not need to be convinced that they are handsome even when they aren't that handsome lol
That's really bad I must say, I can't be with someone who is so insecure about his appearance.
Don't tell him so many compliments anymore, if it's waste of time (cause he doesn't believe it), convince him with your actions.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You can't. That's his own personal issues, whether he's not insecure or he is. Maybe he does think he's good looking and he enjoys basking in your compliments;)

Mustachekitteh · Accepted Answer

Sadly you can't make someone think that and they have to come to it on their own. :(

AlphaMale1 · Accepted Answer

When I was a kid and even into my teens my mom would say this to me, "You are a smart and handsome kid". I hear her say that so many times I began to believe it. In school I was a C- average student for the four years. 4 years in college I graduated with a 3.50 GPA.
My point is my mom told me so many times I was smart and good looking that I did the things that smart and good looking people do. I got good grades and learned how to take real good care of myself.

You can eventually convince him that he is handsome simply by every now and then tell him he is. Careful to not overdo it as he will see through what you are doing.

ak666 · Accepted Answer

I think a lot of guys tend to base their idea of their appearance less on how they look in the mirror and more on how much female attention they receive.

So naturally if he goes to a party and every girl wants to talk to him and goes up to you and tells you that you're so lucky to have him, he's going to feel pretty handsome.

As to whether that's a good thing or not, not sure. In any case, there's no need to shower him with compliments.

Spiorad_Aisce · Answer

I could be wrong here but for most guys it is not an issue - They think as long as I am average, if I am handsome it is a bonus. If he is already self assured and confident with himself then it is not an issue for him - The things that he measures himself by may not have much to do with looks.

Miezko · Answer

Find out who your boyfriend thinks is a handsome guy, you know like a movie star. Then, cut out pictures, you know like from a magazine, and glue them on top of all of his pictures. Next, but posters of him and hang them on top of the mirrors. He'll think he looks like the famous movie star.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

Most guys don't believe they are good looking, but likely he is good looking if he landed you... looks at profile face and smiles politely :) jk

Hans222 · Answer

You say "I love you hairs, love your forehead, love your nose, love your lips, love your hands and everything in between... and you bombard him with kisses on all these parts :D

Cosytoasty · Answer

Get your girls to flirt up a storm with him :P Honestly, since he's not insecure about it then it's fine. There is nothing wrong with knowing one's place.

lightbulb27 · Answer

that may be his old self image, I had the same challenge... I was told how awful I looked many times... so the few times I heard I was handsome I didn't believe it.  Counseling:)

Anonymous · Answer

You can't really. Just let him know how sexy you think he is. As long as he knows you fancy him then it's enough.

joseyyywhales · Answer

Men respond more to actions than words. Give him extra hugs, ask him if you can make him a sandwich (lol SRS), you know things of that nature

FakeName123 · Answer

You can't. It can only come from himself and apparently it is an insecurity.

93stepsawayfromhome · Answer

You can't. If he's convinced that he isn't handsome, you can tell him all you want, but it probably won't change his opinion on himself.

bcromartie · Answer

Punch him and tell him he's handsome and to shut the hell up.

Anonymous · Answer

post a pic of him on gag and everyone will like and rate him much higher than he is to boost his confidence.

SlightlyCrazy · Answer

Well t appears your doing all you can

Anonymous · Answer

Get someone else to hit on him

Iamweasel · Answer

Penor size?

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