What might help is that calling him handsome is the most generic way you can call a guy good-looking, and I think what could happen is that as a guy he's so used to hearing it from others, that is just becomes a typical thing to say. Think about it, when men are young boys and got dressed up their mother would always say "you look handsome". It the same compliment you could get from random strangers, your 8th grade prom date, heck even a sister.
What I think you should try is a more personalized one that he hasn't heard before and immediately follow up with action. For example, want to boost his self image, instead of next time your at his place before a date or something and he's dressed up, instead of saying "you look handsome" when you first see him say "GOD, you look so hot in that!". Then proceed to make-out/tear said clothes off him/have awesome sex (fill in based off wherever your relationship is at). Just make sure you mean it and its genuine :)
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Yes you can help him. He suffers from what I have. I struggle with women because I think I am ugly. I do gym and have a seriously cut body, shaved hair with relatively good features (been compared to military style looks). He has a "worthless" life schema. Im seeing a psychologist for this. Somewhere in our past, we were rejected or bullied or abused, so our childhood was spent believing we were not worthy. This unworthiness can manifest in many ways but looks in men are one of them. This negative trait sometimes gets carried into adulthood. So basically inside, he still thinks he is that ugly kid even though he really isn't.
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you can not change the way he feels about himself, it must come from within himself...
He will eventually grow out of self-doubt or remain insecure until he is old...
Just keep encouraging and supporting him in any way you can, but he will have to make the change himself
good luck!Maybe he just is ugly?
24.media.tumblr.com/.../...fuDiW1qmt85zo1_1280.pngI can relate women say I'm really attractive but I don't believe it
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