Is a girl with only 1 sexual partner bad?

[irexxana]

I'm 22 and I've only had 1 sex partner so far.
Do you consider that boring?
Should I have more sexual partners at this age?
Only had 1 boyfriend but I've dated many guys before.
everytime someone asks how many bf's I've had, I say one and they judge me and get shocked.
Why? I like to be selective on who I spend my time with. I understand it's all about learning but what's wrong with having 1 partner?

[SinghSong]

Depends on what kind of guy you're looking for. For any of the decent guys who you'd want to look for, the ones who'd want to play for keeps as opposed to merely wanting to play you and have a fling with you, the lower the number of sexual partners, the better. Yes, it makes you more 'boring', as opposed to being wild and freaky. But trust me, that's a good thing. The main reason why they're probably getting shocked, and it seems like they're judging you, is because they think it's 'too good to be true'- are you lying about how few sexual partners you've had? Are you religious, or is there some other reason why not? Those are the thoughts going through their minds. It'll put off anyone looking for an easy ride straight away, along with those guys who have low self-esteem, since it shows that you're pretty selective about who you go out with; and it'll also put off most cynics and skeptics, since they'll simply assume that you're lying about how few guys you've been with. For me personally though, I'd consider that to be ideal- it shows that you're not an anti-sexual prude, while also indicating that you're intelligent enough to have high standards and value yourself highly. I'd relish the challenge of meeting those standards, and ideally being your last, especially in the context of your experience with your only sexual partner this far. You've had your first time already, so that should weed out all of the virgin-hunters like that guy. But you've only had sex with one partner, which is the least attractive number of partners in the eyes of the players and casual slut-mongers. If you're looking to weed out as many of the bad boys, users and abusers as possible, then one is the ideal number of prior sexual partners you could possibly have.

[Bandit74]

I don't think any guy is going to be like "eew, I want a girl who has slept with at least 5 guys before she met me"

Usually guys wish their girlfriend had a lower number. They almost never wish that her number was higher.

[irexxana]

I was with a guy who had a lot of sexual partners.
I told him I never had a boyfriend or sex partner.
He still just had sex with me and left.
When other guys ask, they get confused on why I only had 1 boyfriend at 22.
I've only had 1 because I was waiting for someone I was actually in a relationship with. I like sex too, but it seems like it wasn't enough.

[Bandit74]

Oh, I would like to add that some guys may tease you or try to make you feel weird for having a low number but they almost always just want to fuck you. You won't meet a guy who genuinely wants a relationship with you who will be turned off by you having a low number.

[Yesitsbathmann]

The media makes it seem like you have to have sex every month. They make sex seem like a job. Who cares. Stay a good girl. Don't become a bad girl. Tgey make it seem like everyone is having sex with many people and if your not then you're a loser. There's many people who are like u. Like me. Stay positive.

[Sweetie3423]

Thats not bad at all. Just shows you have more standards as to who you sleep with. I'm 30 and I only have been with 3 men. All who I was involved with seriously.

[SirenDep]

Good for you! As far as I'm aware, there's no contest, and nobody gives out awards for who had the most partners

[Mesonfielde]

Just make sure you don't have AIDS

[hellionthesage]

No, its not bad its very very good. Indescriminate sex causes a lot of problems that last for life (rates of divorce increase with number of partners among other things). So no that's actually great, any one looking for a relationship would preffer a woman with fewer partners, its a sign of self control emotional stability and loyalty and trustworthiness.

[AnonKuma]

There is nothing wrong with a girl with only having 1 sexual partner. It's just that people your age may find it surprising since you're the few/rare that is I suppose old school/like to be selective while the mass public just likes to have sex with multiple people in college and what not.

[JSmuve]

Who the fuck gives you shit for having been with 1 guy? Probably some sluts that just hop from dick to dick because they have daddy issues and need to put down more chaste girls in order to justify to themselves that what they're doing is right.

Guys don't want girls that have been around the block.

[irexxana]

No it's guys that gives me looks.
Or they ask how old am I that I only had 1 boyfriend.
Makes me embarrassed to say it.

[DrTruth]

Nothing wrong. More men than women your age have one or zero sexual partners. For men that are looking for a long term relationship prefer women that are virgins or a couple sex partners because studies proved in a marriage, they are far less likely to cheat. Men that do judge you are shocked because girls your age would have 10+ partners by now and that you're "saving yourself for the one".

[sedrftvgyhujik]

Dont just sleep with guys (unless there me JK) for the sake of having more, or for that matter not sleep with them to keep you number low.
One is fine lots of partners doesn't actually mean your necessarily any good in bed in fact it could be a sign you take the dreaded dead fish approach to sex.

[truthbeknown]

Depends. Some women have limited experience because they have something against men and don't like sex or don't need it. In that case, obviously those are red flags.

[irexxana]

Hm. Ok.
For me I actually liked sex when I had it with my one partner. But he still left me after takin my virginity. When other guys asks me they look at me like I'm weird and say I'm a good girl... like it's bad or rare?

[truthbeknown]

You are just rare, that's all. You are not what most guys are use to and therefore people generally jump to negative conclusions regarding things they are unsure of. As long as you are a fun person who is open to trying things, your limited experience is not an issue with me. Some people are just happy in life to limit themselves to a only a few or less partners. Nothing wrong with that. It is just the opposite of some people who have to be constantly surrounded by 30 people in order to have a good time.

[Riggers]

No, for girls a lower number is usually preferred by guys, the same way girls usually prefer a guy with higher numbers..

[Puppylove94]

I've had 0. don't let other people's opinions dictate your sex life.

[blutwolfe]

no thats preferred, don't be afraid about it, honest guys looking for relationships will definitely be happy

[DarkHumorRUs]

Not as good as a virgin, but better than a girl with 2 sexual partners in their history.

[rgb008]

No, nothing is wrong with that.
Same with me, one partner at 22.

[8hardinches]

why?

[rgb008]

@8hardinches what do you mean, 'why'?

[8hardinches]

why you do this?

[YellowCactus]

What about a guys who are still virgins? I think that in general people will think whoever had less sexual partners is a wife/husband material.

[VirginiaBeachBum]

Personally, I would prefer she had a bit more experience. But that's just me.

[Winter_Storm_Guy]

HELL NO!! I credit you for being a REAL LADY!! Why would you want sex with lot guys? GOOD GAWD !!!

[amorpheus69]

It's good to have high standards.
No. One partner is not bad.
Personally I'm a serial monogamist.

[Anonymous]

It's ok to have one partner. The most important thing is for you to like it. I'd love if I had sex with only the girl I love (it's too late now unfortunately).

[QuietRunner]

No it isn't, it is all about what you feel comfortable with

[Anonymous]

No, why would that be boring?

[singlebee]

That's not bad... At all... It's good