What does cuddling mean to Guy? If he see you as a friend, will he initiate it?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy not too long ago. We only saw each other for a few times and recently we got a lot closer. We went to some parties together and I ended up staying at his place. He is close with my girl friend ( we all went together). That girl stayed with her boyfriend that night so I spent the night with him on his bed. We cuddled and played around for like an hour. He initiated it. I didn't reject cuz I found him cute. In the next morning, something bad happened (school related) so he looked really upset. He didn't even say goodbye when I left. I sent him a snap of a cup of coffee. He didn't reply or anything. He hasn't talked to me since that morning. We had a few drinks but I kno, those were nothing to him. I just don't want him to get the wrong idea that I do that to every guy! I don't! Only if I kinda like or have feelings for the guy!

[Anonymous]

Almost postitve why he is behaving that way. The reason is he wants to create space as he doesn't want to deal with expectations, a more serious relationship and displaying anything different between both of you in school. It's not that he isn't interested, he just wants you to shrug it off so he can see it doesn't make you feel he should behave differently, or that you become invested in him and as soon as he sees that, he will feel there won't be weird chemistry, he will warm up again. It's lame, it's kinda a game, best thing you can do is act like it's no big deal and act exactly as you did before it happened. He sounds like a bit of a douche... no offense

[FemWorship]

Yes to question
You need no explanations, he initiated
Let's hang out again soon is all he needs to hear
Too bad this is an Indian-type that clams up & goes hermit when things go bad for him

Are you sure that the night described in no way contributed to "bad news from school"? If so, he may blame you partly and thus the silence until he gains control over the fire at hand.

[RachelBrigs]

This is how I see it but I could be totally wrong.

He likes you, or wants in your pants. I'm thinking it's the former tho. If he wanted just sex you'd think he would've initiated something more than cuddling. He's probably not talking to you bc he's upset about whatever happened, and like you said y'all met recently so you probably aren't close enough for him to talk to you about his feelings over it. I would give it some more time and see what happens.

What happened at school anyway? If it's something you know is hurting him you could send a simple message saying hey I heard what happened hope you are ok etc.

[missangelavoss]

Try to talk to him in person but if he's gonna shut you out for no reason then sweetheart you'll be fine without him

[Kaazsz]

Guys don't cuddle with friends usually. Maybe if she is like, super mega ultra friend that you knew for years, and y'all are just snuggling while watching a movie. That's possible. But other than an extremely good friend who he's super close with? Nah, guys will absolutely never cuddle a girl unless he wants to have sex with her, or he likes her and wants her to be his girlfriend.

[HotDogg]

This.

[ISaidFuryNotFurry]

I personally would never cuddle with anyone that isn't my girlfriend/wife. Maybe some guys do, but from experience I find that guys only do that to girls they have feelings for. So no, I don't think platonic relationships lead to cuddles, unless one of them is gay, or they are into that kind of stuff. But I can't say I have heard of a guy cuddling with a girl he doesn't have any romantic feelings for or want something sexual from.

[Askabro]

No, guys don't go after chicks if they're just "friends". If a guy is advancing on you, he wants to bang you. Period. No "friends" about it. He probably doesn't really even care if you do it with every guy or not. He had his fun, then ran off. It's not personal. Guys just separate emotion from sex typically. If he doesn't reply to you or tell you what's going on, he has no interest in YOU as a person. Just in your vagina. Best just let it lie.

[capturemyheartnow]

May be he was in a mood to cuddle you. You should not have allowed him to do so. Now he may feel guilty for taking advantage of you. May be he has a girlfriend of his own. That's why he does not want to talk to you. You should not try to be too friendly with him. Don't talk to him anything about that night. If he needs to talk to you he will come and talk. Till then you maintain a safe distance from him.

[godfatherfan]

Men and women are not friends. Only women think silly shit like that.
So any guy you think is a friend, he wants to fuck you.
and guys don't cuddle with friends.

[Pyrofox]

For me it means geting close and probably have my arms around the girl but I dont do this with anyone but my SO. As I prefer to avoid really close up interaction.

[Junlian]

Shit when I get hard as fuck that means we kissing. That's it. When my mind is set on my goals then just a warm temporary embrace of down time that can result of good movie watching. Jus sayn.

[fueledbythc]

I love cuddling. I love it more when she falls asleep on my body and when she wakes up, I'll kiss her.

[ISaidFuryNotFurry]

Doesn't sound too platonic to me.

[fueledbythc]

@ISaidFuryNotFurry I didn't read the while post until now. Lol it seems he has a girlfriend and he probably feels guilty

[Tony1974]

So let him know that you don't fool around with everyone and that you like him. Ask him out for dinner and see what happens...

[Fuentes]

I think sex and i would figure that you cane across as easy just alil

[michael2424]

Cuddling is a way for the guy to help get closer to sex...

[Anonymous]

Seems like a lovey thing to me. I'd do it with a close family member, romantic partner or super close friend who's going through something rough.

[TCJ1234567]

Guys don't cuddle their friends.

[Anonymous]

Bad girl...
I want decent girl who is unique
U are not unique, sorry if I break you

[fulloflife]

What happened at school?

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

Did he have a boner?