How do you know if a guy just wants to fuck you?

[Anonymous]

I'll keep this simple. I just need some foolproof signs that will let me know if this guy just wants to have to sex or if he's actually interested in me & wants something more than just sex. I know certain things that would usually let anyone know & that a blind person could see 'he clearly just wants to fuck you' - but this guy says he wants more & wants to take it slow because he likes me so much that it actually freaks him out. I mean, we haven't even kissed, just talked at work & text almost every day. He's hesitant to ask me to hangout outside of work & he's said it's because he knows that the type of people we are with each other - we would end up fucking & he thinks we don't need to go that fast just yet. We get along really well & just seem to click but sometimes he'll say & do things like flirt with other girls right in front of me that make me question his real intentions. I'm just confused & need clarity - how do I know if he's serious about me or just wants the physical aspect?

[plae2345]

I think some guys can be flirty when the situation between you and him are not that serious yet and it's not a bad thing I just think it's nature for some guys that have that charm so don't think that just cuz he hurts a little that he's not right for you and then he could actually be the guy that's good for you but if in time you see bigger changes in him that make you feel really uncomfortable about the situation then you'll see his true agenda just give it time no sex no foreplay just conversation if he really did for you he'll wait until you're ready

[enis_Penvy]

If he cares more about himself than you, he just wants to get in your pants.
If he cares more about you than himself, then he has feelings for you other than sex

[enis_Penvy]

Or I should say "JUST sex" lol

[watercolor_lions]

Couldn't he just fake it the first few dates?

[enis_Penvy]

@watercolor_lions Yep most definitely. That's why if you are concerned he's only after your body then you need to keep it under lock and key until you get to know him better and can be more sure of his intentions. The better you get to know him the better you are at reading him (usually anyway )

[heavenlyhannah]

Same