Why are men suddenly so attracted to me?

[adamjanovic]

Earlier this year I lost 25 lbs (I went from being 140 lbs to 115 in just five months). Now wherever I go guys are constantly checking me out and hitting on me! I've been married for three years so I'm certainly not trying to attract men. I get catcalled and whistled at when they drive past me, random guys have come up to me when I'm alone and ask me out, more than one guy has even wanted to cheat on his girlfriend with me! I turn them all down, of course, since I'm married. I know I look attractive after losing weight, but it's not like I look like a Victoria's Secret model or anything. Am I getting all this attention from men just because of how I look or is it something else?

[MrOracle]

As shocking as this may be to you, men generally prefer their women to be thin, and that becomes increasingly true as you age (because fewer and fewer women remain thin as they age).

In high school, most girls your height probably weighed 110-115 - but at 27, most of them probably weigh 150+. You've got a 10-year class reunion coming up - you'll see what I'm talking about when you see those people again.

So, what was common then is unique now, which makes you stand out, and guys (and even other women) will notice and respond to it.

[adamjanovic]

That's true, actually. A lot of women I know are gaining weight, either from having babies or they're just not as active anymore (I don't have kids and don't ever plan on having them). I've been going the other way.

[Shaft50]

I would say it could be because since losing weight you hav a new found confidence in yourself and your body and that is appealing...

[Máiiréad]

Exactly. Confidence looks attractive on anyone!

[Shaft50]

@Máiiréad Yep, it does it for me...

@adamjanovic Well done on the weight loss

[adamjanovic]

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Maybe you act different even though you don't know it. You might feel healthier and happier with yourself and that can show through. So it could be a combination of that and that you just look a lot better now after losing the weight.

[anasiangirl]

You successfully lost weight and your confidence and happiness is what makes guys notice you more. It can make a huge difference. No need to be a model.

[sunshinechyk]

Congratulations. Your getting all this attention because you are skinny. Guys like small women... guys are shallow.

[Mrwoo99]

lol the hypocrisy! Yeah like you'd give any attention or time of day to the guy who's on minimum wage and is under the male average height.

[sunshinechyk]

@Mrwoo99 LOL - if he was hot he would get my attention... who cares how much he makes or if he is short... as long as he can support himself without asking me to pay his rent. I've dated a guy who was shorter than me... no problem with that but I do have a problem supporting a man financially. I believe men and women should be able to support themselves equally... everything in my world is 50/50. I also disapprove highly of women who use men for money.

[blondfrog]

Seems like the people from where your from prefer that size.

[Anonymous]

Guess because you are thinner, but I would prefer you when you were 140, haha.

[adamjanovic]

I'm 5'1", so 140 lbs was not a healthy weight for me.

[PurpleTeardrops2]

Maybe you just started noticing? lol

[adamjanovic]

No, they definitely weren't paying attention to me when I was bigger.

[Máiiréad]

It is because of the confidence boost you gained.

[ExtremeDew]

Lol, I very much doubt that. Guys love girls with low confidence more than ones with high confidence.

[Máiiréad]

@ExtremeDew Bullshit. :)

[ExtremeDew]

hot girls in particular.

[Shaft50]

I totally agree, @Máiiréad

[Máiiréad]

@Shaft50 :)

[Decentguy]

im pretty sure you know the answer

[adamjanovic]

I was kinda hoping it was about more than just looks! But I've been in places where there are women who look like supermodels but guys come to me rather than them.

[Decentguy]

its because you could be more attractive than those models

[dudeHR]

how could you be so sure , you are attractive?

[adamjanovic]

Cuz I do!

[adamjanovic]

Cause I AM, I mean!

[Anonymous]

they like your body