Why would a guy have a bimbo as a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

He thinks highly of himself, as in he thinks women are idiots etc.

But his girlfriend is like the poster child of silly and cute. She's pretty and hot, that I'll give her.

Why would he date her, no other girls interested in him, or he secretly enjoys her company since she is the only person he can actually feel smarter than?

[Nightshades]

maybe he likes here I've read some other things you said about this supposed bimbo and her only bimbo ish trait would be she's not smart in contrast to being a bimbo you say she is well off generally well dressed nice cute, silly. on top of all these good traits she has good looks what's not to love? you seem to think he has a superiority complex and he disses women? (how does he treat them) well some people think they are the shit they annoy a lot of people but inevitably attract women because they seem higher status and ooze with confidence.

you seem very spiteful is there a reason for that?

[Asker]

I said those things because I have nothing against the girl, hence I was trying to highlight all of her good qualities. If anything I might have exaggerated some of them like saying she is well dressed. Most girls dress well, she is one of them.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure this guy judges women in general, I of course fall into that category too being a woman. It's insulting when you know someone looks down on you, even if they won't tell you that explicitly.

And then you start to think about the person and why they act the way they do

[Nightshades]

dress well like modestly or does she dress like a slut

[Asker]

I don't like the word 'slut.' This girl is younger than me and although her clothing is sexy unlike mine, I think she dresses like any other girl her age would.

[Nightshades]

and how would other girls her age dress?

[Asker]

Normal for her age, dresses, skirts, jeans sometimes etc.

I would think most girls at her age wear the same kind of clothes

[Nightshades]

(I don't know her age so I can't judge)

[Asker]

She's a little older than you and a little younger than me

[Nightshades]

What's wrong with specifics but anyways she sounds great she [apperently] dresses her age she's nice cute silly has a boyfriend that doesn't put her on a pedestal treats her fine and is rude to other women (lowering chances of him cheating.) sound like a great couple as they both like each other

[Asker]

Ha ha ha. This guy no way is he afraid of cheating.

I saw a picture of him hugging another girl around the waist.

but yes it's true just because he looks at other girls doesn't mean he's capable of cheating on her. Anyways, yes they do sound like a great couple.

I find myself rooting for the girl and not for him which is weird

[Nightshades]

well your opinion but I don't know the guy how ever you don't seem to think very highly of him but think highly of this "bimbo"

[Asker]

Yeah that's weird right lol. I think I'm a woman first and can see this girl as a normal sweet person who shouldn't really be held accountable for her boyfriend's lack of empathy.

[Nightshades]

well maybe if she is this good in your eyes then she has to be able to make a smart choice on her own and if she like him what difference does it make if the guy hates on other women

[Asker]

I have learned the hard way that what a person can do to another they can do to you too.

Realistically her relationship with him is hers, and maybe only her closer friends have a right to intervene or give her advice.

That being said, if the guy is not a good one, sooner or later it will affect her.

[ak666]

Bimbos can be fun. I'd easily take a fun one over an intellectual who has no sense of humor, e. g.

It varies from guy to guy, but intelligence isn't always the highest quality we value.

At least for me, engaging conversations can be had with other people if that's what I'm seeking. I look to my female partner for fun and intimacy of a kind that doesn't require the most intelligent woman.

[Asker]

That's a fair argument. But what I don't get is if he's attracted to this kind of girl, then whyd oes he diss women so much?

Isn't that very hypocritical?

[ak666]

I'm afraid I don't understand that part so well. He might just be keeping a trophy girlfriend to feed his ego, but that's just wild conjecture on my part.

I just wanted to make a case for the bimbo type's appeal in general. I think for a deeper answer on this subject so that I don't come off as too shallow, when I look to women for a relationship I'm looking for something I can't typically find with men.

There qualities like empathy can sometimes be a lot more special and interesting to me than intelligence. I've met some very intelligent girls who came off as apathetic. Of course for me, the best is in both worlds -- a girl who is fun, empathetic, vibrant -- but also intelligent. Yet intelligence isn't the top priority for me.

[Asker]

She seems like a nice person, and not just trophy girl material as in she seems to care about him.

That being said, if he's happy with her it doesn't really explain the criticism of other women who are realistically a lot like her, appearance and education=wise.

Something's very fishy about the whole thing. Either he doesn't really like her, or more realistically he only feels the need to put other women down to feel better about himself.

[ak666]

Doesn't sound like the ideal boyfriend from your description. He sounds like he has a bit of an ego problem. He might just be someone in the habit of talking big.

[Asker]

Yes I think this too.

He doesn't seem to be particularly good in the field he's chosen I almost wonder if this is a way to feel better about himself.

I can never respect a guy who picks on women. He knows as does everyone else that if he tried messing with a dumb guy he's toast.

SO he probably just picks on people who he knows will be a bit more careful around him

[Anonymous]

Lmfao yes men like idiots, that's why they are unhappy. I asked my ex if he'd trade good sex, a smart girl who makes her own money and is pretty for someone who jumped when he says jump and he said, "yes I don't care, you don't make me feel like a man", bear in mind I never yell at him, don't emasculate him and people who saw us thought we were married because of how he looked at me, I could feel his love towards me but my possession of a brain was the deal breaker so he started random stupid fights and argue that I don't listen smh.

[Asker]

You know I don't know how I feel about this intelligence thing.

I know many girls who are nice people, just because they're not that smart or capable, doesn't mean that they're bad people. In fact they're better people than some of the above average people I know.

But yes in your case, that is ridiculous of your ex to want a girl who is like a toy to him. It's wrong for him to want a person who he can disrespect like that, and of course the girl shouldn't comply to such demands.

Plus if you are smart that should be a bonus and he should be happy about that. He's not worth it

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

Often they haven't known or befriended any women growing up and yeah generally think they're materialistic and stupid. They wouldn't say it in so many words and do tend to dote on their women but they just don't expect anything from them but to be fun and sexy. Girls that date these kind of guys say they're sporty, adventurous and macho (whether or not they're buff) and so I guess it just boils down to whether the guy/s interested in her see her as more than just 'hot' and value who she is too.

[btbc92]

It's not about her looks or what she's got. It could be possible that he's only pretending to be like this outside for people to notice, and she is one of the only trustworthy people who would see the real him. That's what I'm gathering from it. He's hiding all of his insecurities behind a mask. In fact, many people do it without realizing it.

[Asker]

This is exactly what I thought lol.

I wouldn't be surprised if that whole looking down on women thing is a bit of a farce.

He seems happy with her and she in turn seems to care about him.

Seems like a guy who is lying to himself

[btbc92]

@Asker

My guess is that he had issues in the past with women and the type of women he's encountered, didn't like knowing the fact that most women he sees are like the ones he met, and developed that mindset. She was the only one who seemed to be different despite the stereotypes. What matters is that he is happy.

[Asker]

If anything this guy should use his girlfriend as an example that women can have a lot of good qualities and there's no need to judge.

I often find guys like him have something THEY lack and hence they feel the need to judge others.

[Cmasterson]

Probably there's more to her that others don't see. And maybe he does like the fact that she is impressed with his intelligence which can give him an ego boost. We will never really know why others choose to date the people they are in a relationship with but thats not our problem.

[TheDevilInside]

Because some guys like dumb girls who are no more than a doll to them. They can control and manipulate them and the doll will never fight them for anything. The doll's job is to look pretty and sexually please them. These are the guys whose brains and characters are not strong enough to handle a decent girl.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's attracted to her personality. Just because a person doesn't appear smart that doesn't mean they haven't got lots of personal qualities. He may be able to talk on a deeper level with her, being intelligent doesn't mean you have great qualities or can talk on a deeper level with someone. There's more to a person than just intellect

[Bonnie676]

Maybe he sees something in her you don't. Just because a person presents themselves a certain way doesn't mean that's who they are.

[Asker]

I wasn't saying anything really bad about her, although I can see why you would think that as I called her a bimbo. If anything she seems like a nice person.

He is the judgmental one. I don't get why he would criticize women like her, then go out and date a girl who is everything he criticizes in a woman, doesn't make sense.

[Bonnie676]

Girl, this is the problem of the century (not really but.) You hear so many guys say this "I like natural girls, smart girls" and then they go out and date the most done up looking girls who sometimes don't present themselves very intelligently. Just the other day I heard about a study that said guys say on paper they like intelligent girls but when paired up with them are disappointed. To me the lesson is guys will judge certain styles and attitude and then worship them so you just have to have the style and attitude YOU think is popping

[Asker]

I think is it really so bad if a guy likes a girl who isn't intelligent? Intelligent people can be very stuck up. Plus it's not the girl's fault she isn't intelligent, if she's a good person isn't that what matters?

That being said, I find his behaviour of dating one of those kind of girls and then anyways going and criticizng other women to be pretty hypocritical.

[Bonnie676]

Hmm, I think it is a negative thing if a guy doesn't value intelligence in a girl personally. Because there are different aspects of intelligence, you don't have to know quantum physics or trigonometry to be intelligent to me but if you are unintelligent you might not get the concept of respect or working hard or ambition & who wants to be will a person who is so ignorant they don't have that type of thing, emotional intelligence or can't have a real convo or hold any opinion because they don't know anything? No Bueno for me... and when I am judging others like you are kinda doing with this guy I tell myself "Bonnie, misery likes company and you are just being so sad that you are judged by others you take it out on them, knock it off" and I think maybe you should remove that negativity from your life

[Asker]

I think because you are so young, you don't understand as much about life which you will when you are older.

Even a garbage man or woman can actually have a lot of perspective on life, and be a very interesting person to talk to. Life is just ilke that, it throws challenges at us every step of the way, and everyone goes through the same journey, as in everyone ages.

A 30 year old guy whether he is a president of some company or a janitor will have had to go through what most 30 year old guys go through and that's a reality.

Intelligence which is being book smart, it shouldn't necessarily matter in our world. It took me a long time to understand that but when I was done University I understood why it's important to treat people as though we are all equals.

Also I'm not judging this guy. He is obviously not a very good person, but has some redeeming qualities. It surprises me as to why he chooses to be a bad guy when he has the capacity to be a better person

[Bonnie676]

Of course I will know more about the world when I am older--- it is my worst nightmare that I will stay the same and not improve because I care very much about that. What makes you think I don't think a garbage man or women wouldn't be intelligent? I actually am probably going to be jobless and life outside with my dog when I'm older and find other means to get money and I consider myself very intelligent and having a high apptife for learning so I would never think like that-- I'm saying if I talk to the garbage man and he starts to insult me and project all his insults onto me I would say; that man has no emotional intelligence, I would never want to be around him--- and I want to be around people who are not intelligent because I think people become like the people they spend the time they around the most so no thankyou

[Bonnie676]

*be around people who are intelligent

[Bonnie676]

And I think intelligence as in book smart should matter in our world for a lot of people like heart surgeons, doctors, teachers, etc...

[Asker]

Teachers aren't book smart. They're considered to be the opposite actually.

Just like a doctor is needed to treat a patient, a nurse who has significantly less education than the doctor is needed to actually take care of the patient.

Our world works on helping and working with each other, that's just the way it is

[Bonnie676]

I would consider teachers to be book smart and you seem to think that I think people are lower than others which is not case because you keep bringing up that lower jobs matter, I completely agree and don't think they are any less than. I think teachers are book smart because they are teaching us book smarts and if they are not why are they teaching us that? I would agree that our world works on helping and working with each other no matter how small the job is that somebody has to do is

[Bonnie676]

That being said, I am going to end this conversation because you didn't ask for my opinion on any of this , only the question about the guy thing

[Nightshades]

you guys say it's all the guys fault with the "I like natural I like smart" well girls do the exact same thing "oh I want a nice guy to treat me like I'm special" no you fucking don't you want an asshole that act better than you. my friends and I were chatting about dating advice right one of the thing that all of us said that never take dating advice from a women. now don't get me wrong men aren't all to perfect either but it doesn't help that women keep spewing out what the "bf material" standards are then proceed to avoid every single one of those traits.

[Bonnie676]

Well how do you think it is not the guys fault if he says that and then does the complete opposite? That's on him? girls do the same thing in my opinion and that's just how the world works, but guarantee you if a guy acted better than me it would make me feel so bad I wouldn't be around him

[Nightshades]

why is it that the common denomination of advice from guys with experience is to act like your the shit? not pushing the female down but pushing your self up, well men do this not because all of us have the ego of a 30 year old millionaire bit rather girls find it attractive, mind you you are 16 and dating then is slightly different from when your older but I remember when I was younger you could get girls at 14 by being really nice but then after that guys who were nice couldn't anymore 15+ and guys had to change up how they acted and the most effective way was being really smart/w looks or being rude ish and funny.

[Asker]

The reason that women tend to like guys who sometimes can be jerks, is that women love whole-heartedly. If they like a guy they just like him, and sometimes all the other stuff seems to fade in comparison.

However, I believe no one in the entire world matters more than you (as in yourself), so if a guy is treating you badly, no matter how much you like him, he is not worth it.

Some women put up with the disrespect in the name of love, and that's a weakness on their part. But it doesn't change the fact that a lot of the time as sad as it is, they are so hopelessly in love with the guy that they tolerate such behaviour.

Like Bonnie676 said, no girl in her right mind would feel good if a guy treated her badly. That girl would be miserable, and the guy knows it but does it anyways.

[Nightshades]

well from personal experience through my male lens we see that being rude and funny or or just putting ourselves on a pedestal works. Now I doubt this guy is actually insulting this "bimbo" because of how you phrased it so then your argument doesn't really work because he isn't insulting her she obviously doesn't Identify as a bimbo so she doesn't get offended and that's good people these days sure love being a fucking victim

[Anonymous]

This is like asking 'why would a man date a woman, she's really hot, but she uses milk not cream in her coffee'.

Generally men don't care that much how smart a woman is.

We care if she's hot.
We care if she likes to fuck us.
If we're more serious about her, we care if she's sweet,
If we're more serious we care if she gets along with our friends and family..
If we're serious about her, and not really rich, we care if she can contribute in some way to a family.

[JohnDoe3000]

If he's convinced all women are idiots he probably just chose the hottest he could get (and who wouldn't get angry at him for saying all women are idiots) and is enjoying theit physical relationship.

[Asker]

She seems really sweet though.

Cute too

[LucienFolter]

If she's hot, playful and she can make him laugh that's all most men need. Even if she's only got 2 out of those 3 she made the cut, that's what he wants

[Asker]

That's fair. What i don't get is, if he's happy in his life and his relationship with a girl who is maybe not the cleverest, why does he feel the need to judge other people (especially women) and put them down.

Doesn't make sense.

[LucienFolter]

Why does it bother you so much? It sounds like he's got some conflicting opinions but you seem to be taking this very personally. Do you like this guy?

[Asker]

Not exactly. To an extent I am a bit intrigued but no, I do not like him.

The real reason is I am aware that he probably looks down on me too as although I am not a bimbo, I do not match up to him professionally. Hence I was curious.

[LucienFolter]

So you like him lol If he doesn't respect you as a person just because of your gender I'd let him do whatever he wants and deal with his own issues. You shouldn't want some misogynist in your life knowing he looks down on you like that. If she's hot he doesn't have to respect her. She's got what he wants. Men have a strange quality where our IQ drops significantly around attractive women. So just by being hot she's bringing him to her level and when she finds somebody else he'll feel like an idiot.

[Asker]

I precisely said I didn't like him. And the reason, is because of these qualities in him which I find repulsive. You can be intrigued by someone, but you cannot really like them completely if there's something about their personality that really bothers you.

This girl isn't really a bombshell, she is more soft pretty/cute. I think there are a lot of women who woul dbe considered much more attractive than her face-wise especially.

I almost wonder if guys like that have some kind of traumatic childhood experience or soemthing that makes them turn out that way, as in their father might be abusive or something. It would actually explain a lot.

[LucienFolter]

Yes, guys are only attracted to hot women if they were abused by their fathers. If you're totally repulsed by this dude it's highly unlikely that you'd consult an online community to ask a bunch of guys why they like attractive, silly women. This is the behavior of a jealous girl.

[Asker]

Not really. I actually sighed when I read the jealous comment.

I am intelligent enough as a person to have control over my emotions. What I mean by that is no, I am not repulsed by this guy. If anything, I have been on the brink of developing feelings for him.

But that doesn't really change the fact that he has a lot of bad qualities, and hence I know I shouldn't allow myself to go there. That's why I said I didn't like him but I was intrigued by him.

In regards to this girl, I've said nothing but good things about her, except for calling her a bimbo but I didn't really know what other word I could describe the situation as.

The reason I'm not jealous of her is because I know somethings aren't meant to be, like me and this guy. This, coupled with his offensive behaviour, doesn't really help his case much.

It's less about her role as it is understanding him, and why he feels the need to judge women so much. I still don't get it

[LucienFolter]

You're at least a little bit jealous. I know you're going to disagree and try to justify your investigation however you see fit but the bottom line is he's into her (literally) and you don't like it. If I were totally wrong you wouldn't care why he likes her. Women the world over know that a lot of men go for women with those qualities and you know it too. But it's slightly personal so you're blaming it on child abuse, which was pretty funny. I'm not saying that you're head over heels for this guy but you've at least got a little crush.

[Asker]

Actually I am convinced a lot of guys who behave like this are victims of some sort. Not necessarily something as extreme as child abuse however.

Honestly? I think it's very not possible to not be at least a little bit jealous in any dynamic where there is a mode of comparison. It's just hte way humans are.

Sometimes (I'm not saying me), you can have a situation in which a guy doesn't even like the girl but if he sees her chatting in a very friendly way with another guy while ignoring him, I would be very surprised if he wasn't jealous, because he will start to wonder why she acted that way with him.

It doesn't really mean that it's a full-on jealousy, that's a completely different thing.

[Asker]

The question at hand is why does this guy treat other women badly when he has a girlfriend who has many good qualities about her. If anything she should be an example to him that a girl has a lot of things she should be respected and liked for, rather than be judged harshly.

Unfortunately, I am starting to think this guy's ego is above no woman, and probably no guy either. His inherent personality is judgmental and narrow-minded, maybe because of his own experiences

[LucienFolter]

I give up. I hope you find your answer. Good luck

[BellePepper]

" he thinks women are idiots"

That's why he likes her. He thinks she confirms his feelings about women.

[Asker]

He is hardly that clever. Sure he's a bit above average but I wouldn't really call him an exceptionally intelligent guy far from it.

This girl seems nice. It could be he just likes her personality as in she's sweet to him, but that doesn't really explain why he feels the need to hate on other women who are a lot like her.

If anything, she should make him realize that there are a lot of GOOD qualities in women too, right?

Doesn't make sense

[BellePepper]

Well obviously not since he thinks it's okay to say shit like "women are idiots"

Of course it doesn't. She confirms what he thinks so he goes on thinking it.

[Asker]

To be fair he didn't explicitly say that but I know he thinks it. His behaviour says quite a bit

[BellePepper]

OP why do you waste our time with asking a question you apparently already know the answer to and have no interest in hearing other opinions?

[10dsw]

Well why do some quality girls seem to be infatuated with deadbeats and losers?

It's the same thing - we will never really know

[aoifeislovable]

He thinks women are idiots, then got himself an idiot, seems probable... maybe he likes thinking he's more intelligent than he is

[Asker]

I notice with guys like that, they think women who are not their equals are idiots. I would imagine he might even like women who are cleverer than him.

So it doesn't really make sense as to why he would go for her. She seems to be a nice person, so maybe he appreciates that, but if he did he would stop judging women in general as he has evidence that they can be very kind

[Liisjak]

If he's not demining her... then what's the issue. Also you're assuming they're both idiots, since he can only feel smarter with her. Ain't you the dumb one for judging their relationship? It's their life, and relationships are hardly ever rational.

[Asker]

It's 'demeaning' by the way lol

No I am not really judging her just him

[Anonymous]

It's probably got nothing to do with the snide aggressive reasons you suggest.

She's probably great in the sack, and cute is always a plus. And silly can be funny and entertaining.

[Asker]

I hope that's not it, she seems like a nice person

[conkrete721]

Don't judge a book by it's cover. She may look like a bimbo but it's very nice. It could also be any of the reasons you've already stated.

[Asker]

So then why does he choose to diss women? lol if anything, he should realize that even if she's not particularly book smart (and neither is he actually) she is a good person, isn't that what matters?

[conkrete721]

Well based off the question, if he is already in a relationship then he should be turning down girls; it's the right thing to do if you're not a cheater.

Did he diss you?

[Asker]

He didn't exactly diss me. But I am aware he seems to look down on me for some reason, even if he won't explicitly state as to why

[conkrete721]

If that's the case then he's not worth your time; essentially you're letting him live (negatively) in your mind rent free.

Never underestimate your value. If people don't see it then they are missing out.

[Asker]

Where did you get that rent-free quote? I've heard it too.

[conkrete721]

It's on a bunch of motivational videos. I watch them all the time to give me that extra motivation when I'm working.

[Asker]

I should watch more motivational videos, truly.

[conkrete721]

I would highly recommend it, they are awesome.

[AleDeEurope]

Because he thinks women are idiots, so he got herself an idiot girlfriend.

[Asker]

You know how you have that stereotype of a guy who works crazy hours and doesn't have time for anything else? Yeah he is not that.

He can be careless, irresponsible, a partier etc. It almost makes me wonder if this whole judging women thing is coming from a place of real insecurity.

This girl might very well be the only person he can be his less than perfect self around.

[AleDeEurope]

Of course. He knows he sucks, so he needs to convince himself that women are less than him so he doesn't feel less than them. He's lying to himself to avoid seeing the true problem, which is him.

[Asker]

Unfortunately, the problem with guys versus women, are that they are usually better at the stuff that we see as important.

For example, like I said he is a careless type of guy, but he is more capable than the average girl, who probably herself might be very ambitious in something like graphic design which we don't hold as much value in society for.

You can see how these type of guys make classic bullies, because even though they themselves are not great, they are better than the average person (woman especially) at the thngs that we value in society

[Deadpool76992]

It's probably because most girly girl bimbos are weak and a little bit airgeaded. So he gets to feel like a protecter and be the smart one and also a lot of them are pretty... affectionate... so it's also that

[slatyb]

It's simple. She gives him what he wants. Sounds like they are made for each other.

[Asker]

She seems like a nice girl. And if anything she seems to have a lot of friends, caring family etc.

I would think despite their difference in education levels, she would be seen as having a more holistic life than him

[SunsetLover]

Maybe because she's pretty, interested in him, and not bitter?

[Asker]

I'm not bitter, why would I be when I think he is the jerk for judging women?

I just find it odd, like why would a guy like that be interested in a girl who is probably in some ways very similar to the very women he chooses to diss

[Anonymous]

I like girls that act silly sometimes, and if she is cute, that's good. She doesn't have to be smart. As long as she isn't retarded and she can understand our conversations, then it's good enough for me.

[Asker]

And that's great. In fact that's actually a good thing, I've always disliked when people categorize the 'intelligent' into a whole other separate category of people. They're not God. They're just people.

I don't really know the reason he likes her, in fact no one here really does. We can just speculate. But that can also be said about trying to read into his behaviour of judging other women: it's speculation.

There could be a chance he just dislikes women in general because of some kind of traumatic experience as a child, who knows

[Anonymous]

I think woman like you have bullyish behaviour in that you are always judging and gossiping about others. Maybe there is something he sees in her that you do not, what place is it of yours to judge who someone else dates?

[Asker]

No I said good things about this girl. Like she is a nice person.

It's him I'm judging because he chooses to judge others.

[Opinion Owner]

then why are you calling her a bimbo?

[Asker]

I meant she isn't the cleverest, and that seems to be the basis on which he judges women, thinks they're not as clever as guys.

And then eh goes out and dates one of those, what a hypocrite.

[Opinion Owner]

that is a stupid comment to make. why you try and talk to her to fix the behaviour, rather than making ignorant comments like this? I see so many people passing off comments like this, as if it is nothing, when in fact, you are manipulating public opinion of her, and hurting her feelings although she "laughs" it off.

[Asker]

You don't get it. I barely know this girl. I've met her once.

This isn't about hte girl this is about the guy. You have to realize him looking down on women includes me. Not saying I am necessarily placed in the same category as those girls, but I wouldn't be surprised if he still sees me as 'less than him.'

That is waht is getting to me.

[JSmuve]

You answered your question. She's pretty and hot. Probably sucks his dick too.

[Asker]

She seems a bit more than that. In terms of, there are those pretty and hot girls who have no personality at all, but she seems to. As in, she seems loyal, caring kind etc.

I don't get why a guy like that who has living proof that a girl can maybe not be an intellectual but still be a really cool person, goes around judging women and people like that.

Something doesn't add up

[Jager66]

because they are easy? Feed her, water her, fuck her /done?

[Asker]

No this girl is more than that, she is well-dressed and looks as though her parents are well-off.

Just because she isn't that clever, doesn't mean she really needs him and would put up with that kind of treatment.

[Jager66]

Maybe she's high maintenance then, some guys like that kind of women so much they will spend thousands of dollars on them just so they can enjoy doing it, no sex involved, no relationship.

[Jager66]

not saying that's what's happening here, just that maybe that is some of her appeal, as in it's her personality.

[Asker]

No she isn't high maintenance, not walking around in gucci lol.

I meant she isn't a whatever girl, she can afford to take vacations and present herself decently.

[HarrisonWells]

Everyone deserves love and happiness. Just because she's not your picture of a perfect partner, does mean that he doesn't.

[Asker]

I think she deserves all the love and happiness. It's him who is the real culprit. Spreading negativity towards others is not something he has a right to do

[evenlift]

Maybe you are correct.

But, perhaps, 'silly and cute' is code for 'fun and kind'.

[Anonymous]

He's a self important nitwit... that seems obvious.

[Asker]

I don't understand guys like him. I don't know if it's akl women they think are idiots or only women who they think are not as clever as they are.

He isn't exactly clever but he isn't dumb either. What i don't get, is why would he date a girl who fits the stereotype of the women he criticizes?

Because she's easy to be around? Why would she put up with a guy who disses other girls

[Opinion Owner]

He wants to feel better than others.

[Asker]

I particularly think less of guys who choose women, as opposed to other guys to 'feel better about'

[Opinion Owner]

I think less of arrogant and condescending people overall. Terrible companions and rarely as great as they think.

[Asker]

I think arrogant people aren't necessarily the worst. I have been through a phase where I got extremely arrogant, but I didn't necessarily look down on others. I just thought I was so special.

There's a difference.

That being said, I learned with time there is no point in thinking anyone is better than others. Everyone as lame as it sounds has their own place in this world, and the only person who is going to be miserable by playing the who is better than who game is the player themselves.

[Opinion Owner]

It's good that you learned! That shows real maturity.

[Asker]

Thank you! It took me a while to get there, but now that I am, I feel so good, and in a peaceful place personally.

[Mesonfielde]

Because she is willing.

[rgb008]

there's obviously more to her than you see.

[SuitAndTie]

She's pretty and hot. That's why.

[Asker]

But if that's all he wants in a woman, then why does he put himself on a pedestal and try to put them down?

Does he even like her or is she just a play thing

[SuitAndTie]

Do other girls like him? What about the other girls that he likes? Maybe she was the only one who liked him back?

[Asker]

I think other girls are good to him, but wouldn't necessarily date him. They have their own standards that he might not meet

[SuitAndTie]

Could be a case of dating the one that accepts him.

[ACrazyHaggis]

Their choice really just leave them be I'd say

[Anonymous]

They like each other

[Asker]

And that's their choice. The thing I am confused about, is why would a guy who disses women, especially women who are realistically a lot like her, date one who is the poster child of the women he disses?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, he wouldn't be with her if he didn't like her. Right?

[Asker]

Right. So then why judge the others?

What a hypocrite

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure why he does that? I guess that's just the way he is if he thinks highly of himself.