Why don't men take me seriously?

[kaliforniagirl]

I only date older me... but I want a serious relationship and I feel like they just want a fling or arrangement... how can I be seen as wife material?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Lol you are here in California and you want a serious relationship?
9/10 dudes alone are not dating material, not in our age range.
You want to be seen as wife material?
Thats easy,
-dress modestly
-try new things
-express desire for a relationship
-try to be 1 on 1 more often
this is mainly because guys who are with a group aren't focused primarily on you as often so being 1 on 1 is key so you two can talk.
-be straight foreward and honest about not playing games
this primarily doesn't work on guys our age which is a sad fact.
-Look for someone who is professional
I am a firefighter so look for people like I am, Medics, Doctors, Nurses or police officers. Well rounded individuals. Not someone content with sitting in a cubicle 24/7 as you come off as someone who likes to be out and about.
-also you say young, wild and free on your profile so i can only assume you are childish.
-no man wants to marry someone he cannot respect.
There is an outline
so key points to go over=
-become more independent, try new things, travel
-change that young wild and free to mature, composed and astute. You can still have fun.
-Real men like someone who challenges him mentally. I will not chase a girl if she is not smarter than I am.
Any questions shoot me below. Otherwise
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[kaliforniagirl]

wow... thank you

[kaliforniagirl]

I am keeping your advice

[OrdinaryGentleman]

I'm glad you are, that took awhile to write.

[kaliforniagirl]

have a good night!!! ☺

[OrdinaryGentleman]

You as well :)

[tetris]

because you dont take them seriously, to be wife material you have to find a guy who wants a wife. and you have to be someone who is decent too. you say you only date older. in my opinion thats questionable for what type of personality you have. and if you possibly think realistically. and its the guys your going for.

[kaliforniagirl]

well that is food for thought

[Anonymous]

You can't be "seen" as such you either are or you're not.

[kaliforniagirl]

well

[EpicDweeb]

If you're desire is to be seen as a potential wife, there are certain skills that older men might look for in a wife that others might not care about. Cooking especially, is a talent and skill that is invaluable to have if you want someone to seriously consider you as a potential spouse.

[boredhorse]

Chase your passions and you'll fall in step with guys who share them with you. Chase men and you'll look uninspiring. if your goal in life is me, and you get me... game over. (just a thought I could be way off. ) good luck😀

[kaliforniagirl]

I'm passionate about men... and pretty things... I am shallow and consumed by material things... I want to be like inspiring and passionate about forests or whatever but that would be fake

[boredhorse]

invest in yourself then. the world is crazy big make yourself a book worth reading go write some interesting chapters of your life. you don't have to be deep, you can be wide. go skydiving visit Europe, make stories just go hard with it without the boys.

[boredhorse]

with or without*

[kaliforniagirl]

you're so wise Dr. Boredhorse... thank you

[boredhorse]

not sure if your being facetious or not haha but hell if I said something worth a damn your welcome 🙃

[boredhorse]

and if I'm just being a bother never hesitate to tell me to fuck off 😜

[kaliforniagirl]

I was trying to compliment you... facetious isn't really my thing

[boredhorse]

I'm that case thanks!😀

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Because you're young. That's why they don't take you seriously.
Maybe if you were more mature.

[GARY-]

To be seen as wife material you have to BE wife material.

& Trust me, older successful men have a lot of life experience and can spot a gold digger a mile away. So any tactics you'll want to try won't work.

[kaliforniagirl]

I'm not a gold digger

[GARY-]

You like men that are 50+ years old? It's not the men you're attracted too sweetheart, it's something else... 🤑

[kaliforniagirl]

it is the men... like Brad Pitt is 54 & George Clooney

[GARY-]

Right Brad Pitt, he's an A-list celebrity... That's not your average 50+ yr old. Even if it was, you're after something else.

[Anonymous]

I am in my mid 30s and I would take a younger girl seriously for a long term relationship, but I need to have similar morals and life goals to be a good match.

[blondfrog]

That's weird I guess its the same way older women don't take younger men seriously.

[kaliforniagirl]

When you put it that way I understand

[blondfrog]

yeah that's life right? Not every mindset both genders have is logical. At the end of the day we're gonna want to be with what we find attractive.

[kaliforniagirl]

this is true

[ulava007]

you r too young to b seen as a wife material especially when you wanna date older people.

[PhilosophicalBull]

Sounds like a trap to me.
A fine way to end up paying out a ton of alimony. And child support.

[kaliforniagirl]

I'm not like that

[kaliforniagirl]

I'm like selfish nor would I ever forecast divorce

[Anonymous]

because they think tht u r not serious for some reasons

[NerdInDenial]

Where do you meet these men?

[kaliforniagirl]

out n' about

[NerdInDenial]

What kind of men do you like?

[kaliforniagirl]

successful ones

[kaliforniagirl]

I think I have a power fetish

[NerdInDenial]

Powerful men just want to have fun.

[kaliforniagirl]

given all of my experiences... you may be on to something

[NerdInDenial]

What kind of power are you interested in? Are you attracted to people who are important?

[kaliforniagirl]

Yes... like in control of their life & everything else

[kaliforniagirl]

better than just stable

[kaliforniagirl]

I like em busy

[NerdInDenial]

So, not like a person who gets called Sir and saluted by a bunch of people and can order people to do things and can make important decisions

[kaliforniagirl]

yup precisely

[fsu19]

You gotta date the right men

[John_Doesnt]

Because you voted for the Green party.

[kaliforniagirl]

I don't even know what the green party id

[kaliforniagirl]

I know blue and red

[Chrisinator13]

Because you're 21... probably

[Anonymous]

Do you take younger men seriously?

[kaliforniagirl]

well... men younger than me are boys

[kaliforniagirl]

so no

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, women in their early 20's are just girls to these older men.

[kaliforniagirl]

sucks

[Glen68]

everyone is wife material for the right guy

[kaliforniagirl]

I'm not patient

[Glen68]

either am I but I eventually got there and you will to. I'll keep my fingers crossed that it happens soon

[kaliforniagirl]

thanks

[Glen68]

you're welcome

[Anonymous]

Because you don't take yourself seriously.

[kaliforniagirl]

damn Daniel... I think you're right

[Opinion Owner]

The name's Sherlock. And thanks.

[yfnbc123]

Carry yourself as such

[kaliforniagirl]

wiki how to be serious

[eagle1951]

tell um up front what you want

[Anonymous]

Older than you by how much?

[kaliforniagirl]

30-40 years older

[kaliforniagirl]

maybe 15-20 but if they are hot

[Opinion Owner]

For real? Of course no one that age can take you serious.

[kaliforniagirl]

I don't get why not.

[Opinion Owner]

You're chasing guys old enough to be your grandfather. They don't want a relationship with someone your age they want that nice fresh young body you have.

[kaliforniagirl]

wow... ouch