Why do guys not take me seriously?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I know... another question, lol! But I've been wondering about this. I am not the flirty type. I am just nice, but i'm not flirty at all. I am like one of the guys, pretty much. I treat everyone with respect, also I am NOT easy. I am fairly intelligent, lol! But no matter what I am always being called "Hot" which is a very nice compliment, but guys only seem to like me physically. Even the nerdy guys I talk to, and tried to go out with, they just would always say i'm "Hot" and try and hit and quit it with me, when I am not that type what so ever! I am the relationship type. Guys know this, but yet, they don't take me seriously? I don't understand this, I come off as nice, and decent. I am not slutty, or flirty at all! So why is this? lol! All opinions welcomed!

[HandsomeRaj]

I've been waiting a loooonnnnggg time for you to come up with this question :) I knew you will someday :)

What you describe about yourself is YOUR perception of your behavior not the guys :)

Your endeavor is to be nice to everyone and being one of the guys i. e. outgoing and stuff. But not necessary everyone perceives a girl who's as good looking and hot as you are that way.

For one they wind up perceiving such behavior as (don't change for anyone ever) 'easy' and when you continue being nice to them they take it as 'in agreement' to their overtures especially if they haven't been told a stern no or fraternizing with them the same way as before even after being told a no. The nerd types may back off but the spirited ones who think they are god's gift to women persist.

The other reason is your countenance and persona is outgoing and bold which may be intimidating to most guys who though look & sound very confident are actually insecure and are unsure if they can handle a spirited & confident girl.

To date a girl the way you are takes a very confident & open minded guy and probably none of such guys have crossed your path yet.

Again I believe the more one has to wait for something, better & to expectation the results are :)

Please forgive me if I've stated anything that's hurtful or not in good taste, my intention isn't to patronize, degrade or humiliate you in any way. What I observe and analyze I state :)

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you young lady for not misunderstanding anything I wrote and selecting my answer the MH :) I always have and will appreciate your kind & thoughtful gestures :)

[AdamThomas]

What I love about my girlfriend is that she's very feminine. I've had fuck buddies and they've all been the opposite, quite like "one of the guys", and I would never date them seriously. They were physically attractive, but the fact that they acted like men meant that I would never date them seriously. I like to be the man in the relationship - if I wanted to date someone who acted like a man I'd turn gay.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I am not like one of the guys in a way like that. I am not "manly" or anything. I am feminine, I just mean I am outgoing, and cool with everyone, laidback, funny, etc. Not saying that in a conceited way honestly, lol. I just don't flirt, so I just associate myself with the term "like one of the guys" But I understand your point, Thanks for commenting! :)

[AdamThomas]

No problem, maybe you could try flirting a little with the guy you like?

[Paris13]

Hi, BB... I believe, as being as wise as I am, And this goes for Other good looking girls, that whenever Any guy sees a "hottie," that their first impression is Never:"What is she all about?" But How "well rounded" she is, if I may use this as my example. They tend to Only see the outer core, the outer texture of a girl, But unless they get to know that "beauty is only skin deep," they cannot even possibly Know what she is all about from within.
This is the case with yourself. And with all the guys out there you will meet, no matter whose a Nerd or not, this is how it will go down. They could also feel a bit intimidated, unsure how to handle themselves, and even feel somewhat insecure. And depending too, what they are looking for, once meeting you, says a lot. Some may know you seem the "relationship type," but They, themselves, cannot Be "taken seriously." It can fall either way.
When the right guy comes along someday, His own chemistry And Impression "at first site" will tell him that he is looking at the most amazing girl he has ever seen And most likely Is as well. And when he gets to know you, he would have found he was right. xx

[gingerrr]

I agree with what you are saying! I couldn't have said it any better myself!

[Paris13]

Thanks, sweetie! xx

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yes! Very wise Paris13! Love your wisdom, and advice! Thank you so much for commenting! It makes a lot of sense, haha! I appreciate it. :)

[Paris13]

You're so welcome, BB, anytime..:)) xx

[26ukdude]

You are young, a lot of the guys you hang around with are what? under 25? "they only seem to like me physically" because they are absolutely desperate for sex (I was at that age), and you are a girl, do the math. Its just picking the decent ones out at that age. Stick to your guns and sooner or later you'll find a guy who likes you for you :-)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Well, actually a lot of these guys are over 25. Majority of the guys I talk to are like 25, 26 etc. But thanks for the advice! lol. I understand if these guys are desperate for sex, but they are barking up the wrong tree, haha. I definitely am not going to change, but it's just weird cause I mean they get girls, so I don't know, but thank you! :)

[willshere]

Sometimes its hard for guys to date a girl with lots of guy friends, and its hard for girls with lots of guy friends to not put new guys in the friend zone. That sounds more complicated than it is. A guy meeting you will wonder if you have trying to start a relationship with him, or if you are just looking for another friend. Also, some guys don't want there girlfriends hanging out with guys all the time, so sometimes its a red flag from the beginning

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Interesting! I see! That actually could be it, lol. I have a lot of guy friends, so it makes sense. Thank you! :)

[echoaj]

I feel like some guy get intimidated by hot girls because they feel like they are not good enough for them. Even when they are nice they think to themselves "she is nice but she probably doesn't like me." (i mean like like).

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Aww! :( That's not good. I see your point though! Thank you for commenting!!! :)

[echoaj]

no problem :)

[echoaj]

I do think your hot by the way . haha

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lmao! Thank you! You're sweet, and a little cutie! :)

[echoaj]

lol Thanks ;)

[echoaj]

I'm going to follow you

[M_A_X]

What makes you think they were going to hit and quit? Just because they wanted to have sex?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Cause they actually told me, and with some I actually found out that's what they wanted, they tricked me into thinking I could get a relationship out of them. Yeah, I know, I m pretty pathetic, haha. But yeah that's why, my dude! Thank you! :)

[M_A_X]

I see. That seems kind of messed up to me. Then again, I wouldn't do something like that.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Well you are one od the decent ones, cause I seem to be hanging with douchebags, haha. Even the ones you would never think are douchebags are. Oh well, you live you learn right? lol. I will just keep chugging along, haha. Thank you! :)

[M_A_X]

Meh, a lot of women give me shit because I call them out on being too whorish for me, or because I don't want to be forced into situations that other guys get forced into on a regular basis. I usually get hate for telling people what I think is right and wrong, but usually only when it offends their own biases, and even then, they can't usually argue their point properly. You and I might not agree on everything, and after getting to know me, you might think I'm a douchebag too. Just saying.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Nah, you're cool! :) Really? See i'm the opposite, I wouldn't get offended by someone's opinion weather it's good or bad. I am open minded though, and I like a mixture of opinions, lol. Thanks! :)

[beastman88]

probably got nothing to do with you, its the guys that aren't serious

[BrunetteBabe1005]

You might be onto something here, lol. Thank you! :)

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

Beauty is the gateway to ones heart. (: