Can a girl reject a guy that she likes/loves? if so then why?

[cdefierro]

What are the ideas and theory behind this female psychology. Just food for thought

[Louise123]

CAN she? Sure... Should she? No. Would she? Maybe... depends on the circumstances. Most likely reason would be she's afraid to get too close to him and doesn't want to take a chance on getting hurt down the road if things don't work out. Sometimes a person will keep another at arm's length from the beginning so that they can do the rejecting before the other person has the chance... So that relationship is kinda doomed from the get go -- That person who refuses to love/trust will never get close. Fear controls that person. But anyone who really LOVES another... will not reject them. Think of how the rejected person would feel? They won't understand - they will be hurt - and communication will likely break down leading to a breakup. If you feel like you want to keep that person you love at a distance - you need to figure out why.

[EmilyPrudent1984]

Actually, it IS a woman's right - so even if she genuinely wants and truly loves that man, and yet senses something off - as long as they are not married - yes she should reject him. Will it be difficult? Yes. Painful? Yes. Will it leave regrets? For some, no. If you do have regrets, can you get over them? Yes, praise God!

[Anonymous]

Yes - I've done this. By accident to be honest - I mis interpreted what he was saying and I totally blew it. I don't think he ever really recovered but I did love him and technically I did reject him

[hockeyrulesforever]

I would really like to know if a guy can reject a girl they really like or love... when they know the girl likes them back...

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

well I'm of the opinion that a women who likes a guy doesn't leave him.. unless the guy says/does somthing to make her leave.. that said there are women out there who have been hurt a lot in the past by guys who don't have the right to call themselves men..

what this can do is creat a condition I called "miss elusive".. that this basical means is this girl will come onto you for about 1 - 2 months before getting scared and doing a disapearing act.. then about 1 month later she will contact you out the blue wanting to see you again before repeating the cycle.. in a word these women are crazy and frankly need professional help before they go around anoying good men who...

the fact is s stable women doesn't leave a gentlemen she has interest in..

just my view

-Chris

[Elcristoph]

Just to add.. any women reading the comment about being a miss elusive who matches that description.. SERIOUSLY.. GET HELP... I'm fed up of running into you and so is every other guy out there... we are not your ex.... move on or find a professional who can get you to move on..

[cdefierro]

Bro you make sense. Every guy is different

[shes-a-lady]

Unfortunatley he's right. I'm one of these girls. and I definitely need help, its not something you can get rid of easily :-/

[Elcristoph]

To "shes-a-lady".. with all due respect please listen to my advice.. please do get help.. you need someone you can vent your concerns to who is able to help you.. those guys who like you and are interested in dating you are not there to be your phycologist and are not trained to deal with your emotional outbursts/swings.. strong capable gentlemen should NOT have to put up with it and I for one dont.. until you can take care of yourself in this regard please.. don't get involved with guys..

[Rachey]

Can guys also act like this? come onto you for months before getting scared? it just sounds like something that just happened to me xD

[Elcristoph]

It depends.. I for example have my fair share of scars and from time to time.. I get alittle worried when I start to fall for someone I'm dating becouse no one likes to feel that at any moment the floor could fall through and your left standing there wondering what happened.. but I'm not a coward so I don't run :).. other guys could be different..

[EmilyPrudent1984]

I did leave my ex-beau and I had no hurts with him. I left him, and then it did hurt, but then I'm glad the ex-beau set me free, because then it allowed God to lead me to heal and eventually meet another man who would finally become my only husband.

As for the ex-beau, I was not afraid but I sensed something off about him and the idea of marrying him left me rather disgusted. It was a blessing from God that I didn't marry that ex and then deal with being enslaved. In the end, it lead to the blessing of focusing on God and God then lead me to overcome my own heartbreak at dumping the ex and meeting another man who slowly won my heart, even when initially, I didn't love or was interested in him much at all. In fact, I actually tried to reject my then-boyfriend/now husband multiple times, because I felt I wasn't over the ex - which I made clear to my husband in the beginning. In the end, with his quiet gentleness and humility and friendship, I grew to love my husband's soul more than my ex and eleven years later, we finally got married this year!

So I honestly should thank the ex-beau - thank you for allowing me to set myself free and let God find my real husband.

[EmilyPrudent1984]

You need a serious reality check, as well as research on what happens to recommend stable single unmarried people who decide to want better for themselves to see a quack. However, I hope God will finally lead you to learn and love the real truth.

[EmilyPrudent1984]

@shes-a-lady He's wrong. In my case, that wasn't the issue. Its sad when ignorant boys project their broadstroke false accusations onto everyone. I left that childish and frankly toxic mentality a long time ago.

[EmilyPrudent1984]

Every word that proceeds out of your mouth shows that you are definitely not stable and certainly not mature. Thankfully, there are real mature men who don't label all people who don't agree with them as needing to see quacks. Now those quacks have serious problems, and I would recommend you to research Psych Victims and read a Bible. Maybe you might learn something.

[EmilyPrudent1984]

Yes. I did with the ex-beau I truly loved and wanted to be with and yet I sensed something off with him. In the end, as much as it broke both of our hearts for me to completely burn that bridge, instead, as so many make the mistake of doing, I looked forward and let God lead me to move on and heal and never look or went back. After being single for a time, I met with another man who I had actually met before the ex-beau, and whom was no less in good behavior as my ex - and I dare say even better. Sometimes, the grass is truly greener, but in this case, I'm glad I didn't marry the ex-beau - then I'd be enslaved to him and wait till I was free to be with a wiser man like my husband. (For those who would accuse me - no, my husband is not rich, he is not poor. He is a hard-working man of God and humble, caring, giving, compassionate, and forgiving and fortunately, my husband and I started off as friends who believed in focusing on God and obeying Him over being sexual. I would even go as far as to admit, I didn't even fall in love with my husband at first and I made it clear that I was not interested in him. Yet with his gentleness and honesty and quiet humility, as opposed to the confidence of my ex, it finally won me over.)

[BabyJenks]

Depends on what context. We don't just get up and leave just like that.

[EmilyPrudent1984]

I did with my ex-beau. At least, I'm blessed I wasn't married and enslaved to the wrong guy, and it was good because it lead to God leading me to heal and meet another man who is now my husband. :)

[szexee]

Yes. Numerous reasons (:

[Elcristoph]

Please elaborate...

[szexee]

Fear, shyness, not ready for a relationship/hook-up/whatever it is the guy is looking for, shock, the fact her friends might not like him, if she's embarassed by him...

[cdefierro]

Why would a woman reject a man if she is shy? then she is blowing her chances with him forever

[szexee]

True, still, it happen. I've seen my friends reject 2 guys she really liked just because she was too shy to...err, open up :/

[Rachey]

Yeah shyness is definitely a reason! too shy to admit you like them maybe from fear of being rejected by the person you like and hurt.

[hockeyrulesforever]

Why would you fear rejection when you know they like u? doesn't make sense to me...

[EmilyPrudent1984]

Not necessarily. It depends on the woman. Please don't behave immaturely like the aforementioned Elcristoph.

[shes-a-lady]

afraid of commitment and rejection

[EmilyPrudent1984]

Not in my case.