Do guys ever feel obligated to text a girl back because she said so?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if my crush feels obligated to text me. I know he thinks I'm a really nice girl who deserves lots of respect, but I don't know if it's the only reason he's texting me. If a really nice, respectful girl said "lol, you should get better at texting me" would you feel like you MUST text her back when she texts you? Because you want to me polite/ friendly towards her?

Yes- if a nice respectful girl said so, guys feel like they must text her back to be polite

No- guys will do everything at their own will

[Mexicoman101]

I would never heed the wishes of a girl asking to text me back unless I was already into her, in which case, I would not leave her hanging on 'read' for long in the first place.

[Asker]

what does it mean if a guy never texts you first, but gives you really quick replies when you start convo? (this guy gives me lots of compliments, even around his friends and stuff, and I don't know if he's just being friendly or if he's nice)

[Mexicoman101]

I don't know, generally my friends advise me not to look too overzealous when textimg a woman first. To hold back gives you the allure of having ambiguous intentions. You might just be playing into his hands by having these concerns over his texting habits

[Asker]

... is that bad?

[Mexicoman101]

I mean, not really, if you like him & he likes you then it seems like a natural course of things. If he's like, a player, & you're becoming susceptible to being another notch in his belt-it would only be good for him. But I really can't tell just based on this information & I'm not that cynical or optimistic to assume either way

[Asker]

He has never dated anyone in his life, and neither have I. He is a super respectful guy

[Mexicoman101]

so, there you go. Don't trip about it

[Asker]

Okay, thank you! :)

[AleDeEurope]

Nah, if I don't want to talk I'll just reply whenever I feel like it and would be pretty cold.

[Asker]

What do you mean by "pretty cold"? it was over snapchat. I said "lol, you should really get better at streaks. You end it just when it starts." (something along those lines) and he said "Sorry, will do" and now we have a streak thats 6 days. But we don't just say "streaks" to each other (he doesn't reply to just streaks) he actually only replies to me when I actually start a conversation with him. But he has never ever texted me first and I'm confused if he's just replying cuz I said so and he's being polite.

[AleDeEurope]

By cold I mean short replies of 2-3 words, not asking about her, and basically not showing any interest in her.

[Asker]

When I ask him a question, he replies within 15 mins. Even when he's at work. He gives me an answer, says ha (which he does a lot even when I said nothing funny) and asks hbu. But he rarely ever initiates anything online. In real life though he compliments me a lot and his friend told me he talked about me and said good things. I have no idea what he's doing.

[AleDeEurope]

Hmm maybe he's just a bad texter :/ Does he talk a lot when you're together in person?

[Asker]

Yeah I've hung out with him and his friends before, and like I said he compliments me ad his friend told me he talked about me before

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, but does he talk a lot to you in person? Asking about you and all that?

[Asker]

He doesn't ask me lots questions about myself, but when he sees a painting I did, or when I do good school/ sports, he always compliments me. Sometimes, he goes around to his friends and tell them what I'm good at too. I asked my crush's friend what my crush said about me, and other than some other compliments my crush gave me, his whole group of friends actually knew my parents had a restaurant in town and stuff. I've never told any of them that before. So I don't know if he knows stuff about me so he doesn't have to ask, if he in uncomfortable with asking, or isn't interested.

[AleDeEurope]

It does sound like he's interested. Maybe you should ask him to hang out just the two of you, so you can have a 1-on-1 interaction.

[Asker]

I appreciate the replies! I'll be sure to do that!

[Asker]

but do you know why he never asks that many questions then? the closet he has gotten is saying hbu when I ask him a question

[AleDeEurope]

No problem :)
Honestly, I don't know. Maybe shyness? Or maybe he's just not someone who asks much. I don't know him so there can be different factors to why he doesn't ask you many questions.

[Anonymous]

I guess they would

[Asker]

why?

[MisterSir]

i usually respond when i notice/read the text, but if someone tells me i need to "get better at texting them" i'd either respond with a witty, sarcastic comment, myself-- or just ignore them.

[Asker]

Well, it was over snapchat. I said "lol, you should really get better at streaks. You end it just when it starts." (something along those lines) and he said "Sorry, will do" and now we have a streak thats 6 days. But we don't just say "streaks" to each other (he doesn't reply to just streaks) he actually only replies to me when I actually start a conversation with him. But he has never ever texted me first and I'm confused if he's just replying cuz I said so and he's being polite. :(

[MisterSir]

"But he has never ever texted me first"

ah, this gag meme... >__>

dw much about it, if dude has something he needs to say to you, he'll text you first ;)

[Asker]

but why would he never text me first but reply within 15mins when I text him? he even snapchats me at work.

[Asker]

Is there a specific reason why a guy wouldn't ever text first? or is he under the impression I will text him no matter what?

[MisterSir]

1. do you really care as to why he doesn't message first?
2. ask him.

[Asker]

1. When he doesn't text first, it makes me feel like he isn't interested in talking to me and is only replying because he wants to be friendly
2. I'm not close with him, so asking him that would probably make him not talk to me all together

[MisterSir]

well everyone does their own thing for their own reasons. if you don't ask him, chances are that you won't know.

[Asker]

okay

[RedVulcan]

No self respecting guy will heel to you like that. As was already said, if we like a girl we WILL be fast on the reply.

[baseball69]

Is texting your only means of communication?
If a girl said so, than I will respond better to be polite. But mostly I respond at my own pace.

[Asker]

Well, we see each other at school and we talk, but since it's summer break soon then texting is the only way we will talk

[Anonymous]

Dating seems so complicated in this age, wasn't like this when I was growing up

[Asker]

would you text a girl more often just to be nice to her?

[Opinion Owner]

No. It's more than that

[Asker]

could you explain? cuz like I said, I told him he should get better at doing streaks. He only started a streak with me when I started asking him questions every single day and initiating conversation, but he never replied when I just said "streaks". Also, he never starts convo online. He only initiates convo in person.

[Asker]

why do you think he is texting me back so quickly when I start convo? even when he is at work, he replies within 15 mins

[Opinion Owner]

Because you mean something to him, can't you see?

[Asker]

but why would he never initiate stuff online then? it's gonna be summer break and I'm sure he knows he can't contact me in any way unless he snaps me. Does he just like that snap him first every single day?

[Opinion Owner]

Why can't he contact you? Is snap your only way of communicating with him?

[Asker]

I don't have a phone and I only have an ipad, and I don't have any other social media except for snapchat. I have iMessage, but his phone isn't from apple.

[Flyhigh21]

No but I feel. obligated to always initiate texting.

[Asker]

lol after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school. But never has he ever texted me first before. Even though he gives me compliments and stuff, and his friend told me he talked about me before

[That2kKid21]

Nope, it would annoy me and make me not want to text that girl.

[Asker]

after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school

[mshepherd94]

no actually they would make me want to ignore them even more

[Asker]

after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school

[mshepherd94]

hmm well maybe he saw your question

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[mshepherd94]

nevermind not sure what i meant by my reply Sorry Im like half awake right now

[Asker]

all good

[mshepherd94]

thanks for understanding

[_xXxXx_]

I would take it as a joke and tease her

[Asker]

he didn't do that. after I said that, we started texting everyday

[_xXxXx_]

That makes me and ur boyfriend unique lol

[Asker]

lol are you trying to make a joke? cuz he's obviously not my boyfriend

[_xXxXx_]

sry wanted to write ur crush lol

[apple24]

Fuck no!

[Anonymous]

everybody has their free will

[Asker]

so he's texting me because he wants to?

[rajpotchh]

yes a little bit

[Asker]

why?

[rajpotchh]

h i think like... is she taking​ intrest... no no it could b my thinking mistake... like that

[Asker]

Could you explain that again? I don't know what you're trying to say

[rajpotchh]

i would think that way in my mind --us she taking intrest jin. me... no no it could b my thinking mistake !!--i will think like this un mind

[Asker]

I don't get it

[rajpotchh]

sorry my typing mistakes

I would think that is she taking intrastate in me then I would also think that may b that she is not taking intrest and i m thinking much its my thinking mistake..
now do u understand!!😁

[Asker]

haha, kinda