Do guys ever feel obligated to text a girl back because she said so?

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I don't know if my crush feels obligated to text me. I know he thinks I'm a really nice girl who deserves lots of respect, but I don't know if it's the only reason he's texting me. If a really nice, respectful girl said "lol, you should get better at texting me" would you feel like you MUST text her back when she texts you? Because you want to me polite/ friendly towards her?

Do guys ever feel obligated to text a girl back because she said so?

Yes- if a nice respectful girl said so, guys feel like they must text her back to be polite

No- guys will do everything at their own will

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Answer 1

Mexicoman101

Guru

I would never heed the wishes of a girl asking to text me back unless I was already into her, in which case, I would not leave her hanging on 'read' for long in the first place.

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+1 y
what does it mean if a guy never texts you first, but gives you really quick replies when you start convo? (this guy gives me lots of compliments, even around his friends and stuff, and I don't know if he's just being friendly or if he's nice)
Mexicoman101

+1 y
I don't know, generally my friends advise me not to look too overzealous when textimg a woman first. To hold back gives you the allure of having ambiguous intentions. You might just be playing into his hands by having these concerns over his texting habits
Asker

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... is that bad?
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Mexicoman101

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I mean, not really, if you like him & he likes you then it seems like a natural course of things. If he's like, a player, & you're becoming susceptible to being another notch in his belt-it would only be good for him. But I really can't tell just based on this information & I'm not that cynical or optimistic to assume either way
Asker

+1 y
He has never dated anyone in his life, and neither have I. He is a super respectful guy
Mexicoman101

+1 y
so, there you go. Don't trip about it
Asker

+1 y
Okay, thank you! :)

Answer 2

Asker

what does it mean if a guy never texts you first, but gives you really quick replies when you start convo? (this guy gives me lots of compliments, even around his friends and stuff, and I don't know if he's just being friendly or if he's nice)

Answer 3

Mexicoman101

I don't know, generally my friends advise me not to look too overzealous when textimg a woman first. To hold back gives you the allure of having ambiguous intentions. You might just be playing into his hands by having these concerns over his texting habits

Answer 4

Asker

... is that bad?

Answer 5

Mexicoman101

I mean, not really, if you like him & he likes you then it seems like a natural course of things. If he's like, a player, & you're becoming susceptible to being another notch in his belt-it would only be good for him. But I really can't tell just based on this information & I'm not that cynical or optimistic to assume either way

Answer 6

Asker

He has never dated anyone in his life, and neither have I. He is a super respectful guy

Answer 7

Mexicoman101

so, there you go. Don't trip about it

Answer 8

Asker

Okay, thank you! :)

Answer 9

AleDeEurope

Master

Nah, if I don't want to talk I'll just reply whenever I feel like it and would be pretty cold.

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+1 y
What do you mean by "pretty cold"? it was over snapchat. I said "lol, you should really get better at streaks. You end it just when it starts." (something along those lines) and he said "Sorry, will do" and now we have a streak thats 6 days. But we don't just say "streaks" to each other (he doesn't reply to just streaks) he actually only replies to me when I actually start a conversation with him. But he has never ever texted me first and I'm confused if he's just replying cuz I said so and he's being polite.
AleDeEurope

+1 y
By cold I mean short replies of 2-3 words, not asking about her, and basically not showing any interest in her.
Asker

+1 y
When I ask him a question, he replies within 15 mins. Even when he's at work. He gives me an answer, says ha (which he does a lot even when I said nothing funny) and asks hbu. But he rarely ever initiates anything online. In real life though he compliments me a lot and his friend told me he talked about me and said good things. I have no idea what he's doing.
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AleDeEurope

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Hmm maybe he's just a bad texter :/ Does he talk a lot when you're together in person?
Asker

+1 y
Yeah I've hung out with him and his friends before, and like I said he compliments me ad his friend told me he talked about me before
AleDeEurope

+1 y
Yeah, but does he talk a lot to you in person? Asking about you and all that?
Asker

+1 y
He doesn't ask me lots questions about myself, but when he sees a painting I did, or when I do good school/ sports, he always compliments me. Sometimes, he goes around to his friends and tell them what I'm good at too. I asked my crush's friend what my crush said about me, and other than some other compliments my crush gave me, his whole group of friends actually knew my parents had a restaurant in town and stuff. I've never told any of them that before. So I don't know if he knows stuff about me so he doesn't have to ask, if he in uncomfortable with asking, or isn't interested.
AleDeEurope

+1 y
It does sound like he's interested. Maybe you should ask him to hang out just the two of you, so you can have a 1-on-1 interaction.
Asker

+1 y
I appreciate the replies! I'll be sure to do that!
Asker

+1 y
but do you know why he never asks that many questions then? the closet he has gotten is saying hbu when I ask him a question
AleDeEurope

+1 y
No problem :)
Honestly, I don't know. Maybe shyness? Or maybe he's just not someone who asks much. I don't know him so there can be different factors to why he doesn't ask you many questions.

Answer 10

Asker

What do you mean by "pretty cold"? it was over snapchat. I said "lol, you should really get better at streaks. You end it just when it starts." (something along those lines) and he said "Sorry, will do" and now we have a streak thats 6 days. But we don't just say "streaks" to each other (he doesn't reply to just streaks) he actually only replies to me when I actually start a conversation with him. But he has never ever texted me first and I'm confused if he's just replying cuz I said so and he's being polite.

Answer 11

AleDeEurope

By cold I mean short replies of 2-3 words, not asking about her, and basically not showing any interest in her.

Answer 12

Asker

When I ask him a question, he replies within 15 mins. Even when he's at work. He gives me an answer, says ha (which he does a lot even when I said nothing funny) and asks hbu. But he rarely ever initiates anything online. In real life though he compliments me a lot and his friend told me he talked about me and said good things. I have no idea what he's doing.

Answer 13

AleDeEurope

Hmm maybe he's just a bad texter :/ Does he talk a lot when you're together in person?

Answer 14

Asker

Yeah I've hung out with him and his friends before, and like I said he compliments me ad his friend told me he talked about me before

Answer 15

AleDeEurope

Yeah, but does he talk a lot to you in person? Asking about you and all that?

Answer 16

Asker

He doesn't ask me lots questions about myself, but when he sees a painting I did, or when I do good school/ sports, he always compliments me. Sometimes, he goes around to his friends and tell them what I'm good at too. I asked my crush's friend what my crush said about me, and other than some other compliments my crush gave me, his whole group of friends actually knew my parents had a restaurant in town and stuff. I've never told any of them that before. So I don't know if he knows stuff about me so he doesn't have to ask, if he in uncomfortable with asking, or isn't interested.

Answer 17

AleDeEurope

It does sound like he's interested. Maybe you should ask him to hang out just the two of you, so you can have a 1-on-1 interaction.

Answer 18

Asker

I appreciate the replies! I'll be sure to do that!

Answer 19

Asker

but do you know why he never asks that many questions then? the closet he has gotten is saying hbu when I ask him a question

Answer 20

AleDeEurope

No problem :)
Honestly, I don't know. Maybe shyness? Or maybe he's just not someone who asks much. I don't know him so there can be different factors to why he doesn't ask you many questions.

Answer 21

Anonymous

I guess they would

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+1 y
why?

Answer 22

baseball69 | 51 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

Is texting your only means of communication?
If a girl said so, than I will respond better to be polite. But mostly I respond at my own pace.

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+1 y
Well, we see each other at school and we talk, but since it's summer break soon then texting is the only way we will talk

Answer 23

Asker

Well, we see each other at school and we talk, but since it's summer break soon then texting is the only way we will talk

Answer 24

MisterSir

Guru

i usually respond when i notice/read the text, but if someone tells me i need to "get better at texting them" i'd either respond with a witty, sarcastic comment, myself-- or just ignore them.

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+1 y
Well, it was over snapchat. I said "lol, you should really get better at streaks. You end it just when it starts." (something along those lines) and he said "Sorry, will do" and now we have a streak thats 6 days. But we don't just say "streaks" to each other (he doesn't reply to just streaks) he actually only replies to me when I actually start a conversation with him. But he has never ever texted me first and I'm confused if he's just replying cuz I said so and he's being polite. :(
MisterSir

+1 y
"But he has never ever texted me first"

ah, this gag meme... >__>

dw much about it, if dude has something he needs to say to you, he'll text you first ;)
Asker

+1 y
but why would he never text me first but reply within 15mins when I text him? he even snapchats me at work.
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Asker

+1 y
Is there a specific reason why a guy wouldn't ever text first? or is he under the impression I will text him no matter what?
MisterSir

+1 y
1. do you really care as to why he doesn't message first?
2. ask him.
Asker

+1 y
1. When he doesn't text first, it makes me feel like he isn't interested in talking to me and is only replying because he wants to be friendly
2. I'm not close with him, so asking him that would probably make him not talk to me all together
MisterSir

+1 y
well everyone does their own thing for their own reasons. if you don't ask him, chances are that you won't know.
Asker

+1 y
okay

Answer 25

Asker

Well, it was over snapchat. I said "lol, you should really get better at streaks. You end it just when it starts." (something along those lines) and he said "Sorry, will do" and now we have a streak thats 6 days. But we don't just say "streaks" to each other (he doesn't reply to just streaks) he actually only replies to me when I actually start a conversation with him. But he has never ever texted me first and I'm confused if he's just replying cuz I said so and he's being polite. :(

Answer 26

MisterSir

"But he has never ever texted me first"

ah, this gag meme... >__>

dw much about it, if dude has something he needs to say to you, he'll text you first ;)

Answer 27

Asker

but why would he never text me first but reply within 15mins when I text him? he even snapchats me at work.

Answer 28

Asker

Is there a specific reason why a guy wouldn't ever text first? or is he under the impression I will text him no matter what?

Answer 29

MisterSir

1. do you really care as to why he doesn't message first?
2. ask him.

Answer 30

Asker

1. When he doesn't text first, it makes me feel like he isn't interested in talking to me and is only replying because he wants to be friendly
2. I'm not close with him, so asking him that would probably make him not talk to me all together

Answer 31

MisterSir

well everyone does their own thing for their own reasons. if you don't ask him, chances are that you won't know.

Answer 32

RedVulcan | 72 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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No self respecting guy will heel to you like that. As was already said, if we like a girl we WILL be fast on the reply.

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Answer 33

Flyhigh21 | 113 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

No but I feel. obligated to always initiate texting.

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lol after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school. But never has he ever texted me first before. Even though he gives me compliments and stuff, and his friend told me he talked about me before

Answer 34

Asker

lol after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school. But never has he ever texted me first before. Even though he gives me compliments and stuff, and his friend told me he talked about me before

Answer 35

Anonymous

Dating seems so complicated in this age, wasn't like this when I was growing up

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+1 y
would you text a girl more often just to be nice to her?
Opinion Owner

+1 y
No. It's more than that
Asker

+1 y
could you explain? cuz like I said, I told him he should get better at doing streaks. He only started a streak with me when I started asking him questions every single day and initiating conversation, but he never replied when I just said "streaks". Also, he never starts convo online. He only initiates convo in person.
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Asker

+1 y
why do you think he is texting me back so quickly when I start convo? even when he is at work, he replies within 15 mins
Opinion Owner

+1 y
Because you mean something to him, can't you see?
Asker

+1 y
but why would he never initiate stuff online then? it's gonna be summer break and I'm sure he knows he can't contact me in any way unless he snaps me. Does he just like that snap him first every single day?
Opinion Owner

+1 y
Why can't he contact you? Is snap your only way of communicating with him?
Asker

+1 y
I don't have a phone and I only have an ipad, and I don't have any other social media except for snapchat. I have iMessage, but his phone isn't from apple.

Answer 36

Asker

would you text a girl more often just to be nice to her?

Answer 37

Opinion Owner

No. It's more than that

Answer 38

Asker

could you explain? cuz like I said, I told him he should get better at doing streaks. He only started a streak with me when I started asking him questions every single day and initiating conversation, but he never replied when I just said "streaks". Also, he never starts convo online. He only initiates convo in person.

Answer 39

Asker

why do you think he is texting me back so quickly when I start convo? even when he is at work, he replies within 15 mins

Answer 40

Opinion Owner

Because you mean something to him, can't you see?

Answer 41

Asker

but why would he never initiate stuff online then? it's gonna be summer break and I'm sure he knows he can't contact me in any way unless he snaps me. Does he just like that snap him first every single day?

Answer 42

Opinion Owner

Why can't he contact you? Is snap your only way of communicating with him?

Answer 43

Asker

I don't have a phone and I only have an ipad, and I don't have any other social media except for snapchat. I have iMessage, but his phone isn't from apple.

Answer 44

mshepherd94

Xper 2

no actually they would make me want to ignore them even more

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+1 y
after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school
mshepherd94

+1 y
hmm well maybe he saw your question
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+1 y
What do you mean?
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mshepherd94

+1 y
nevermind not sure what i meant by my reply Sorry Im like half awake right now
Asker

+1 y
all good
mshepherd94

+1 y
thanks for understanding

Answer 45

Asker

after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school

Answer 46

mshepherd94

hmm well maybe he saw your question

Answer 47

Asker

What do you mean?

Answer 48

mshepherd94

nevermind not sure what i meant by my reply Sorry Im like half awake right now

Answer 49

Asker

all good

Answer 50

mshepherd94

thanks for understanding

Answer 51

That2kKid21 | 220 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Explorer

Nope, it would annoy me and make me not want to text that girl.

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after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school

Answer 52

Asker

after I said that, we started texting each other everyday. he start looking at me, smiling, nodding, and saying hello in the hallways at school

Answer 53

_xXxXx_

Xper 3

I would take it as a joke and tease her

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Asker

+1 y
he didn't do that. after I said that, we started texting everyday
_xXxXx_

+1 y
That makes me and ur boyfriend unique lol
Asker

+1 y
lol are you trying to make a joke? cuz he's obviously not my boyfriend
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_xXxXx_

+1 y
sry wanted to write ur crush lol

Answer 54

Asker

he didn't do that. after I said that, we started texting everyday

Answer 55

_xXxXx_

That makes me and ur boyfriend unique lol

Answer 56

Asker

lol are you trying to make a joke? cuz he's obviously not my boyfriend

Answer 57

_xXxXx_

sry wanted to write ur crush lol

Answer 58

Anonymous

everybody has their free will

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+1 y
so he's texting me because he wants to?

Answer 59

Asker

so he's texting me because he wants to?

Answer 60

rajpotchh

Xper 5

yes a little bit

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+1 y
why?
rajpotchh

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h i think like... is she taking intrest... no no it could b my thinking mistake... like that
Asker

+1 y
Could you explain that again? I don't know what you're trying to say
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rajpotchh

+1 y
i would think that way in my mind --us she taking intrest jin. me... no no it could b my thinking mistake !!--i will think like this un mind
Asker

+1 y
I don't get it
rajpotchh

+1 y
sorry my typing mistakes

I would think that is she taking intrastate in me then I would also think that may b that she is not taking intrest and i m thinking much its my thinking mistake..
now do u understand!!😁
Asker

+1 y
haha, kinda

Answer 61

rajpotchh

h i think like... is she taking intrest... no no it could b my thinking mistake... like that

Answer 62

Asker

Could you explain that again? I don't know what you're trying to say

Answer 63

rajpotchh

i would think that way in my mind --us she taking intrest jin. me... no no it could b my thinking mistake !!--i will think like this un mind

Answer 64

Asker

I don't get it

Answer 65

rajpotchh

sorry my typing mistakes

I would think that is she taking intrastate in me then I would also think that may b that she is not taking intrest and i m thinking much its my thinking mistake..
now do u understand!!😁

Answer 66

Asker

haha, kinda

Answer 67

apple24 | 3K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Fuck no!

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