That is what marriage is designed for. For sex. But children and loving each other is part of it. Your cousin just has a poor negative view about women and that is toxic. The problem with men today is that they don't want to wait for marriage to have sex, except for the so-called religious according to society. However, women who get married and have a poor views about sex and what it is about, especially if they had premarital sex often neglect their spouses sexually because they grow to despise the sex with him or hate having sex with him specifically at some point. If it's not disease or health-related. That 'oh, she just hit the wall' is just a myth.
Sex belongs in marriage ONLY. That is how God designed it. We as humans went against it through sin. And suck up those lies about sex, marriage, and love altogether that we create our own rules, and now everybody is all screwed up. Don't blame him though. He only thinks like this because of how twisted our world have become, that he lost faith in what love and marriage is. Twisted up what sex is about and only uses that as a means of survival. Which was never the case. Sex is a want, not a need.
Most men marry for numerous reasons. Sex is one of the reasons. The woman may pressure the man into marrying her. At the time the man may feel like she is the one and he doesn't want another man to snatch her up, so he wants to marry her. He may marry her based on her looks, her body, money, sex, all they above. Some will marry if the sex is really good to them. People have done stupid things. Love is tricky because the human being forgets something. When you first meet a person, you are caught up in a fantasy. You don't know each other. You date, you fall for each other, you're on cloud nine. You marry. Life sets in. That love fades day by bay. It really does. Nothing stays the same. Everything change. That's why the man get's a younger woman. He wants to have sex with her and marry her.
No, cause what's the point? There are women willing to do it without marriage or a relationship so it really doesn't matter. Men get married cause some choose to, they want start a family with a woman they love and want to spend the rest of their life with. It may not seem that way anymore these days and has declined, but there are men out there who still strive for marriage and creating families.
In my personal experience, that is very false. The overwhelming majority of men a) want to get married and b) when they get married, they want to do it exclusively for love. Well, I mean, they wanna fuck a lot too lol. But the reason they got married is love.
Furthermore, your cousin's husband sounds like a douche and it sounds like there might be something mentally wrong with him? Like, I'm reaching/talking out of my ass, but it does sound like maybe he has some kind of deep seated intimacy issues and possibly difficulties feeling any emotion at all? I don't know, does that sound like him?
I just can't picture living a loveless life... I feel kinda bad for him :/
Nope. Men marry because they love women. I think your cousin's husband is literally dumb and perverted. If you want me to be honest, here's the truth:
If men wanted to have sex only and not Love, instead of marrying they'd spend their money on prostitutes because marring someone includes everything from sharing your bed to sharing your food and money. Who the hell would do that ( like sharing 50% of your everything) instead hiring a sex worker is much affordble. But we don't do that because we love women and expect them to love us too.
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If they just wanted sex they wouldn't marry you. They'd be out fucking girls without involving the law.
That cousin's husband of your's sound sounds like a shallow dick. I've encountered those types. Their philosophy is pretty simple: fuck around, and get whatever you can. Sure, sex is what guys like, but there's more to marriage than that. Actually, there's more to just relationships than that. It's having somebody to share your life with, sharing your triumphs and failures with, having someone who has your back, while you have their back. If my wife died or left me, it would have a far greater impact on me than just "I can't get any more pussy!"
Well his premise is wrong. There is such thing as love and men do get married for more than just sex. That said, I personally know 2 men who got married because they wanted to have sex with their now wives. I also know one of them was already having sex with other women and his now wife made him wait. Personally, that doesn't make much sense to me. I know he loves his wife and when they first got married his motivations I believe were more than sex. Because he was already having sex. Why marry the woman who isn't putting out now, over the others? Because she's offering something else. Only reason to marry her would be love.
I'm not sure about the other guy. Maybe he's a sociopath lol. But in general guys don't get married JUST for sex. Marriage is a huge commitment for guys. Sex usually is not enough reason.
Well the old joke is couples quit having sex after they get married. Obviously thats not true, that is not completely at least. There usually is less sex as the relationship goes on because its not that new thing anymore so it would be counter intuitive to say men marry for sex. Much more likely would be that a man says i love you when he doesn't for sex
I wouldn't listen to your cousins husband... That's clearly his reason for getting married... Maybe your cousin was the only one to give it to him so he had to put a ring on it and I can see why he doesn't seem like he is emotional or intellectual, he is just a caveman that thinks of 1 thing. Not all guys are like that.
nope. people actually get attracted to each others for many reasons, including sex. for men sex is very important, but its not everything. partnership, family, ... are all important too. men would usually run from a relationship that doesn't include sex though, so it is very important.
I think men are actually more so suckers for love than women.
Men are the ones who have a harder time recuperating after a divorce/long breakup etc. Because they have to compete again.
But the thing is, once you are winning at competing, why ever stop? So you can fall in love and get your heart stomped on again?
Men are actually the gate keepers of love, and to be honest since they aren't treated right these days thats why there is a shortage of it.
It depends on. There are many marriages based on true love. But I have seen couples who only got married because of sex. Well, these marrieges don"t last long. I know some men who were caught by their wives private part. One can say it much dirtier. These marrieges don't last long either.
If men only wanted sex then they wouldn't marry. friends with benefits, one night stand, tinder, escorts... if a man have enough money, he wouldn't need to marry if it was just sex.
Okay, maybe they wanted cheap sex. However, that as dumb as it gets because marriage is very expensive.
your cousin is wrong. men believe in love but women do not and are not capable of love. after getting screwed over repeatedly you'll probably stop believing too. and some men get married because when women get old and no one wants them they make it a criteria fro the relationship. meaning they say this. " we have been together for X years if your not serious about us and dont want marriage tell me so i can find someone who wants to". so they get married jsut tokeep the girl.
A lot of them do and fool women just like your cousin's husband said. But I know men who can't have sex with their partners for various reasons and still decide to marry them... not all guys are the same
No. Maybe some do, but not the majority. That said, men with higher sex drives and lower conscientiousness (regard for others) are generally considered to be the "hot guys", so you'll probably run into more than a few men who just want sex. But just because that's what people are attracted to, not because it's most men.
Not 'just for sex', but yes, why else would you marry them?
Men have three very basic needs - if you give them these in spades they'll swim through shark infested waters to bring you lemonade. :)
1. Sex
2. Food
3. Attention/affection/respect - you know, attention.
Some women understand this, others don't, or refuse to, or refuse to believe it, or simply won't or can't be bothered. If not then the relationship fails.
Definitely not! In today's world, marriage is an incredibly expensive way to get sex. It's just WAAAAAAYYYY cheaper to get it as a single person with Tinder AND you get more variety. So marriage is absolutely about more than just sex today. Perhaps 70 years ago marriage was motivated to a larger degree by sex, but now sex is quite plentiful.
For some yes, but many if not most though sex is big to them and is beneficial to both of you have love in there too.
If they just wanted the sexual act, fwbs exist as are escorts. Fwbs and escorts are far cheaper than a committed partner
Why the hell would I marry 1 woman just to have sex? I could do that with a bunch women throughout my whole life so why restrict myself to one?
They can bang whoever they want when they're not married, so that logic doesn't follow at all. I'm guessing the guy who said this is a deeply religious and unfeeling person.
Guys who get married are doing so because they love their partner.
What kind of moron gets married just because he wanted sex? If he's just after sex and isn't interested into a relationship of any kind, marriage isn't the right option, that's what prostitutes are for.
boy your cousin married a real winner.
most men do not marry simply for sex. if a person just wanted sex then marriage doesn't really seem like the best way to go about getting it
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