Why does he bully me at school?

[Anonymous]

He always makes fun of me, calls me ugly, stupid and stuff, when he is not either good looking or clever himself! I always thought he did it because I am one of the top students at my school but I really don't get it. He calls me filth and other names and when I respond to these names he usually says something like "shut up or I'll slap you in the face". Teachers usually do nothing because they are used to this kind of behaviour. I've been bullied since elementary school by girls and boys and it always hurts my feelings because I am really emotional.. How can I handle the situation? Ignoring it has done nothing to improve it for the last 5 years!

[John__]

From your picture you're good looking and you said you're doing good in school, sounds to me that they're just jealous, you can and should stand up for yourself, but when you do you have to give the knock out punch figuratively, make it hurt make them see deep down in the abyss of sorrow and insecurity that is their life, make your words sting make them regret they even saw you walking down the hall, I've been bullied in primary school and I've either handled it by either ignoring which is not a good solution or by getting into fights which didn't always work out but it felt good to stand up to oneself, and after that I've realized that no matter what, always stand up for yourself and don't let anyone give their back to you and walk away once they've hurt your feelings just for their own pleasure, stand up for yourself kid, and when attacked physically don't be afraid to fight back. The thing with bullying is it's never ok to be calm about it, and ignoring a problem doesn't solve it

[Asker]

I am afraid that standing up for myself will change the way teachers see me because most of the time the bullying happens during classes. If for example he calls me a name and I respond with even a worse name while trying to make him feel bad about himself at the same time during class, the teacher may think I actually have no manners and believe it or not, they will grade me based on my behaviour in class

[John__]

You're just standing up for yourself, the one who's grade should be lowered is that jerk, although his grade might be zero so it doesn't matter.
Besides you're not interrupting the class HE IS you're just defending yourself. If you want a solution that will stop you from being bullied for the rest of your life? When someone throws a rock at you throw a grenade at them. If you want this jerk to stop bullying you, insult him to the point where you shattered every fiber of his being, make him see his intellectual incompetent, make him associate seeing you with the fact that you are the person who makes him see how small of a pathetic loser he is

[Swaqdud]

They're all insecure. They are intimidated by your intelligence. Trust me I go through it to. They ask for the answers and then get mad when I don't give the answers to them. They always say I never share. I just think I'm too nice. I just started saying no as much as I can. The trick I do when they try to get in your head, is to get in theirs. Ask them questions as if you want them to be your friend like what they got for Christmas or how their break was and what they did over the weekend. If it doesn't work compliment them and just be nice to them. With guys you can be mean back because they can't do anything about it. But if they do hit you or anything like that just file a lawsuit or tell a trusted adult. Don't let anyone control you.

[Anonymous]

You have to completely not react to it in front of them. Look up a technique called "grey rocking".

Just note time place and instigators when it happens. Note which adults were around and what they did when you reported the situation. If you need to, start raising holy hell with your parents, their parents, the school, the district, the media. Your school needs to be intervening.

[Asker]

Thanks

[btbc92]

You need to talk to your parents and let them get to the bottom of this. This requires the department of education to be involved. That's basically illegal. And possibly the authorities may have to get involved. Naturally, they're jealous. But anybody who threatens to hurts you is something that has to be taken seriously.

[Asker]

They don't take it seriously. They think it's just stupid

[btbc92]

What about speaking to a counselor at the school?

[Asker]

We don't have counselors

[btbc92]

Because the next step is you getting your school districts number and file a complaint against the school yourself. Don't let this continue. And shame on your parents. I know how you feel because I've been there. And all it did was not only get me bullied even more, but actually got into fights I never started. These people want's to HURT you. Then when something happens to you, you know what the excuse is " Oh, I never knew anything about it. So and so is just a troubled kid." They mock you. And you don't have anybody to really stand up for you or protect you. Your left to protect yourself. And that doesn't help.

[btbc92]

What kind of school doesn't hire a counselor! I can see why that place is screwed up. This needs to be reported to the higher-ups.

[Asker]

Actually I don't really think any school in my country has a counselor, really. I believe teachers are the ones responsible and even though they watch me getting bullied every single day and I have asked their help many times, they do nothing every time. They always use the excuse that he is a troubled kid etc and advice me not to pay attention to what he calls me or his threats.. They think it's just something silly and not important at all..

[btbc92]

Again you need to get in touch with the school district and talk to somebody there. I don't know where you live and the laws of your country. But you may need to do research on what to do when such situation arises.

[Asker]

Well there's not much to do. School districts don't care. They never did. I live in Greece by the way.

[btbc92]

This is just insane. Have you ever thought about going to the police station or youth centers where they handle that? That's all I can tell you.

[Asker]

There are no youth centers and everyone in the police station will look at me like I'm mad once I tell them I am there because someone has been bullying me.. It's just an dead end

[btbc92]

The point is have you TRIED at all to talk to police or are you just assuming because your that afraid and scared? If you want help, then you have to be honest more with me. Heck, I don't care if you have to write a letter to your countries leader or sometime. Because something isn't right here. Why would anybody want a family in a country that doesn't at least show somebody actually gives a crap about you?

[Asker]

In case you haven't already noticed, Greece is not a country anyone wants to live in right now. Everything gets worse and worse everyday. I have tried to get help. I only got help from a phycologist and my parents, not the school or the police. You can't understand how naive people here are. They just don't give a crap. They say it's all because the bully is having a hard time and I should not object to him or give any attention to what he's saying to me. No-one gives a flying crap about how you feel when being bullied. They think it's nothing. I try to think it's not a big deal, too, but it gets harder to do so when it happens every day. So, if nobody's going to do something about it, then I will and I'll show the jerk what humiliation feels like. I will fall so low, but I will at least not be a coward..

[btbc92]

That's all you can do. But at the same time, you need to be extremely careful. Because this person sounds like he has no problem hurting, killing or god forbid raping girls. Don't do anything unnecessarily.

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes in grade school I was extremely intelligent and one guy hated me and bullied me because he was jealous. As I got older the jealous haters increased. Now I'm in University and most people like the fact I get good grades instead of hating me for it and really I'm no longer proud - happy I can feed myself and that is it.

[kk123help]

Well your not any of those things he calls you I was very bullied by everyone even the teachers that's why after 5th grade I decided to be homeschooled I'm doing great now , he probably likes you or us just a jack ass ,

[Asker]

Probably a jackass

[kk123help]

Yeah

[j35513]

I’d say he is either very self conscious and feels better about putting others down, or, he likes you but he doesn’t realize his feelings [yet] or it could just be that most guys just suck

[Asker]

Yeah maybe the third one

[Lava_]

Baby girl, message me his number real quick. I just wanna ask him a question.

[Asker]

Well I don't have his number but since school starts soon I might actually find it and message it to you.. what kind of question tho?😂

[Lava_]

I just want to give him a little message. 👊🏾👊🏾

[Ghost_Woof]

Punch him in the mouth right in front of a teacher. It might get you suspended but he won't do it again I promise and if he dares decide to hit s girl bad the teach will be right there to stop him. But seriously it just sounds like he has a crush on you and does r know how to express it... Some kids are just weird...

[00Cak47]

I think he's insecure of himself, and feels the need to put someone else down in order to feel better (unfortunately he chose you). The best thing to do is be the more mature person and just show him love (not romantic lol). Give him absolutely no reason for him to act this way, and people will see his true colors. Remember that you are worth so much more than what people say, so try and let his insults roll off your back. :)

[Howells]

Tell him exactly this with absolute calm, and be sure everybody in the room will hear it “Man... I know you are angry because your penis is so small and your daddy doesn’t love you. But being a bad person is not going to fix that things, so im not going to answer to you or pay attention anymore, so shut the fuck up” and don’t ever pay attention to that asshole, be happy, don’t waste your time with him

[Anonymous]

As someone who was bullied a lot school I can tell you that their more than likely jealous of you, I know it sounds weird but i learnt to take it as a compliment and thought it was funny that they were so obsessed with my life. Now when ever I see them now I feel really smug but play it classy because I know I'm more successful and happy then they never be.

[LittleMissSassyyy]

Children are stupid. Honestly you are so beautiful. Ignore the head and realize you are above it all. People want a reaction out of you

[Adream]

Talk to your parents and have them talk to the school or the kids parents bullying is a really big issue and a lot of people take there life's over it doesn't something about it while you can

[weirdwriter79]

When this happens, Ignore them, but that still doesn't help. I would say next time you see the doucebags. Say sometime to him, "Piss off, shithead!" Or do the talk to hand thing. I am talking to you, fuckhead!

[yeahguy2]

Make him look like an idiot by saying something true about him.

[yeahguy2]

What you should say "I wouldn't be talking look at your bitch ass."

[yeahguy2]

What you want pussy

[Asker]

I just can't stop laughing 😂 I'd love to use these but if translated into my language they doesn't really make sense

[Asker]

*don't

[yeahguy2]

What language

[Asker]

Greek

[yeahguy2]

I did not know that language is still used. Look at that, I learned something new.

[Josht13]

You gotta bully harder, obviously he ain't gonna hit you so you can say the harshest shit be creative. Don't be so emotional as well bullies like that.

[Asker]

Well he could hit me and nobody could say anything

[Asker]

I don't show how emotional I am I keep it to myself since I know that's what they want

[Josht13]

if he hits you then he's gonna look like a massive bellend and unless everyone at your school is massive bellends they'll have your back on it.

[Asker]

Well everyone in my school is his friend and probably fell sorry for his stupid ass and will have his back on it rather mine. Bullies have created a certain image of me to everybody since they always called me a nerd, stupid, ugly, a bitch and right now I don't have any friends to back me up..

[Hayden01]

Maybe tell him to grow up. Or if he is really getting in your head then compliment him back and it works most of the time

[Jamesbound]

If I was in your high school, he probably will get some punches from me :)

[Asker]

☺️☺️

[andrea16rm]

U should just respond back and fight if needed. Thats my way of treating with haters. It usually doesn't turn into a fight

[JuanFrank7]

Because he doesn't want to admit that he likes you and is attracted to you and so he acts in the complete opposite way

[deanlarouche]

He's an ass. Legally u can charge him as there are zero tolerance laws. You can pay someone to take care if him. But I would either charge him or just stand up to him and ask him why? He isn't much if a man if he threatens a woman.

[chebb]

Easy chirp back. You know his main line is "shut up or i'll slap you in the face" just call him out he won't do anything.

[katrincbn]

Bullies are just insecure themselves. He probably think you are weaker than him and that's why he bullies you.

[bestpersonever899995]

He likes you just offer to suck his dick he will say yes and then make fun of him

[Asker]

I don't think I'll get that low for a jerk

[bestpersonever899995]

U could ask him for a dick pick and share throught the shcool

[thatrdmguy]

He is trying to make you feel less self confident so he has a chance with you this is a abuser tactic so I would avoid a person like him

[joel00pink]

I dont know, do you wanna talk about it, im there for you

[DanOh2018]

I think he really wants you to kick him in the balls when he's distracted

[Asker]

Hahaha I think about this sometimes!!

[DanOh2018]

The trick is to really connect with shin

[theFantasticJ]

He actually likes you buy is showing it in strange ways

[theFantasticJ]

Or he's an real prick

[Asker]

He's probably a jerk but anyway doesn't he know that bullying me won't make me like him but hate him?

[theFantasticJ]

Probably, but it's a weird thing to do. Stay strong Ellaki!

[Asker]

Thanks

[Vegeta35]

I agree he is prolly under the impression that girls like dicks, which is mostly true, so that's why he is being mean

[Ripthislife]

He does this because he has no life, so he is trying to make something of himself by ruining yours.

[hotstuff85]

i got picked on when i was in my teens and it continued iny@to my high school..

[Anonymous]

What a punk ass bitch! Knock his ass out!

[Asker]

Pretty hard to do during class! I'd love to though!

[Opinion Owner]

Just do it. You’ll feel so much better!

[Asker]

Maybe I will! School starts next week! Hope I'll get my chance to do it verbally, since he would probably knock me down in an instant if I literally tried to knock his ass out

[Opinion Owner]

Eh, you know what... he’s not worth it. He’s just an jerk.

[Asker]

You're probably right

[Opinion Owner]

Yes... I am

[Asker]

what made you change your mind?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, any guy who hits a girl is garbage. It’s better to just ignore him and walk away

[Asker]

True

[monthsmays]

Jealousy

[NerdInDenial]

They're jealous.

[Dantheman101]

He wants to get in your knickers

[Asker]

How so? He is really mean to me?

[Dantheman101]

Does not want others knowing he wants to get in them

[Asker]

Wow do guys even think like that?

[Dantheman101]

Absolutely

[datboi13377]

maybe because he is an idiot

[Owain]

Fight back?

[bored675]

Move school

[Revolver_]

maybe you are ginger

[Asker]

No but still what does the couple of your hair have to do with that?

[Revolver_]

people's appearance, their voice, basically just their 'outer-self' can always be targeted for bullying. e. g. if you are fat, i can guarantee you will be bullied for it. 2nd e. g. if you are ginger, you will be bullied, maybe they'll call you satan's spawn. and etc..

people usually don't get bullied for their personality unless they act or are mental.

i think he bullies you because... i have no idea

either way, you say 'he always makes fun' so i imagine it's nothing about you currently, but rather something about you when he originally starting making fun of you. it's happened now and i think he probably just enjoys playing with you and your emotions.

i guess... sorry if this is jumbled

[Asker]

Oh ok thanks

[RedJacket]

I don't care, but I'm waiting for you ;)

[Asker]

That doesn't even make sense

[RedJacket]

Why, babe?

[Asker]

Babe your ass

[RedJacket]

Don't be so hysterical

[RedJacket]

I like you and want to be with you

[Asker]

You don't even know me

[Asker]

Why am I even replying

[RedJacket]

But I want to know you. C'mon, baby. I'm the love of your life. You're still replying 'cause you know we need each other.

[Howells]

What the fuck did I just read LOL.
Wtf is wrong with this guy?