so, he's 27 and he told me that when he was in class and one of his classmates said he was a wimp out of nowhere. my boyfriend told him to stop being disrespectful. he didn't stop, he continued to call him other names. my boyfriend then decided to call over another guy who was bigger and asked if he'd call him a wimp... but the guy laughed and the big guy and the bully fist pumped or something.
i don't know.. i kind of got turned off when he told me this. i feel like a horrible person for allowing something like this to affect how i feel about him. it's like a switch literally went off, and i've been feeling like this for a week.
why do i feel this way and how do i get over it? has this happened to anyone else? your partner does something that changes the way you see them?
Most Helpful Guy
Well those guys are immature. Was this in a college course? Some people are just stuck in their high school mentality when they get older which is pretty pathetic. Yeah that's kind of bad you are turned off just because some random dbag called him a wimp. What did you want him to do; beat up the guy and get expelled?1
Most Helpful Girl
He's 27... and he's talking about something that happened back in highschool? If so, it's the past -- long past and a lot of time has gone by for him to likely react differently to situations now as an adult. Just let it go. We've all done stupid things in highschool, and no one should have to carry around the nonsense they either went through or put someone through at young, curious ages. You shouldn't let it bother you so much. He handled a situation in the best way he could back then, and likely now, he'd do something different. Maybe ask him what he would do now if he was faced with bullying again?0